HeartBroken? Cheater?

Question

im a little confused on what i should do
ive talk to this girl over 3 yrs
she has cheated on me in the past with my cousin (family!@!)
and i caught her online talking to guys
yea im still with her because she suppost to be carrying my kid (which now im thinking 2 times if its really mine)
what should i do ?

consider the fact that ive never cheated on her and been faithfull 10000%

Answer 1

Where have you been all of my life? No, honestly I feel bad, you sound like a great guy, and there are few of those now. I think you should just let her go. It sounds like she just keeps you around out of sympathy or to do you a favor. You don't need to live your life that way. I am pretty sure you want someone to love you back in the same way and be just as faithful. Unfortunately I don't think she is the one that meets these qualifications. Hit me up! (Just kidding) Good luck
P.S- I wuld like to know what you decide on, or what happens to both of ya'll.

Answer 2

Maybe its time to really evaluate this relationship. If she cheated in the past, did she not promise never to do that again. And you believed her. Now, there are doubts about , on line guys. Is this something you really want to keep doing. Even if it is your child, What kind of life can both of you give to it, without always looking over your shoulder and wondering. You can start a new life, and still support your child, get visiting rights, and make sure when the baby is born that a DNA is done, to ensure you are the father. Its time to make a decision, life is short .

Answer 3

Do, you think that you are not worth, anything when you let this woman walk all over you? When she cheated on you with your Cousin, is when you should have shown her the door, what makes you stay with her, if she is a cheater, and also, as you say that you do not know if the Baby she is carrying is yours. Make sure that when that Baby is born have a paternity, test to make sure the Baby is yours.Run, not walk from her, if you value yourself, because you will never be happy and she will never change her ways, does she Loves, you? I think not, she thinks that she found herself a scapegoat that will do her bidding. Good luck, and I hope that you will be able to go on with your life and forget she ever existed.

Answer 4

I'm sorry for you, but if she has cheated in the past, she is probably still cheating, and I would definitely have a paternity test as soon as the child is born. She don't have a problem with it seeing how you stayed with her after you knew about it, so she is going to keep doing it. Don't let her trap you with the child, you can never trust her, so don't think the child will make it all better, because it wont. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

I Think U Know What You Should Do And If You Don't Then You Deserve Whats Coming... Sorry But Truthfully Get Rid Of The B*tch And When That Baby Is Born Get A DNA Test Stat !

Answer 6

This is really up to you but, do you think she could change? If not get out you don't deserve the abuse. Have the child tested to see if it is yours. Or if you think she could change try couseling together or something and make it work. It's all up to you weather you think she is worth it or not. People make mistakes that is ok but do they learn from them or not is what makes you question them. Good luck with this, I hate to hear stuff like this, I know how it feels and it can make you feel like you are a piece of **** and you are just not good enough. I really hope that you know better then this, and realize she is the one with the problem not you. Oh and by the way you say you have talked to this girl for over 3 years, maybe you two have never commited to each other and she don't think you are boyfriend and girlfriend and feels free to do who she wants. Otherwise wouldn't you say dated or have been seeing something like that? Talk sounds like you had a friend with benefits to me, not a relationship.

Answer 7

Just because she is supposedly carring your child is not a reason to stay with her. When the baby is born find out for sure and play your role as the father. Do not be with her for the wrong reasons because it will not last and only get worse with time. She has cheated on you and with family at that. This girl has no respect for you and as long as you are with her you are basically telling her...yeah its ok to cheat on me because I'm not going to leave you. Don't let her use you and use the baby as an excuse to stay with her. You can play your part as a father and not deal with the abuse from her.

Answer 8

It is going to be hard, but you need to leave her. Once the child is born, go to the Child Support Recovery office in your area and file a case. Explain you need to have a paternity test and they will pay for it. Tell them clearly that if you are indeed the father that you want custody on the grounds that she is unstable and you do not feel that she would do what is best for the child.

My little brother is going through a similar situation right now. He is waiting on the paternity test to come back.

Answer 9

If you have been going with this girl for over 3 years, you are not still with her because 'she's supposed to be carrying my kid' (there is a DNA test for determining whether the child is yours so you should have that done...)
You had to be staying with her through all of the cheating that you report she has done.
There had to be a reason for you to stay through all of that and now - now, that she says she is carrying your baby - now is the time you choose to make a decision to leave her?
Come on, now. That's a long time. You aren't married. It took two people with working brains who know about contraception to make this baby.
I'd say, realize what it is that made you stay and work hard at using that reason to marry this girl and support your wife and kid now that you have a family. You are afraid of the family role you are going to have now, I'm guessing. It's called 'shouldering the responsibility' for one of the most basic units of society.
'But I never wanted anything like this with her!', you may complain. After 3 years, it's too late now to state what you never wanted with her.
Living together? Playing house? Care about the child you are bringing into the world? Get straight, marry the girl, be a good dad, do good things. Sheesh, what a time to get cold feet.

Answer 10

Do not under any circumstances remain with her for the kids sake... The kid is better off growing up when their parents are apart rather then together and fighting all the time and living with lies. Get a new girl and a paternity test ASAP after the kid is born.