2007-04-11 08:50:28 · 13 answers · asked by tic22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you really that selfish? Are you willing to hurt your husband by divorcing him just because you decided that you do not want to be married?
What is the real reason that you do not want your marriage? Why did you get married? There is a chance that the reason you want to be single is that your marriage is not exciting or interesting. You did not say that you do not love your husband.
You should consider your reasons and work with your husband to fill the void in your life. If after a serious effort to make your married life more exciting and more enjoyable you still are not happy, then ask your husband for a divorce.
Take care,
Troy
2007-04-11 09:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More details would help, but very likely you need some major changes in your marriage. First, think about what your expectations were when you got married, and what has changed. Then decide what part of yourself is looking to be alone and why. Do you need some time to develop yourself personally? Are you female? Do you have kids? Are you male and looking to get your independence back? Are you in a difficult marriage and would prefer to just "cut out?"
Marriage isn't about comfort, it's about growth. Find what is wrong and fix it.
2007-04-11 08:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 5 in CA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! so many divorce advocates! why did you get married in the first place? maybe you're just looking for spark..something new perhaps?
find a new hair-do, get some new clothes, take yourself out, treat yourself...SHOW that your interest is in YOU and not others.
i felt the same way you do for quite a while, but when i paid more attention to myself, and less of what I was feeling about what was going on around me, things changed drastically.
Good luck!
2007-04-11 09:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the key, you are not sure of yourself- so don't. Imagine him with another girl, kissing, playing with her kids, holding hands...Does that bother you? If yes- you are not ready to divorce.
You need to find things of interest to you, or to you both, and seek counseling.
Everyone has dry spells in a relationship. Just be patient, seek God and ask for his help. Unless you are being abused, neglected or cheated on...try understanding yourself and him. Communicate- if he knows what you are contemplating, he might want to work harder.
2007-04-11 09:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by northville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think. If you really want to be by yourself or not. Me and my husband fight like cats and dogs, but at times i feel like i want to get up and leave and never look back. But then other times i love him and think i cant live without him. You have to make up your mind, and ask yourself if thats what you really want. Don't make a mistake, cause sometimes there's no looking back. :( I wish you luck.
2007-04-11 09:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our D I V O R C E became final today. That's all there is to it. Hire a lawyer, file for divorce and be on your merry way. Good luck to you!
2007-04-11 08:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat! Prepare yourself, get a new career going, try to provide finances for yourself first.
2007-04-11 08:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and move on by yourself.
2007-04-11 09:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
50 % of all marriages fail it is up to you and your husband to decide which side you want to take.
2007-04-11 08:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce.
2007-04-11 08:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋