i recently posted that i met a 28 year old and im 17 and he wants to have realtionship with me when i turn 18 were friends now but i do agree on with people told that i should date someone my own age because he has a five year old but today he told me his is starting to fall in love with me. I dont know what to do now can anybody give me advice?
2007-04-11 08:18:44 · 10 answers · asked by airplanes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's 28, you're 17, strike one...has a 5 year old child, strike two....he's "fallling in love" with you (way too deep, way too early) ...strike three! He's out! Now, find you a guy your own age, date and have fun. You don't want to marry a guy 11 years older than you, with a child, and become a "mommy" at your age. Go to school, finish, go to college, and have fun in your teen years. You're WAY too young to settle down!
2007-04-11 08:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well... I don't necessarily see this as being a problem with "age difference", what I see is that you two are in totally different places in your lives. You are 18 years old and should be thinking about being a kid, going to college, dating and having fun, and he is 28 with a child and should be thinking about working, being a dad and providing for his child. You might think that you really like this guy, and he might be "falling in love" with you, but that doesn't change the situation...contrary to what the fairy tales all tell us, love does NOT conquer all. My advice is to tell him exactly what I've written here, that you are in totally different places in your lives and you enjoy his company and maybe when you are 18 you would be interested in DATING him, but that you are not looking for "love" right now. You need some time to grow up, and it looks like he needs to grow up. Enjoy your youth, you'll regret it later if you don't.
2007-04-11 15:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally I wouldn't date a guy under the age of 25 (if I dated guys)
I feel sorry for girls, young men are selfish, self centered, and out-of-touch with themselves ... which makes them incapable of being honest
and some men never grow up, but your chances of finding an honest man go up drasticly around age 25
why? how an I tell?
if a man has accomplished what he set out to do ... is he working towards a goal or dream, and living it (I.E., finished school, became a Dr., lawyer, owns his own buisness, or such) ... if men dont have a direction or a goal they are looking to you to provide them happiness,and they are full of crap losers
in the big scheme of things age means little
its about what works for you ... and it sounds like you still have some questions ... I will say this, there is no reason you cant have what you want in a relationship, but first, you have to know what you want, before you can go and get it ... give yourself every opportunity to figure out what you want before you commit to anyone ... good luck :)
2007-04-11 15:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this man grows attached very fast.. what are your feelings for him? Do not lead him on. You are young and getting involved with him would make you an instant step-mom. Are you ready for that. Take your time. Enjoy life, meet other men. By the way I feel that age is only a number once you are 18... are you planning on going to college...if so let me tell you that will be the most exciting time of your life..be young enjoy life ...never rush anything..
2007-04-11 15:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your whole life ahead of you! If he starting to fall in love with you, and you are not returning the feelings, then I think that you need to get out of it now before things go to far. You are so young and have so many good things ahead of you - just live your life like you are 17.
2007-04-11 15:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of lying?
Man can say many words including "I love you" and not mean them.
You are 17.
He is 28.
He has a 5 year old.
If he is so great why isn't he Will the mother of his child?
What she is a horrible person!
Why would someone choose to be with a horrible person?
Maybe he's not so perfect after all.
2007-04-11 15:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when i was 13 i lost my virginity to a 27 year old man. he then went on to run his mouth and brag about it. years later i learned that he was telling people that i was no good in bed...friggin pedophile!
from there i'd always dated older men. they were smart, mature, knew how to take care of me, didn't say silly stupid things...and they were cool.
when i was 17 i fell in love with a 28 year old man who turned out to have more issues than my grandmother. i was going to marry this man....as he was my entire world. that man committed suicide.
now i'm not saying that your man will do the same, but after my 28 year old b/f died, i realized that i didn't know myself. i'd always done my hair to suit his taste, my clothes were chosen and/or approved by him, his friends became mine, and my friends were no more. according to him, my family was trying to control me and had no love for me, and i foolishly believed him!
it's a mind game. ask yourself, what the hell would a grown, 28 year-old man need with a 17 young lady that a woman his age couldn't provide?
he doesn't love you, he doesn't love himself. your firend has issues....
walk away...trust me, you'll hear these words again as i'm sure you won't walk away.
good luck!
2007-04-11 15:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He want a little young thing on his arm, believe me that is a major age gap especially right now, he will want you to settle down and you will want to party. He will want you to help parent his child and you are still a child. Seriously if you think you can make it last and be willing to somewhat sacrifice your youth then try.
2007-04-11 15:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you agree that you should date someone your own age, the fact that he told you he is falling in love with you is irrelevant. It doesn't change anything from your end. Tell him, "Sorry to hear that -- so sad for you!"
2007-04-11 15:25:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
FIRST OF ALL I "RESPECT" HIM FOR WAITING TILL YOUR 18 YRS OLD BEFORE YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU LOVE HIM, THEN I WOULD SAY GREAT. BUT IF YOU AREN'T IN LOVE SWEETIE, MAYBE YOU SHOULD KEEP IT JUST A FRIENDSHIP. NO ONE CAN MAKE THIS DECISION BUT YOU. WHAT DO YOU FEEL IN YOUR HEART.? FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND BE CAREFUL. IF YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM, THERE ARE MANY BOYS YOUR AGE WITH NO KIDS THAT WOULD MAKE YOU HAPPY. THINK HARD AND REMEMBER ONLY YOU CAN MAKE THIS DECISION. GOOD LUCK SWEETIE
2007-04-11 15:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by kathy p 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋