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Question

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my wife says that she can barly feel me when i get in there, what do i do?

Answer 1

tell her to learn Kegels and do them religiously. Trust me.

in the meantime. while she's working on that, have sex from behind while lying on the side. The penetration from the rear (not anal) with the legs closed allows much more tissue contact. She'll feel you that way unless she has nerve damage.

Answer 2

Cheers to you for posting this question. While there are a lot of sex guides and online resources, your reason for asking here is for real world experience. Here is mine:

First, you should know that there are two basic types of orgasms for a women depending on where they originate. -deep inside the vagina or outside in the clitoris.

A lot of woman can not achieve an orgasm through penetration alone and they normally require external clitoral stimulation in order to achieve any type of orgasm.

While it is easier to attain an orgasm by stimulating the clitoris only, the orgasm it produces is more superficial and tingly, not really deep and as body-rocking as the vaginal type. So it would be nice to learn how to do both at the same time.

OK that was the overview

While penetrating, it makes the vagina feel more full, this is a good start, but it is difficult for the penis to provide adaquate stimulation to the clitoris at the same time.

To correct this, use your fingers to play with it, or better yet, have her do it...it will be a turn on if she doesn't stimulate herself and honestly, a woman can do that part better. You can also participate

The other more advanced technique is to ride really high on her so your head is above hers. This should allow the penis to rub the clitoris while entering the vagina. Tilting her pelvis by raising her bum with a pillow will reduce the angle and allow the penis to enter more easily. You can also do this missionary position and have her cross her legs closed a little, this will increase the friction a little -play with it.

Another way is from behind -this allows for really deep penetration and puts an emphasis on the need to stimulate the clitoris. Again, use fingers to do this -yours or hers.


Don't try penetrating really hard at first. Warm her up by stimulating the clitoris. I strongly recommend that you learn oral if you don't already do it. It is much easier for her to have an orgasm with penetration if you start by first stimulating the clitoris.

It's true -technique is more important then size. Keep experimenting with it.

Answer 3

Theres a number of things that can be done here i had the same problem with my fiance. I put a pillow under my butt and it gets it in deeper also rear entry is good for those who like deep penetration so would work well in your case.
I also did pelvic floor exercises to tighten up the muscles
www.pelvicfloorexercise.com.au

If all these fail go to an adult store or shop online to save embarrassment and buy a penis extention, I'm pretty sure you can get them in 4" and 5". Good luck with it all, hope you find something that works for you both

Answer 4

Get her a sex toy and use it with her and see if that makes any difference. Yes, I'm serious.
It might not be that she can barely feel YOU - it's just that she can barely feel anything in there.
Has she had surgery? Any reason for nerves to be damaged? Are your physiologies a contributing factor?
It sucks, but it doesn't mean you're a bad lover or that it's your fault.

Answer 5

The kegal exercises are a great suggestion, both for you and your wife. In the mean time though you can try different positions and the pillow under her rear is a good tip too. Also moving your hips from side to side and entering at more of an angle might increase her sensations.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Hi...I am 45 years old married with 2 boys, so I think I should be able to help.Feeling is in the head, don't get excited...just relax do romantic things and than do it and believe me you will overcome this after sometime...the most impt thing is the atmosphere...dirty talk, a rose, a surpurise and etc....hope it helps my man.
Applaud you for posting this question, as you have taken the first step in solving the problem.

Answer 7

Kegels don't always work but there are some creams that tighten temporarily. Also there is a laser treatment that can tighten things down there. If she has had kids sometimes there is less sensation or things aren't as snug as they were before, it shouldn't interfer with sex but if it does you both would feel it not just her.

Answer 8

Stop worrying about it and learn how to pleasure her in other ways. The biggest sex organ lies between the ears and not between the legs.

Plus, if you learn how to bring her to orgasm using fingers, tongue or toys then she is not going to be worried about what you feel like inside, especially if she has already orgasmed one or more times.

Also the problem may not be one of size but of excessive lubrication, so trying different positions can help. Try having her (or you) stimulate her clitoris while you are inside her. As her arousal increases her vagina will contract slightly and the fit will be as good as its going to get.

Answer 9

It could be that you're too small, or she's much bigger inside, or she's too wet. You and she may need to use other measures to get her off: a dildo, a hand, etc. Don't take it personally, this happens with lots of women.

Answer 10

Apparently if your bladder is full then your penis is harder,that may help.or perhaps stimulate her with your fingers first,so shell have the satisfaction of feeling full inside her.having said that a dr.can help if there is any.there are ways to bo a great lover without penetration.