and i have met a guy who is 28 and i know that im young and it's against the law but he said he can wait to i turn 18 in about 6 months so he just want to be friends the thing is he has a child and i dont want to be in no baby mama drama so is this a big step to take or should i leave it alone
2007-04-10 06:02:30 · 22 answers · asked by airplanes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im not trying to grow up fast i just want serious question to this and i do believe i shoud try to find someone my own age
2007-04-10 06:09:50 · update #1
Hi Sweet... well do me a favor and go back and read your posted question.... because if you do you'll find the answer in your very own question. You say your self you "don't want the baby mama drama, and you really believe you should find someone your own age" Sounds to me like perfectly great advice from someone who really knows you... YOU!!
Keep it simple there is plenty of times to make stupid mistakes. Oh and this way in a couple of years when you look back over your regrets this wont be one of them.
Good luck and I hope this helped. Let us know what u decided to do?
2007-04-10 12:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by truepassion76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like your answer is in the question. I mean you said yourself you don't want to be a mother and you want to find someone your own age. I don't understand whats stopping you. He will get over it if you move on. Take a break from him and maybe later he will realize that you two can be friends and nothing more. Whatever you do, NEVER stay in a relationship just because you don't want to hurt the other person. This should be a decision on what will make YOU happy. Show yourself some respect! There's lots of other eligible guys out there with whom you won't have the drama with.
2007-04-10 13:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by califrniateach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. At your age you're right you don't need any baby's mama drama. I can tell you there will be a lot! Find someone who can devote their time to you. Not someone that you have to share the attention of a baby with. Also, the age difference would be a huge issue. You still have a lot to experience that you may miss out on if you get a serious relationship where you would have to be a part time mother. Besides, it isn't healthy for his child for him to get involved with someone.
2007-04-10 13:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean I was almost 17 when me and my now hubby started to date. He was in the middle of getting divorced and we grew up together are family’s have always known each other pretty good. He was 25 almost 26 when we started to date. Thankfully he has no kids but I will tell you its Hard! I don’t know if you have bin with many guys but chances are that he has had quite a few girls especial if he has a kid. I'm not judging either of you by no means but please think about the drama their will be with the kids mom calling him or him having to call her all the time if something happens. Will you be ok with that?? I thought I would be ok with his Ex-Wife calling but once we were together and married it changed I hate it when she calls it makes you upset! Trust me please don’t look at this as a lecture I'm just letting you know what I have had to deal with and he doesn’t even have a kid. Maybe you should talk to him about this first that way you both know how you feel about it and go form their. But for his sake don’t do anything until after your 18 he can get into so much trouble and could loose the right see his kid because if he was convicted of doing anything sexually with you he would be looked at and charged with statutory RAPE trust me my friends boy friend got charged with it and for long time he couldn’t be with anyone under the age of 18 unsupervised. So just a few things to think about k don’t get me wrong I’m 100% in love and trust my husband and would never change the fact they we are married but it can be hard and yes it was all worth it. I hope it all works out for you I really do!1 good luck ;)
2007-04-10 13:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely let him go. I am 22 years old with a child. If I were your age and single no kids and no drama I would live it up and have fun. Think about it. You could go out to the clubs or plan summer vacations on the beach and meet new people your age or a little older who understand your freedom. Don't get involved with someone when your already having doubts. Really really think about it.
2007-04-10 13:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, do you have feelings for him? Your so young, you should try to find someone closer to your age & start fresh together. Why would you want to get involved with someone who has baggage? Do what will make you happy, even if it means hooking up with this guy (but beware,babies mama can be drama).
2007-04-10 13:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Reckless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 Is way too young to be involved with someone who has a child. There are plenty of fish in the sea... try to break away from this person.
2007-04-10 22:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by SweetiePie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. Your life will be so crazy if you get with him. Find someone closer to your own age. It will be easier. Believe me, I've been there and done that with a horrible out come.
2007-04-10 13:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Just a girl... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's flattering that an older guy wants you, wants to spend his $ on you..but girl.....RUN!
Sounds like he just wants to use you and discard you. Kinda like he did his "baby mama". Why is he even talking to a 17 year old girl? Because women his age see right through him is why. He wants control.
2007-04-10 13:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Theresa D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally leave it alone. You are too young to get into that situation. And to be honest, from a guys perspective, that is not a good sign that he is willing to get with a 17 year old!
2007-04-10 13:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Pachinko Machine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋