I'm kind of a free spirit and love my freedom. I'm 26 and I don't see what all the hype concerning marriage is all about. I guess it's ok if that's what you want. Half of marriages end in divorce anyway these days. Am I nuts for not wanting to get married someday?
2007-04-11 21:56:51 · 15 answers · asked by Jdog1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you've got it figured out. Whatever works for you, man.
2007-04-11 21:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your issue is with marriage.
We've been married 36 yrs., and I can assure you that once you've built the foundation for a good relationship, marriage is but a minor detail.
What I'm saying is, you find someone you think you like; they're attractive, funny, you have some things in common.
What you need to do at that point, after a few good times, some sex maybe, is to get to know one another in depth; discuss all the issues that are important to you - sex, children, money, careers, religion, politics, philosophies.
If you take the time to get to know someone first, there's much less chance that the relationship will fail, whether you're married or not.
But you describe yourself as a "free spirit." Does that mean that you don't want relationships with any depth? Do you just want the freedom to come and go as you please and have sex with multiple partners?
If that's what you want, then no, do not consider marriage.
But, if you want a reliable life partner, a real team mate who will stand by you through the dark times.....
2007-04-12 00:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are five benefits of being married (there are more I am sure):
1. You'll find out who YOU really are when you are with someone 24/7.
2. You'll have the opportunity to go "against the flow" in today's society--be a rebel!!
3. You can be a part of something that will last until you die (if you choose to make it work).
4. There are tax benefits for married couples.
5. You'll grow in ways that you never could if you weren't married.
You are not nuts for not wanting to marry; but maybe these benefits will help you see another side to marriage then what you are used to seeing.
2007-04-11 22:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always two side of the coins. And this is very individual and also it depends on one's character and personality as well.
If you think that you can leave alone by yourself through old age without any loved one beside you by all means. This is most probably the best choice... but neccessarily the happiest choice. However you are the ONLY ones that matters and NO one else beside you, for good or for worse.
If you would like to be happy and have the loved ones than get married.. and again this most probably would be the best choice...but not neccesrily the happiest one too...In order to go thos route, you need to make sacrifices and you are not thinking about yourself anymore. In this equation YOU don't matter. the FAMILY matters.
Hope this give you some insight....either way is still fine....
IT IS YOUR LIFE.....
2007-04-11 22:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Less freedom, but more security. More structure I guess.
I'm engaged. I've dated lots of women and enjoyed being single, but you have to take into consideration the person you're thinking about getting married to or just spending your life with. A lot of marriages do end in divorce but you have to know each other and what your values are.
Plus, there are tax benefits to being married as well.
2007-04-11 22:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not nuts! Believe me, it is easier to walk away from a situation if you are living together or whatever than it is when you are married. Divorce is an ugly hassle. I think you are smart. And, there is always the chance that someone will come along to change your mind. I would just wait and see what happens.
2007-04-11 22:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Hippie C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is obviously not for everyone. But you can't say that you'll always feel the same way. And not all marriages fail. It is something that you have to work at sometimes. But there are many benefits to marriage, one being that you'll have a friend at all times.
2007-04-11 22:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by dimkaluv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to get married, don't. However, make sure you don't lead anyone on, and you don't bring any children into the world.
I've known more than one man like you, and yet when they couldn't get me to want to spend my life with them, suddenly they wanted the house with the white picket fence, the 2.7 children and the mini-van.
Just be careful what you ask for. You may find in 20 years that you have lots of regrets.
2007-04-11 23:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not nuts. You are just like me.... :D I also think just being in a relationship is good enough, hey alot of people are going commonlaw instead of getting a piece of paper and yrs down the road worrying about what will happen when your getting a divorce and who will get what and so on, its crazy.
2007-04-11 22:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by *Amber* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married people live longer.They have somebody to talk to.But it takes work to resolve differences.The older I got the more lonely I was until marriage at 25.Most people are too lazy to work on the relationship and give up.
2007-04-11 22:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by gary s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE ARE LOTSS OF BENIFIS YOU ALWAYS HAVE SOME ONE TO KISS GOOD MMORNING AND HOLD AND KISS RAISE A FLY WITH TAKE CARE OF YOU AND MAKE YOU FILL SPECIAL BUT ITS GOT TO BE LOVE LOVE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENTS EVEN WITH ALL THE BENIFITS LOVE IS WHAY YOU MARRY LOVE IS WHY YOU ADORE EACH OTHER AND LOVE IS WHAY YOU STAY WITH SOMEONE FOR LIFE UNTIL YOU HAVE THT KINND OF LOVE YOU NEED TO STAY SINGLE
IVE BEEN BLESSED BEEN MARRIED AND MADLY IN LOVE WITH THE SAME MAN FOR OVER 29YRS WE STILL HAVE A GREAT LOVE LIFE AND A WONDERFUL FRIENDSHIP AND THAT GIVE US BOTH JOY AND A PEACE OF MIND
2007-04-11 22:03:24 · answer #11 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋