2007-04-10 05:44:50 · 33 answers · asked by Sensy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A hubby should not ask for compensation for anything. That is rediculous on his part. Perhaps he was just angry, but it does sound like there are some financial issues that are being supressed on his end. This deep-seeded financial issue is one that needs to be exploring further.
He is clearly wrong to have said it, but there is more here than meets the eye.
2007-04-10 05:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by ciberpunk1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The assumption would be that husband and wife living together are equally responsible for all expenses as well as for the division of household duties. The answer really depends on their original arrangement and whether or not both are working or one is a stay at home mom/dad. If one is not working, where will the money come from?
Keep in mind, during an arugment things are said in the heat of the moment that aren't meant. Wait till things calm down and talk it out rationally. Discuss the original arrangement and the reasons for it. If those reasons no longer apply, come to a new agreement on how things should be done.
In a marriage there has to be a give and take. There has to be a mutual understanding and agreement. This is a partnership. Talk to each other and work out this issue together in a diplomatic way.
2007-04-10 05:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said this during a quarell, just let it go. People say the stupidest things during an argument. But if he insists on asking for rent after you've patched things up, then your marriage is in trouble.
2007-04-11 10:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is wrong with people these days?
Did he promise to love her, cherish her...etc as long as they both live? Does asking her to pay rent sound like a loving thing to do? NO.
The two should be 1. They own everything together regardless of who paid for what. Sure they still need to sort out their problems if things are not balanced, but marriage is not like a business partnership. NO marriage is NOT a 50/50 partnership. Go call that whatever the hell you want... but that's not marriage. Marriage is 100/100. Both give it all and share it together. Geez, I swear, there is no more common sense left in this screwed up society anymore.
2007-04-10 06:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You would think that this would have already been discussed before you moved in together. There is no need for him to bring it up during an argument.
Marriages are all different some split the bills and some do not. Some the man pays some the women pays. It just depends on your agreement.
2007-04-10 05:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think a marriage is a 2 party deal. If the husband is working 12 hour days at Walmart and the wife is sitting on her duff and not doing anything, I think it is totally appropriate for him to ask her to help financially.
My friends daughter calls herself a housewife and her husband goes to work every day while she shops. She lays the guilt on him because they have 2 little kids. She ran them into so much debt, he opened a checking account and left her name off the account. He cannot trust her with the finances.
I say if your sitting on your rear end and having trouble financially, its time to help out, get a job and do whatever is possible to make ends meet.
2007-04-10 05:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not normal. Then what is the real meaning of wife according to such husband ? What type of husband he is ? Does he at all know wife's right on him & his duty as a husband ? Is he honest & just ? Does he have any principle worth the name ? Is he God fearing ?
2007-04-10 18:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.....they are partners and share equally, so she should be just as responsible for her share of the the monthly bills.....Now I an assuming that you want her to pay you rent for staying in the marital house.....this will not work. Would love to see the look on her face if you do ask.
2007-04-10 05:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't do any work except being a parasite and sucking blood money, threatening to use laws against him - then why no? We are talking of EQUALITY rt these days?? Then why shouldn't a Woman chip in - or is it equality in all other means except finance where once married its only the mans duty to spend on her!!
2007-04-10 23:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? That is one of the most outlandish things I have ever heard. That remark suggests that there is something much more serious going on here. This remark is the tip of the iceberg and is revealing some deeper feeling of hostility on the part of your husband. I would suggest that you see a marriage counselor soon.
2007-04-10 05:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋