I met up with my husband last night, but now I'm confused?

Question

We are seperated, I came by to pick up some more stuff. We were talking about the baby ( I'm pregnant) And it was going well, but the weird thing is he asked for a hug. The reason I left was he said he was done with me. Plus he walked me to my car, gave me another hug and a kiss and told me that he would call me. Plus he kept calling me babe, and honey. But when we talk its nothing about us getting back together. So why does he still call me that and gave me hugs? He hasn't acted that way towards me in a good 6 months that we were still together.( we have been seperated for a couple of weeks now) Anyone have a clue??

Answer 1

I know from experience He misses you like crazy I have been there and it took all of 3 weeks after i had everything that was mine out of the house for him to come crawling back But don't settle for just anything when he does you have someone more important to think about now. Even If you still love him in the end do whats going to be best for you and that baby I took mine back that was 9 years ago and once again he is still up to the same old tricks that separated us before so beware

Answer 2

You could possibly have an overly suspicious mind, however most men wouldnt call or email right after leaving (unless it's a man emailing a woman after a date) so I see where you feel uncomfortable. Maybe this guy truly doesnt have any friends and was just happy/excited to have clicked so well with your husband. And maybe the comment (hope I didnt get you in trouble) was his way of making sure you were ok with the whole "meeting". I wouldnt stop him from hanging out with this guy... but if the uncomfortableness continues and you just don't feel right, than maybe you can ask your husband to not hang out. But you have to remember, you did find this guy out of Craigslist, which in itself is creepy. I don't mean your creepy, just meeting people from Craigslist is.

Answer 3

Both people in a divorce have doubts and question if they are doing the right thing. This can result in one of them acting unusually kind. Sometimes the pet names are just a habit. My ex still catches herself calling me honey when we talk, she's in a relationship with someone. The kindness and hugs may be his attempt to keep things as civil as possible so you two can remain friends. The other side of the coin is he wants to keep you on the back burner in case he realizes he's made a bad choice. You'll have to ask him about his behavior to know for sure what his intent is.

Answer 4

Maybe he wants to come back or just laying the ground work for a reconciliation.

Likely your problems are not as simple as he saying, "he's done with you..." If your pregnant, then he probably wants to make sure you two are on good terms to properly care for you incoming child.

Let me ask you this (you don't have to actually answer me, just think about it), were you in the middle of crazy horomones (pregnancy) when your relationship went down the tubes? If so you might want to educate him on what your going through, because many men do not understand what happens to their partners when they become pregnant.

My wife is pregnant right now, and she is fully crazy, emotional and weepy, but I understand that this is not her, its the pregnancies effect on her. Good luck, and as long as he is being nice, and respectful, return that kindness back to him.

In the end you are both parents now, and your child will model their behavior after what you two DO and SAY to and about each other, so choose wisely for yourself and your baby.

Answer 5

It's easy... He probably likes you - he just doesn't want to BE with you. The last few months you were together, he was probably very uncomfortable as he was preparing to drop the bombshell on you. Now that this is done, he is in his "comfort zone" again, and can be affectionate towards you with no strings attached. He doesn't hate you or anything - he just doesn't want to be married to you; but he may still like you and enjoy your company, plus he's probably known you for a while, and sees you as a friend. It's not rocket science.

Answer 6

Ask him - don't allow him to play you like a fiddle. In order to be the best mother you can be, you need to have your head together, so discuss this with him. Tell him you want to be prepared for your future, as well as your child's future. Will he be part of it as a family, or you ex and the baby's father? This isn't something to tale lightly now that you have a child. Perhaps he wants to be sure you are not stressed, and is looking out for the baby, which is admirable, but at the same time, cowardly. Figure this out before the arrival of your baby.

Congrats and good luck!

Answer 7

He seems to miss you and there is a bond between you, if not from the marriage, then definitely the baby. Maybe he realized that he hasn't been that affectionate or since you're now separated, the pressure's now off and he feels okay about being affectionate.

Answer 8

It sounds to me like he's trying to be a good man to you even though there is no longer the marriage part. He sounds to be in friend mode as to keep a good relationship with you since you are having his child and you two were married. I'd say even though you aren't getting back together keep a great friendship, it'll help in the long run.

Answer 9

It's his way of reaching out to you, without risking his emotions of asking you to come back. If you respond openly, then he'll take that as a sign you want to come back and will open the way for him to ask. Or if you don't want to wait on him then and your interested in getting back together, then ask him yourself. Odds are he'll say he misses you and want's you to come back.

Answer 10

He wants his cake and to eat it as well. Dont fall for it, I went through this. He said so much as to hold me and said he is holding his family, all the while he has a gf on the side, while i was pregnant and seperated with him. Don't fall for it. God bless you and your beautiful unborn child, You will flourish, be strong.