Knew a girl from the web and chat alot. Not long after, found both fall for each other. Decide to meet up and that night, we were together. Since then, she became my girlfriend. We went out at least 3-4 time per week, and spent our precious time together. I did not knew she was married till one day about 2 weeks ago. We were out and saw one of her friends. She was also a friend of mine too. That particular evening, after sent her home. This friend called me and told me about it. That the girl I was with is married and even have a kid. I was shocked to hear that... After much confront from her, she finally admit it. But too late, we have been commiting adultery. And worst still, I have fall for her deeply.. She did told me she love me too. And love the time when we are together. But she still can't let her husband and kid go. Since then, we seldom contact anymore. But still misses her. Am I stupid of doing that...?
2007-04-11 21:02:37 · 20 answers · asked by porridge0000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not stupid at all to still have feelings for her, you're obviously in there for nothing and it only shows you're not
superficial.
I wish you all the courage you can get, because it takes time until the grief let's go. Be gentle with yourself, because all you can do, is wait til it's over.
But I promise, no matter how long it take, the hurt will go.
2007-04-11 21:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lucas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not stupid for missing her but your highly mistaken if you really think that she gives two red cents about how you feel. She thinks shes a" player", The jokes on her cause deception, lies, and secrets are nothing but destructive behavior and qualities that no decent man is looking for in a woman. Thank GOD you found out and should feel sorry for her husband and child. Be glad you wont be the one standing beside her when her infidelity is discovered by her significant other much less her family and friends. Stay off the chat line if your looking for real love. The eyes are the windows of the soul dahling. Words are cheap, actions are real.
2007-04-12 04:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by bstrazzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extremely, but it wasnt all your fault though. She misled you into the affair by not telling you the trth and you really had no way of telling. She used you for her gain so by continuously lying to you she kept you in her web of deception. Sure she loved the times she had with you because she got what she wanted without the committment, which is the opposite of what she has at home. Theres not much you can do now but chalk it up to experience and move on. Theres no use in waiting for her as if she truly loved you and wanted to be with you, she would have told you the truth and divorced her husband. Some of lifes best learned lessons are also the hardest.
2007-04-12 05:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree that stupid is the right word to use. Well, if she decide to cheat on her husband in the first place and also didn't tell you, she is cheating both of you. I always believe that time is the best medicine to heal this. As time goes by I believe you can find a better girl than this lady. Just learn and forget about her
2007-04-12 05:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not stupid for missing her. You formed a bond with her and it will be difficult to get over that. However, would you really want to be with someone you KNOW is a cheater, even if she were to leave her husband? Chances are she would end up cheating on you, honestly. You are better off not having anymore contact with her. Move on and find a person who is available or just take a break for awhile.
2007-04-12 04:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by submental25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What if you are in the position of her husband and found out that your wife is putting sh_t on your head? What would you feel? Let her go, it's not yet too late. Find your own girl. You've lost nothing. Dont let the situation go worst. You are stupid if you stick with your feelings.
2007-04-12 04:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by dale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She lied to you repeatedly about something VERY important. how much "love" is really there?
Don't contact her, it will just make things worse. She duped you (I'm really sorry) and you need to deal with it somehow and move on. She didnt' really love you. If she had, she wouldn't have hidden something so important. I can't imagine pretending I don't have children around anyone, much less someone think I care about. If she wouldn't even admit to having a child, how truthful a person can she possibly be? She used you to feel good about herself and that's all. All the poetic words in the world aren't going to change that fact.
I'm very sorry.
2007-04-12 04:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid for missing her? No, you can't help the way you feel. You shared a lot of time with that person. You can't help how your mind or body may feel. You should just try to get over her as soon as possible. Do not go back down that path with her. Because what she's doing to her husband she'll do to you.
2007-04-12 04:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not making lite of your situation It was so wrong what she did but women have been going through this forever.Married men go after women and forget to mention the fact that they are married.She played with your feelings knowing all along she never had any intentions of leaving her husband.Just a bored housewife out to have a little fun.I no you think other wise but actions speak louder then words.
2007-04-12 05:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assume you meet a girl on line with a kid she at one point may have been in a relationship.And if you didn't ask about her living arrangement,or visitation arrangement with her child and the father.Or if you didn't pick up how unhappy she must have been in her current situation,then yes you are stupid.
2007-04-12 04:14:48 · answer #10 · answered by dylanwtf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋