i dont wanna go to my daddies in the summer,he has not been in my life much and from what i have in memory of him he was soo mean to us and my mommie,i have a step dad i love alot and i really dont want to have anything to do with my birth dad,but i dont want mommie to get in trouble if i dont go to arizona .my mom filed the divorce not him,we live in teaxas,he is getting married in may to someone i dont know and she practices wiccan i dont wanna be around that,i love god and my real daddy cusses him all the time,can someone help me,i dont want mommie to get in trouble for something i want and not her
2007-04-11 08:45:55 · 17 answers · asked by TAM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
children shouldn't be made to go somewhere they are not comfortable. let your mom know how you feel and to ease things better your das needs to spend time with you near your familiar surroundings before asking for you to be that far away from your mom you need to get to know his new wife but not pushed into it good luck sweetie
2007-04-11 08:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Malibu Kitkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask your mom to hire someone to represent you and your rights. You could go before a judge or an advocate and let them know how you feel and why you feel that way. No child should have to be placed in a situation where she does not feel happy or safe. If your mom can't hire someone to represent you, call child welfare, or whatever it is called in your area, and explain to them what is going on and why you dread going to be with your dad and don't forget to mention about the woman practicing wicca. There is no reason you should have to be exposed to something like that. Good luck, Sugar, and God bless.
2007-04-11 15:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first off if you feel that strongly about look to seek a lawyer... In some states age 12, like here in AR, are allowed to seek whom they want to see live with and things like that... So you may want to seek legal counsel because if you don't go to your dad's yes she can get into trouble... but if there is a strong case of your feelings I don't see why a judge would want to pressure you... But beware that what you do now could also haunt you for the rest of your life, if you completely shut your dad out...
2007-04-11 15:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by De 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot in this world that is not as it seems. You will gain understanding as you mature and realize what events in your life were helpful and which events were hurtful. I'm sure that there is a lot that you will learn from your father that will make you a stronger person regardless of his past. You are resolved to retain your religion and should not fear your father's gf's religion. You are a part of your dad's life and that is important to him. Your mother loved him for a reason, perhaps you will be able to understand why.
2007-04-11 16:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Wes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your mom and step dad and tell them how you are feeling - if your bio dad is a bad guy like you make him sound then tell them to talk to a lawyer or the courts or someone about having his cutody taken away or you could even try to get him to sign away his parental rights and then your step dad could adopt you.
Good Luck!
Keep talking to God - he will always be with you! No matter what he will be there for you!
2007-04-11 15:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by cool chic 2no 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 12, hon, you don't have to go anywhere!!!! No judge would force you to..... smile... isn't it nice to almost be an adult??? If you and you mom are in doubt, ask her to consult an attorney. Then send him a wedding card.
And no, hon, if he was a rat then, and he's a rat now, and you want nothing to do with him, he'll still be the rat when you are 20. I have a brother who was a rat at age 6. (believe it!!!) At 55 he is still a rat, and I want nothing to do with him.....
"Congratulations on your up and coming marriage. I have already long ago made other plans, so I cannot be there, but all the best.
'your name'
When you are much much older, and you wish (maybe) to seek him out, do so. Unfortunately, we don't get to pick our relatives, but we can avoid them......
Good luck, sweetie.
2007-04-11 15:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like their custody agreement allows him to have you for the summer. You're 12, almost, so you might not understand this, but you shouldn't judge a book by its cover, including people, and including your birth father! Go to Arizona this summer, meet your father, and if things are truly as bad as you say they are, just call your mother if you want to talk.
2007-04-11 15:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by kac.2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom how you really feel about him. If your mom really cares about you and your feelings she wont MAKE YOU go. But girl let me tell you something. You will have a hard enough time in your life a head with all the crap you have already dealt with. I was in the same position. But if you keep on letting it happen it will get worse and it will be worse in years to come. trust me.
2007-04-11 15:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I change my answer, this is the mother trying to solicit advice on how to break the law by refusing to let the father visit his daughter. Not a good situation. Let the child decide who she loves, she may surprise you when she tells you that she loves BOTH of you.
2007-04-11 15:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by YouWishYouWereMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom and your dad. i would try to tell you dad that you want to stay with your mom this summer and you want his blessing with that. parents listen to their kids more than you think. i would start off there and see if that works. good luck honey-i hope that they understand.
2007-04-11 15:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by buzyb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋