Yeah this is my second marriage and this is his first. I'm older he's 3 years younger. We'll before I took the big leap it took us 14 years of living together before we finally decided to get married. It hasn't change since we've been together all those years. He still is a work -a-holic . I barely see him and yeah I fuss and he listens to me take me out when this happens and then he is back to the same old work addiction. Sex use to be good . It use to be extraordinary. Now he doesn't get interested.
I've lost weight look good for other men . I don't cheat . he still doesn't notice me. Tried going away to romantic places and all he does is sleep. He actually gets back home and brags about it to his friends. That I take his phone battery out so he can not receive calls . He thinks I'm taking him out for relaxation. I tell him this is not for that but he still does it each and every year. Yeah I married him. He wasn't like this before.
Sex that's another issue. Lets just say..
2007-04-10 05:43:21 · 17 answers · asked by hershee44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is a good provider . I work too also. He just doen't reconize me for what I am anymore he just see me as someone who takes good care of him.
2007-04-10 06:00:24 · update #1
Yes I have told him how I feel . He changes up for a day and then he goes right back to his same old self again
2007-04-10 06:05:37 · update #2
It may be he's physically drained w/work & doesn't think he needs to put in the effort w/you since he already has you waiting @ home for him. My advice, take a few naughty pics on his camera phone & send him a text letting him know of the surprise you have for him on his album. He may realize what he's missing out on and get excited to come home to ya! I did this and my hubby loooves it! Who knew men were this easy to tease! Now if you don't trust him & think he'll show his buddies, don't do it. I wouldn't have done it if there was no trust. Have you tried couples counseling? If not, give it a try? It saved my marriage. Communication is key, if he's not willing, then it's time to move on. Atleast you can say you gave it a chance. Good luck and best wishes for you both!
2007-04-10 05:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by deviousone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a workaholic is like any addiction. It's a way not to deal with the reality at hand. Albeit a good addiction if all you care is about money, but of course it doesn't work if someone else or a family is in the mix. He needs to stop hiding behind his work and come out and see what is in front of him. He doesn't seem to be interested in dealing with the realtionship at all and it's up to you to decide whether or not you want to live like this indefinitely. It's doubtful that he'll change, until he hasn't the energy to work all the time, and then perhaps he'll become a couch potato, but either way it doesn't look good for the marriage.
2007-04-10 05:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Plexed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how it affects you? Sit down and have a serious talk with him, ask him what he wants. Go out and buy a sexy outfit and heels and when he gets home greet him at the door with that on. Take charge in the bedroom... some guys like that. If still no change consider marriage conseling. Good luck!
2007-04-10 05:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by mikeandjackie_98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you say, it hasnt changed. He's a workaholic, and you knew it. You can attempt to let him know where you're coming from, what you're feeling. Since he obviously has no idea. (usually men dont) Thus you may have no choice, but to either accept what you have, or walk away. Which road do you prefer???
2007-04-10 05:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show him what he's missing. Dress erotic, walk around naked, masterbate in front of him. When you have people over flirt with the other guys, get him jealous again. Make him want it, then take it away. Make him crave you and come after you.
2007-04-10 06:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're unhappy then you would be better off without him, you have tried everything...but you need to talk to him first, maybe you can work things out
2007-04-10 06:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly believe he should consult a good lawyer to get the correct course of action.
2016-04-01 07:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people sometimes get very comfortable with their spouse and only by communicating can you resolve this, seriously talk to him tell him that this part of your marriage is not working for you and that you need more and deserve more from him!!!!
2007-04-10 05:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems like you want more attention and more good sex.. but you are pushing him away by being so dominant, find a lover online for attention you want so bad.
2007-04-10 06:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you should have gotten married in the first place..
2007-04-10 05:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋