My husband got upset at me for just "looking at my ex-boyfriends myspace page." I thought that it wasn't a biggy considering that I'm married." He feels as though I should careless and makes the comment that "I have still have something for him" which I don't have anything for him because he cause a lot of stress in my life. I was just looking as I do with other pages. I broke up with my ex b/f at the end of 2003!
2007-04-11 19:23:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am completely over him and I have nothing to hide from my husband!
2007-04-11 19:29:58 · update #1
I was told that he was opening up a business well I was just curious to see if had did it. When I was surfing some pages, I thought I pull his up to see if he had opened a business by looking at his occupation and he did. I asked my husband for the website to see his business went through, he told me and asked what I was looking and I told him.
2007-04-11 19:41:29 · update #2
I have already apologized to him for looking at his page and I told him that he doesn't have to worry abt me looking again. I got no response, except, "don't be saying that because thats what you think i want to here."
2007-04-11 19:43:35 · update #3
He sounds really really jealous. Tell him to get over it.
2007-04-11 19:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jeremy Medlock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your husband may be smarter then you think if this guy means nothing to you then why spend the time looking up his myspace account?
Really you are married now and no other men should be involved especially from your past and an ex BF at that.
Grow-up and realize that your a taken women and you are disrespecting the man that loves you when you do crap like this!
He is not being jealous or controlling you just hurt his feelings that is all. He deserves a serious apology from you and a honest word that you will never do it again!
2007-04-11 19:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curiousity is normal, if whomever is doing the looking isn't bringing it up then who cares. It is normal to wonder about the past, it is healthy to talk about it. I have a pretty haunting past when it comes to exes. I am friends with a lot of mine. My husband is fine with it and looks at it in a very mature way. He even says that if they have feelings for me still that it is ok, just as long as they control those feelings. This is a healthy way of dealing with it. Getting upset and making a big deal out of it would just cause problems and make the other feel untrusted. If your man is looking at your exes pages, let him look... now if he starts sending messages or picking fights, he has crossed the line.
2007-04-11 19:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by SpoiledBrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would be irritated. It seems like if you had moved on, then you would show no interest in your ex's life, and not have anything to do with him.
would you feel the same way if your husband was hanging out on his ex's myspace page, and if he was, why do you think he would do that,? what would he be looking for?
you have the right to your own privacy and choices, and friends. However, you need to be honest with yourself ,and respect your husbands feelings as well as your own. Checking out your ex's page or keeping in touch with him on myspace, is just a bad idea
2007-04-11 19:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by suqbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I don't think it's a big deal and he needs to get over his insecurity.... you could have a man naked in hotel room wanting you.... but if you don't jump on him I don't think there is anything wrong with that..... I've had that happen.. (only with a woman) that I met at a conference. We went back to her hotel room and she was naked by the time I went in the bathroom to take a leak.... I said I was flattered and said I had to go.....
Just because that happened doesn't make me a cheater.... I just got out of the bad situation.
Just looking at somebodys myspace page or something like that isn't a big deal... my wife freaked out when I signed up for myspace but once she saw it and noticed what it was going to be used for, she was better.
To answer it (short and sweet) (and you can show him this)
GET OVER IT.... she's not doing anything wrong....
2007-04-11 19:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chemistry is just that. Chemistry. If it's not there, or if it's not right, it won't ever be. Stay friends with him and look for someone else who knocks you socks off! Don't marry someone just because you are good friends... you should truly love each other. Slow down, try patience... it works. The right guy will come along... but remember, it will happen in God's timing, not yours. So don't rush it. Relax and stay single for now!
2016-05-18 00:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres always going to be curiosity to see what theyre doing if theyre still around. that doesnt mean you want to be with that person. You married your husband and not your ex. most men are jealous and I don understand that because your ex, is your ex for a reason..... but if its going to cause a conflict I would suggest just not to that again. Good luck, I hope everything works out for the best
2007-04-11 19:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how your hubby feels becuz i have the same problem with my hubby, only he talks to them and it makes me very upset. You really need to open your eyes and see what you have in front of you or you may loose it very quickly. i hate myspace because i truly feel that it does end most marriages and my marriage is about to end becuz of it... Hes getting mad becuz you guys are married and he thinks your over your old flame...or you can talk to ur hubby about it but its about trust.
2007-04-11 19:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's stupid because he made a big deal out of it when he shouldn't have.
You can still care for your ex-boyfriend without having feelings for him.
2007-04-11 19:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by LIVE FREE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like u not over the ex to me
2007-04-11 19:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋