Marriage & Divorce - 10 April 2007

I recently reunited with a former love, and we have enjoyed a renewal of our love, closer than ever...we have been making casual plans about a future together, traveling, retirement together...we talked about going through with the wedding that I called off seven years ago (he got cold feet), we talked about trying to have one child together before we get too old...it seemed like he did most of the planning and the talking, and I was content to listen and smile and dream along with him...until yesterday when I discovered I am pregnant. He got me pregnant the last time we were together, seven years ago, and mourned the baby's loss as I did, but this time, he runs and won't even face me, let alone talk to me.

I am devastated! What is UP with him? Is this cold feet times two? How could he just completely shine me on like this? I am 46, very independent, well-off and gainfully employed, can take care of myself, I don't need anything from him except a little love!

2007-04-10 06:26:19 · 20 answers · asked by Smiling Cougar 3

I recently found out that my husband of six years has been having a "friendship" with another woman. He bought a new cell phone (unknown to me) and has been calling her. He swears they are just friends, but I do not know if I can trust him. I found out about the phone when I walked in on him calling her and he hit the speaker button instead of the end button. I am so lost and confused. I want my marriage to work as I love him so much and I thought we had a good marriage. He says it is over but how can I trust him?

2007-04-10 06:23:53 · 34 answers · asked by ? 2

We are seperated, I came by to pick up some more stuff. We were talking about the baby ( I'm pregnant) And it was going well, but the weird thing is he asked for a hug. The reason I left was he said he was done with me. Plus he walked me to my car, gave me another hug and a kiss and told me that he would call me. Plus he kept calling me babe, and honey. But when we talk its nothing about us getting back together. So why does he still call me that and gave me hugs? He hasn't acted that way towards me in a good 6 months that we were still together.( we have been seperated for a couple of weeks now) Anyone have a clue??

2007-04-10 06:22:43 · 26 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5

So me and my boyfriend have been together on and off for the past 5 years. He's cheated a few times, but for the past year or so, we've been living together, in which we do everything including taking a shower, pooping infront of each other, shaving each other pubic hairs, (too much?! sorry, lol!) but we do alot together, he's done sum screwed up stuff that i've found about like a few incidents on myspace, and calling phone chat lines. I've just basically got tired of everything, but i Love him, like fa real, and we have good times together too, but he doesn't help on the rent nor utilities, but he does help around with the food n stuff, most of my friends tell me that he's just using me, my mind is really gone at this moment, but he's leaving on thursday, am i making the right decision by makin him leave or should i just try and maybe work things out, were both young, i'm 22 and he's 21.
HELP ME!

2007-04-10 06:18:07 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I share a cellphone plan. I notice on the last 2 bills he's been really calling this one number, the phone calls started off with talking no more then 5 minutes or so but as time goes on he is talking almost an hour now. The invoice that comes to the house basically tell you how much the bill is but does not show the actual calls, I have to go online to see the incoming and out going calls made. I'm not share if he thinks I am not checking the bill online or not, I'm pretty sure he would not be making calls to other women if he thought I was checking. I know this is a female that he is calling because the calls are becoming to frequent and back to back. How should I approach this situation should I call the number or mention this to him?

2007-04-10 06:15:23 · 42 answers · asked by whocarez 2

if my soon to be ex gets pregnant by another man (we been separated over 3 years) is their any chance a judge in pennsylvania will wave the alimony i have been paying???She used the healthcare that i provided to have this baby and is living in the marital with her boyfrind.

2007-04-10 06:10:23 · 11 answers · asked by brianlr2000 2

2007-04-10 06:08:18 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I sat down and talked iwth him on the conditions of living back at home with us. He's disregarded most of it and is still not paying rent. He is working, but only part-time. He is very lazy and rude, and I just can't take it any more. I need some suggestions on how to deal with this.

2007-04-10 06:06:44 · 32 answers · asked by LizC 1

and i have met a guy who is 28 and i know that im young and it's against the law but he said he can wait to i turn 18 in about 6 months so he just want to be friends the thing is he has a child and i dont want to be in no baby mama drama so is this a big step to take or should i leave it alone

2007-04-10 06:02:30 · 22 answers · asked by airplanes 3

I am currently married to someone who has abused me and he is currently sitting in an ISF facility. He will be home in ten days and unfortunately i have fallen in love with this man and my daughter loves him to death. I am scared to death that this second chance that i am givin him won't be worth it. He has been away for the last four months in lock down and during this time i have met another man, but he is black, which even if i don't continue my marriage i am scared my family won't accept this black man. I am Hispanic by the way.This man has given me all the emotional support that i have needed and right now we are simply friends and have not done anything, but he has been like an angel cause he has advised me on my situation. Please help me I fear that I will be losing someone very special if i allow myself to be hurt by my husband again.

2007-04-10 05:56:27 · 7 answers · asked by nec_tph_0227 1

Long story short my husband of 9 yrs has this horrible habit that really bothers me and is disrespectful. We have argued about it alot but he doesn't see a problem with it and says it is just the way he is. During our last discussion about it we tried to come up with a compromise. When I asked him what he wanted he said he just wants me to leave him alone about it. I said fine I will I am done fighting over this issue. The problem is it still bothers me and I think there has to be a compromise but do I bring it up again or just keep my mouth shut and turn my head the other way when I don't want to see it? Isn't this like saying my feelings on the matter don't count and I am giving in or is saying this isn't big enough to continue fighting about and I am just being the bigger person by letting it go? What happenes next time I have a problem with something am I going to have to get over it too?

2007-04-10 05:55:16 · 17 answers · asked by Trisha 5

My husband and I separated in November. I desperately wanted to work it out b/c we have a baby together but the separation was all my fault cause I treated him badly, so he said he needed time. By February he was dating someone else, and by March they moved in together. He's abandoned his daughter for her, he never sees her. Now he seems to be tired of the other girl, his family hates her and that's a big deal to him cause he's a mama's boy, and he's started to show a VERY slight interest in me again by calling again and coming over once last week to help me look for my lost dog. Would this be considered cheating and how can I forgive him for taking everything away from our daughter and giving it to some random girl? I'm not saying we're getting back together, I just want to know if I should even be willing to consider working things out when he sends the other girl packing.

2007-04-10 05:54:05 · 18 answers · asked by newmom06 2

2007-04-10 05:52:24 · 6 answers · asked by zoyaaa 3

2007-04-10 05:44:50 · 33 answers · asked by Sensy 1

Yeah this is my second marriage and this is his first. I'm older he's 3 years younger. We'll before I took the big leap it took us 14 years of living together before we finally decided to get married. It hasn't change since we've been together all those years. He still is a work -a-holic . I barely see him and yeah I fuss and he listens to me take me out when this happens and then he is back to the same old work addiction. Sex use to be good . It use to be extraordinary. Now he doesn't get interested.
I've lost weight look good for other men . I don't cheat . he still doesn't notice me. Tried going away to romantic places and all he does is sleep. He actually gets back home and brags about it to his friends. That I take his phone battery out so he can not receive calls . He thinks I'm taking him out for relaxation. I tell him this is not for that but he still does it each and every year. Yeah I married him. He wasn't like this before.

Sex that's another issue. Lets just say..

2007-04-10 05:43:21 · 17 answers · asked by hershee44 1

Recently (yesterday) I found messages being sent back and forth between my fiancé and one of his ex-girlfriends from way back in the day through myspace.com. I am absolutely floored at how he was writing to her. He knows that she is also engaged and keeps writing about the past; how he thinks of her every time he hears their song, how myspace has reunited him with his first love, how she is one of his biggest regrets, the bars where he is on the weekend (hmm…), etc. Am I totally over-reacting or is this not cool? I have been cheated on my whole entire life and thought that I finally found someone who is the perfect guy, now I think he is proving me wrong. We have been together for 4+ years. To my knowledge he has not physically cheated on me, but it seems like he is emotionally- then what is the next step? Someone please give me some advice. I cannot take another broken heart. Please, please, I need something…(p.s. I was not snooping, we were looking at it together when I saw)

2007-04-10 05:40:02 · 19 answers · asked by M. M 4

Ok how do i go about deraling with this sensitive yet very important issue I suspect her of being unfaithful at the supposed time of conception, i don't remember when we concieved because nine months prior to her delivery we were seperated for about 1&1/2 months but we patched things back upand then she told me a short while after that she was pregnant. i have to secretly do this DNA test because suppose I aam wrong that would destroy our marrage for my doubts and insecurity but if i am right well then i will be able to sleep at night.I once told her that i don't remember conception of this child and she was really hurt and said that it was my excuse to escape out of our marrage and my responsibility but no answers were given to my questions and I said i was sorry to hurt her and we are still together. I just need to know.

2007-04-10 05:36:29 · 24 answers · asked by rovin d 1

Hey it is me again. My first love/soulmate left Sunday to go trucking school, and he will be gone for 3-6 weeks. He says he's trying to secure his future and he wants me to be apart of his future. He left a message on my voicemail Sunday saying that he will call me when he arrived in the city. He also said that during the time that he is gone I should be making moves . It is Tuesday and I haven't heard from him. Maybe he is giving me time to think about my decision or maybe he needs this time away. He is a very good man. I love him deeply. Why haven't he called? Should I call him?

2007-04-10 05:35:38 · 7 answers · asked by honesty 1

I have been married for 15 years and have 4 children. My husband has a tendancy to be very flirtacious when he is drinking but I feel he really crossed the line when he touched someone elses breast and kissed another girl in front of me. Is this considered cheating to anyone else and how should I handle this?

2007-04-10 05:31:02 · 29 answers · asked by perfectxxromance 2

I am a non-muslim and now that I am married I have to change my religion to Islam. Should I seek divorce or should I stick with my marriage bec my family is not happy at all. They are genuinely worried for me as I will have to sacrifice a lot such as name change as well. Please advice. Thanks

2007-04-10 05:28:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. We are very in love, but decided it was best to break up last friday. It was devastating to me, but he wasn't ready for marriage and I was. One of the most important things in my life is the chance to be married and raise a family. He's still finishing college, and doing film school, and I'm done with school and working fulltime. Is it possible to love someone with all yourheart, but still remain broken up? Its the hardest thing to know that he's the one I want to be with for the rest of my life, and for him to kow the same, but for us to simply part ways and move out of our house that we made together. Am I making the right decision? Or should I stay with him for however long it takes for him to decide he is ready to marry me?

2007-04-10 05:28:00 · 12 answers · asked by hawaiianrain69 1

I dont want a date or anything like that. I nearly lost my wife and my two young children. I was thinking of just the word "CHOOSE" in bold lettering to help remind me of what I almost lost. I am open to any suggestions, or opinions.

2007-04-10 05:08:36 · 15 answers · asked by dave 1

I need unbiased advice. My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years was offered full tuition+ to a 6yr MA/Ph.D. program 2 states away. It's a 1-time opportunity for him. Although I'm happy for him, I can't commit to moving at this point. I am looking into jobs but don't want to move unless I have one, and even them, am a bit insecure about moving for a boyfriend, not fiancee. Plus, I am reluctant to leave my community & circle of friends -- already I live 1500 miles away from my core family. My boyfriend's best friend lives in the same city as the school, and now he is talking about buying a house with him if I don't make a decision soon (they both have money saved, I don't). He says he wants to be stable before school starts, they'd use VA loans to purchase. But not being legally a part of a mortgage & living w/ best friend makes me wary. He says he is committed and wants to marry eventually but not now just b/c of circumstances. I am 29 yrs old and don't want to mess around. Opinions?

2007-04-10 05:07:58 · 19 answers · asked by celi77 1

Last year, the wife and I took 2 months off work to travel abroad & break ground on the house we hope to be moving into sooner rather than later. We've been back for 4 months.

To help us save, we moved in with her parents for very cheap rent and since then, she's made it clear that all the work she needs to do is enough to cover our rent and going out with all my wages going into savings.

This equates to 2 hours a day after which time, she comes home & gets into bed where 99 times out of 100, she still is when I get in, 7 hours later.

Both her parents and myself have full time jobs but we're the ones who do all the housework.

If I bring it up, I get nothing but tears (of course) and sorries and how she'll change but nothing ever does.

I know her parents aren't happy with it either but they're just happy to have her home and won't / don't say anything.

Also, she (naturally) gets bored so "we" have to get out of the house and spend the money we're supposed to be saving

2007-04-10 04:48:24 · 23 answers · asked by DMsView 6

I'm going trough a divorce and I would like to talk to people in similar situations.....Can anybody help ?

2007-04-10 04:44:03 · 2 answers · asked by Juliet 5

still faithful but extremley wanting to be with someone sexually dont know how much longer i should remain faithful or if i should persue my desire to have sex

2007-04-10 04:33:36 · 14 answers · asked by pillowtalk 2

I have been battling with being the Nice Guy for so long. Been married for 5 years with two kids. I try to keep up appearances by denying that I am a bit of an Egotist. If a girl smiles at me, it makes me feel good, but I think that is the wrong reaction. I want to keep my Ego, even though it is not what I feel like I should be doing. I lie about dumb crap to keep up this visaed of being the Nice Guy, but my Ego is not a Nice Guy thing. The Ego is more of an average self-centered guy. How come I am fighting back the Ego, yet I am still "friends" with it? It is ruining my marriage, and I have been outright lying about how I feel. I want to be this Nice Guy, yet I let me Ego get away with stuff that is not appropriate. Why am I having to even fight with this Ego?! Why can't I seem to override it? Is it because I am not open and honest? Or is it just that much of me that I can't control it? Do other guys try to ignore this, or do they just give up, embrace it, and become the stereotype?

2007-04-10 04:31:35 · 4 answers · asked by Pachinko Machine 2

he has 35 years ols , i have 19 .. i first hang out with him just for his money ,now i think i love him . He said that he`ll leave his family to marry me

2007-04-10 04:15:42 · 33 answers · asked by demeter r 1

Can you please tell me the reason why you have divorced and what it feels like after divorcing your partner. The pros and cons. People with children, how do they react? Do you feel sorry for them and think you should never had done it?

2007-04-10 04:15:33 · 13 answers · asked by Honey 3

my bf asked me if i wanted to be proposed to at church i wouldn't have a problem with it if it werent for my pastor he's old fashioned and it just seems that he doesn't believe in young marraige

2007-04-10 04:13:29 · 9 answers · asked by Big girl 2