My husband has been talking to other girls behind my back and has left me with a 7month old and i am also 5 weeks pregnant... I really want to get back, or make sure that he doesn't take my kids away.
The girl he was talking to didn't even know about me until i found her number and talked to her, we 3 wayed him and he was asmitting to her the "drama that was going on"
I had callled the police because he smacked me in the face.
2007-04-11 22:32:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the best revenge is to continue living your life and prosper. For some reason, men can't stand when their exes move on. If you treat him like a "thing of the past" then he would not know what to do with himself.
2007-04-11 22:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by intelligentprettyquiet 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge you can get on him is to become a Christian and Pray for him.
If he did hit you file a report (back yourself up with paper work) that way if he does try to take your kids you can prove he could be a danger to them.
Word of advice from an ex-cop: DON'T go in yelling that you want him arrested and start saying he did this 2 years ago he did that a year ago.
THE REASON?
It will be you that comes off looking like the problem, like you are just a jealous spouse that has been hurt.
If it has not been more than a week or so since he hit you, take out a restraining order on him:
NO a restraining order really does not help you (if) he wants to hurt you.
BUT it does give you a trail of paper work if he does try to take the kids.
Keep your cool...talk to the "Police Chaplin" about it, this too leaves a trail of paper work.
I just saw where you said you called the police because he hit you...
Get a copy of the report (it is your right to have a copy, you will probably have to pay a little but it is worth it)
If there was no report taken try to get the officers name that you talked to, contact him or her and ask for their badge number but make sure you let them know you are not complaining about them, you only want it for your records.
I pray this may help a little at least...
2007-04-12 06:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Rev R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and annihilate him in court! He can't take your kids, are you kidding? Especially since you called the police for domestic abuse. He doesn't care about you or the kids if he is acting this way and you are better to get out now then to wait. There are many programs out there made to help young single mothers, find out about them so you can leave without fear of how you will support yourself.
2007-04-12 06:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness. That's the best way. Bible verse:
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Revenge takes away so much energy, love, peace and may possibly take away your life too but Forgiveness on the other hand gives strength, peace, dignity, respect and you name the rest. Even if you don't care anymore about your life, please, consider the children and do nothing stupid. Set a good example for them even for the unborn little one. I feel the pain with you.
All the best!
2007-04-12 06:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Revenge is easy, sleep with someone close to him. However I want to make sure you know kids are not a weapon in the war. That always hurts the kids. I would let this creep go. As long as you are a good mother who loves and takes care of your children no one will take them away. Good luck
2007-04-12 05:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pursue the assault through police and court system.
Get a good lawyer to represent you in the divorce / custody / child support struggles that are ahead of you.
Get an abortion. It's still early enough, and trust me, you'll have your hands full with one child under the age of one.
2007-04-12 05:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you heard the song "oops!" by blu cantrell?? now that's the best revenge on a cheater!!
seriously.. you deserve way better.. i'd never be able to trust again after being cheated on.. i know it's hard because y'all have kids together, but you definitely need to get out of that toxic relationship.. you seem to be the more responsible one, so he probably wouldn't be able to get full custody of your kids..
i wouldn't focus so much on revenge.. i'd rather focus on leaving his @ss and making a new and better life for myself!!
but if he has a nice car or a lot of money, make sure you get at least half with some spousal support too!! make him pay woman!!
2007-04-12 05:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by idgaf 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, he cannot take your daughter from you as the courts will award custody to you. Unless you can totally forgive and forget this, this relationship wont last due to mistrust. Sue him for divorce on grounds of adultery and everything you are legally entitled to and then move on. He ll have to live forever with the memory of what he had and lost due to his stupidity
2007-04-12 05:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is highly overrated. All it means is that you're letting this person who screwed you over still be more important to you than they should be.
You have a child and one on the way. You need to take care of yourself and your kids, and kick him to the curb.
The best revenge I had on my ex- was to live my life without him and be happy. It drove him nuts, and 20+ years later still does.
2007-04-12 05:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Kaia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try get professionnal help, it's my best advice.
Even though you can have him back, you get no guarantee he won't cheat at you again. And more importantly, I can't accept a man smacking a pregnant woman. Whatever cause. But it's your call.
2007-04-12 06:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Une Voix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋