I wanted to know what did my husband told her prosti mistress why did he betrayed me, moreover I wanted to know the real score between my husband and his mistress, do I really have to do this?
2007-04-11 23:06:49 · 15 answers · asked by jazz d way b4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess he liked her more than you. No need to hate her or him for that matter. Life goes on. Even though you were married, you can't own another person. If they don't love you, you can't make them love you no matter what you do. Just move on and learn from the experience.
2007-04-11 23:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get the meaning of your question.
To treat your husbands mistress as a friend is a little strange. For you to do so and if they know that you know about the affair makes it a little more strange. It shows that you not only know about it but approve of it happening.
If you really want to know the standing between then and the standing between you and your hubby...the best thing to do is ask your husband.
Your husband most likely will feed you a line of BS...he's cheating on you and he will lie to make himself look like the good guy.
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
I read your other questions pertaining to this and I think of only two things.
One, you love him and want to stay with him but you're hurt that he is "stepping out" and you want to know why. Totally understandable.
Two, you approve of this which I don't think is true.
If it was a one time thing then it ould be easier to forgive than a on going relationship. I personaly would be upset with either, we all make mistakes but for a on going thing, I would find it very difficult to get over it.
Something has been lost in your marriage and it's up to you to find out what if you want to stay together. If it has hurt you deeply enough then I would go to the next level of seperation or divorce. To try to be friends with her is not the way to go. You can't blame her...blame your husband. He is the one that allowed this to happen.
Honestly ask yourself is it a sexual thing or he is looking for other companionship? I'm sure there is more to the story and with limited space to be able to ask...you can email me and I will go into further details.
Whatever it may be....best of luck.
2007-04-15 06:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should simply suggest that the mistress move in with you and hubby, make it a 3 some, bet the kids would enjoy having two mom's. You seem to be a glutton for punishment!!!
2007-04-12 07:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by gamerunner2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why put yourself thru this. He was a weak minded person who didn't care about you. That's all you need to know. Hearing all the details will just hurt you more. Why lower yourself to this. Keep your self respect and dignity and move on without him. Get someone who will respect and deserve you. Good Luck
2007-04-12 07:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first tell me did you accept this situation i mean you accept her in your life?
acadamically i agree with the idea one should always try to find out whats wrong with one but
at the same time i would suggest you to go for some affair and let your hubby analyse find out the REAL SCORE between you and your lover
i do not understand why women submit to mens wishes so easily
2007-04-12 06:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit losing sleep over this loser. Move on to better things. He lost the best thing that he will probably have--a woman that really loves him.
Get out there and start looking great. Date guys, and be sure to go to the places that you two used to go to, so that he can see what he lost. When he calls you back, tell him "No thanks, you had your chance!!"
2007-04-12 06:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just go there, slap her, fight with her, put her on the ground, and pray from god not to go to prison myself. Because it may even be death the way i'd know my husband has a mistress.
who the hell she thinks she is in my husbadn's life?
i would never want to be the second choice.! fight for your rights to get what you want, or else no one will ever understand your own emotions. Strong girl, strong!
2007-04-12 06:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Spark S 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
u want to reach the roots and know the truth.
everything is fair in love and war.
2007-04-12 07:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i wouldn't coz it might bring things into your head that you dont wont dump him and move on oh and if hes done this once he will do it again dont forgive just forget
2007-04-12 06:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean pretend to be her friend to get the goss? Sure, go ahead.
2007-04-12 06:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋