How do I get out of my marriage?

Question

My marrage is a wreak, I love this woman dearly but I feel like Im in way over my head when it comes to marrage. I am tha primary provider for the home and every other aspect. I cook I clean and all after a 12 to 13 hr day. My wife is 20 and Im 21 I have taken responsibility for her and the fact that she hasnt been working but I would expect her to pull her weight. I have tried to have her talk it out with a number of perople but she isnt up fpor it. To make a long story short I am verry unhappy and with her but I am happy with someone else. What do I do?

Answer 1

Be honest and tell her it is over. You don't want to keep this farce of a marriage up and then find out she is pregnant, your better to get it over with as soon as possible. Go slow with the next woman so you will be 100 percent sure this is what you want. She sounds a bit lazy and probably she will cry and all that good stuff, because she doesn't want to make it on her own. Don't give in if your that unhappy. Good Luck in the future.

Answer 2

In the oriental perspective, I do suggest that you should try sincerely to have an ample understanding of your wife. Man is totally different from woman. Maybe you and your wife need an authentic and heart-felt communication. Marriage must be maintained for both of you, especially for your children(if you have any). They are so innocent and weak that they will be badly affected by your possible divorce or something.
If you do all you can to rekindle your romance, your children will surely respect you and lead a decent life.

Even if you go to another woman, you will find a third one when you face some conflict in your relationship. A real love is what you really want. You can begin it not with another woman but with your dear wife. Keep steady with her.

Marriage is a spiritual tie coming from Heaven. You are free to enter it. Once you have got into it, you have no right to divorce. Because marriage is sacred and holy. It is considerate of you to seek to be kind to your wife. She will be very happy if you do love her again.

Answer 3

Well, I don't want to determine your road, but I would highly suggest talking to her seriously. Let her know how you feel and that you want her to help out at least a little. Let her know what her choices are. If she still doesn't make the effort to change the relationship, then it's worth saying you can leave her. A couple should share duties regardless of what it is...always 50/50 (my opinion). But one thing for sure is don't leave her because you found someone else. This is not a good reason to leave your wife, regardless of whatever the other reasons are. You can only leave her when you know for a fact that she is not making any effort to change. You don't want to go down the road where you later regret the path you choose.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like you were fine with the marriage until you found someone else, now you are looking for any excuse to get out of it. Sit down and talk to you wife, tell her she needs to start helping out, either by getting a job or taking care of the house. If you are going to divorce her, do it for a valid reason other than that you have found someone else. The fact that you are "happy" with someone else, tells me that maybe you are already cheating on your wife, in which case, this may be why you are having 12-13 hour days.

Answer 5

What is her problem isn't the wife supposed to be doing everything that you are doing well in my case I do. My husband is a great man he helps me around the house alot but I don't just sit on my a$s and do nothing. I would understand it if she had a job and if she came home from work tired but she doesn't. Leave her if your not happy with her anymore, you both are still very young and have alot of life ahead of you both. Go with the person that makes you happy. Good Luck and God Bless to you and your loved ones... :o)

Answer 6

You are rather young to have married --- sorry about that. Hope you have no children with this woman... and if you don't have any, don't make any!!!!! Sounds like a trap to me.

File for divorce hon, and get out. You probably have little in the way of assets to divide, use a mediating attorney who will represent you both, he fills out the papers, and files, you both sign, and the cost is $75-300, neat and simple..... AND don't get any one pregnant.... lazy women use children to trap men... Don't be a fool. Have no children by anyone until you are in a solid marriage--- and that means a marriage of several years, with a stable women who has a job, and who is your financial equal.... Children are divisive, not bonding -- they can destroy anything.... Be careful, hon, be no woman's fool....... good luck hon

Answer 7

You married her "for better or worse". Sounds to me like you have already found someone else and you are looking for excuses to leave. If you love her dearly like you said, you woudn't turn tail and run so fast. If you are only 21 you couldn't have been married that long. You both have alot of growing up to do. Be a man and fix it.

Answer 8

i am in a similar situation. do not let anyone tell you that it easy to walk away from your marriage. i want to leave my husband and i am happy with my first love. my first love needs me and he wants me to get a divorce. i love my first love. i do not want to hurt my husband feelings so i stay to save him the pain. i can't sleep and i am constantly thinking of my first love. when you walk away. do not look back. try everything in your power to make it work. if not- be happy. let me know how left your marriage because i need to leave mines

Answer 9

i guess she wasn't really ready for marriage, neither were you. Get a divorce because it seems to me that your mind is already made up.

Answer 10

She found herself quite the provider didn't she. Dump her and find true love.