recently my friend has told me that she is having problems getting along with her husband. they've been married for years and have children together and now they cant seem to agree on anything. they used to be so good together but now they dont even talk hardly. i dont know what else to say ive been friends with her for a while and i dont like to see her family stressing like this. what can I sy or do to heelp. she comes to me with questions alot and i dont have any good answers.
please hep!!!!
2007-04-11 20:43:55 · 8 answers · asked by Amber 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She may not come to you for answers, just to vent.
I know that being married and having children usually leaves very little time for the parents to remember that they actually like each other.
Maybe the next time she complains about trouble at home you could offer to babysit while she goes on a date with her husband.
People with kids forget that they need to spend time alone nurturing their relationship. It's so easy to get caught up in kids, bills, jobs and chores.
2007-04-11 20:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mom23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it is common for the marriage to "cool down". Try putting some spark into it by surprising him sexually, on occasion. Get a sitter for the kids, and make an interesting night out of it. Also, she needs to ask him to talk for the sake of the marriage. Communication is the key to keeping a marriage together. If that does not work, tell her that she will probably need marriage counseling.
2007-04-12 03:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In many of my relationships one simple question helped me. That is, "If this is the way it would be for the rest of your life, would you be happy?" Ask her this. Before you do, tell her to answer promptly and without thought. The first answer to come is always the true one. If she isn't happy then she can't stay, it would only make her life and the children's lives miserable in the end, not to mention the hubby too. THe children will suffer the most in the end though since they will be left to pick up peices that they don't understand.
2007-04-12 03:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by SpoiledBrat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suggest a marriage counselor and advise her to take a vacation with her husband and have a honest heart to heart talk. Other than that all you can do for your friend is be a good listener and pillar of strenght.
2007-04-12 03:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by dreamymoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not suggest they get a baby sitter and go out, because sometimes we all get stuck in a rut, just sitting in all the time and you forget your a couple, not just mom and dad. so ask her when was the last time they did anything without the kids, had fun, laughed, done something stupid together. it doesn't even need to cost anything, they can for a walk., etc
2007-04-12 03:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seek help or make them both take a vacation and ditch the kids and have a "get to know each other again trip."
2007-04-12 03:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them work out their problems without your interfearence.. Just be there for her as a listener...
2007-04-12 03:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be her pillar to help.
2007-04-12 03:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋