Is it silly to recite the marriage vows?

Question

I mean what is the point of reciting it, if people doesn't intend to keep it?

Marriage vows is meant of honoring one's love for his/her spouse and his love for her under good or bad times, till death do they part. it has nothing to do with if the spouse revolt his/her isn't it?

its a sacred vow and to me it simply mean I WILL LOVE AND CARE FOR YOU NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. and it revolves around love and forgiveness. simple as that.

Any reasons for filing divorce is just a lame excuse.

Exactly John :=) you are absolutely right. I pose this question from a thought provoking perspective. Vows are certainly of utmost importance but the fact is that people often look at it from the perspective of sort of contract that bind 2 person together which is wrong in the 1st place.

It should and must be kept irregardless of what the spouse did, irregardless of whether they commit adultery or physical abuse. there are always ways to remedy the situation thats why i said forgiveness, love, healing, patience are crucial here.

We are talking about our love for our spouse when the vow is recited, and it does simply mean i commit my love for you irregardless of what u do to me, simply because i love you. it is not like friendship or bf-gf relationship i can simply break. marriage is so sacred that husband and wife have become 1. unfortunately sex has been degraded when it falls out of scope and this involves extra marrital affairs, casual sex or 1 night stand etc.

Answer 1

yes...u r right.
but u know what?i did marry with a lots of hopes...my husband was my life......i was so blind for him......in my marriage, i didnt let the priest recite the vows...coz, i felt we dont need anyone else's instruction to be faithful for each other, to love and care each other for the life time......
but, unfortunalty, my home broke...he divorced me without any reason..now i feel so bad...i feel, if i could let the preist recite them! if i could! may be he couldnt leave me....

i know, my idea is silly, this is not the reason for what he forgot his all vows with me...but, i really feel bad that if preist could recite that, my life could be diffrent...

Answer 2

And your question is . . . ? I think when people get married they have every intention on keeping those vows. Then, as time goes on and things don't go the way they want them to, they forget the vows and throw the marriage out the window.

Divorce is to easy to obtain and should be harder to get especially when children are involved. But, today's society is selfish and all they care about is themselves.

Either way, some people DO keep their vows and promises to each other.

Answer 3

Well, usually when people make these vows they do have intentions of keeping them, but then **** happens. Personally, I find the vows to be sort of silly. I think they are just symbolic and don't really mean anything, but that's not to say that the commitment doesn't mean anything. I just don't believe in God or live in a world where divorce is wrong. It's not a bad thing since there is no god and divorce? While I'll do my best to avoid it, I realise that it is not always wrong and is socially acceptable.

I do have pending vows for my upcoming marriage, but I think they are too goofy and religious. We're just doing them to please my religious family and for traditions sake.

Answer 4

Not sure what happened in your life to make you feel this way, but yes, I believe it's necessary to recite them. My husband and I made our own vows, nothing corney, but I wanted to make sure words like "respect", "communicate", etc., were in there and we look at them often when we fight. It helps bring us back to reality and communicate much better.

Answer 5

I agree in most cases but I draw the line on abuse. No one should stay in a marriage where there is mental or physical abuse.

Answer 6

Why is it silly? Maybe you never realized what it truly meant. It gives you a different perspective when they are coming out of "your" mouth.