You find another womans phone number in your mans recently dialed phone numbers. When you ask about it, he gets mad because he says you are invading his privacy, he also says it is his friends girlfriend. Would you be thinking something is going on, if so what ?
2007-04-10 03:16:04 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well as someone who recently invaded my man's privacy and looked in his phone, I don't care one bit if he's mad about it. If I suspect something's going on, I'm going to check it out. And if I found a recently dialed number belonging to a woman, I'd ask him about it. If he said it was his friend's girlfriend's number - I would think I would know her because it seems to me we would have met before - I'd ask him why the number was in there. Most likely he'd say "he used my phone to call her" or something of the like, then at that If I didn't feel settled about it, I'd call the number and ask - though this has far-reaching ramifications because if it is in fact her number, and his buddy did call her, then my bf looks like an *** because he has a gf who checks up behind him. It's a difficult situation that can be easily avoided by simply being OPEN and HONEST about EVERYTHING, something that you guys seem to have a hard time doing.
2007-04-10 03:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I can see what your saying, but it is sooo wrong to go through your husbands phone, pockets, or wallet. It would be different if you were washing his pants and came across the number, or noticed on your cell phone bill that there was a new, and frequently dialed number you didn't recognize.... but to specifically be checking his stuff is COMPLETE MISTRUST, and it's not even a little OK. I would say you need to believe him when he says the numbers not his. Your his wife, you can watch his actions, how he treats you, and so forth to know if somethings going on or not. Also, there needs to be trust between you if it's ever to work. My husband and I have a mutual trust that is I don't go through his personal things (like mentioned above) and he steers clear of my purse and such. Remember, everyone needs there own little personal space. It's probably just a honest misunderstanding, and you should take this opportunity to learn from your mistakes and not snoop again. Tell him your sorry and you do trust him, don't be the wife that is obsessing over her husband cheating, you're better than that!
2007-04-10 03:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would think something is going on! My first clue would be the guy's defensive attitude when I ask about it. Secondly, most women know the girlfriends of their boyfriends' friends, so I think she would recognize the name or number if that was the case. Even if it really was a friend's girlfriend, my next question would be what his friend's girlfriend's number was doing in his phone. Not too many guys I know catalog the numbers of their friends' girls just to chat. If the guy we're talking about happens to be you, my advice is to show your woman that you would never cheat on her, and let her know she can trust you. Or, just dial the number in question and put her on the phone with whoever the girl is so they can chat and she can see nothing suspicious happened. Unless it did- then, run for your life!!!
2007-04-10 03:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have learned that when a man gets mad over a simple question, that he must be guilty. We all know the saying "Innocent until proven guilty" but I have personally done that in relationships and ended up getting burned. When you first start seeing signs of cheating, lying, etc., ask your boyfriend about it and trust your intuition. In a relationship, you shouldn't do anything that you wouldn't do with your significant other next to you. That way, you know you will stay out of trouble. By the way, I noticed your name is Brad, are you the guy whose girlfriend looked on his phone?
2007-04-10 03:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by mother_of_a_princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brad is this man you??if not I do apologize. If this number is not his,why in a world he got mad,and why did he kept the number that belongs to his friend. When we get married there's no such things on privacy anymore. If that is my husband, (believe me it happens to me) I will ask him what the number is and I will call the number to give me the satisfaction that he was telling me the truth. (which my husband lied). Take my word for it,when a man get mad,there is a reason behind it...........
2007-04-10 03:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a relationship with this person, one that is suppose to be a commited one, then you have the right to question. You should not demand an answer, but in a courteous way ask. That said, whenever someone is defensive we assume it is out of guilt. Although it's usually so, it's not always the case. We can only assume or guess. However, if you can't trust this person, then perhaps it is not a stable relationship to begin with and the bottom line is you want to be with someone who is trustworthy.
2007-04-10 03:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Catie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be angry! Because i'm just asking a ?...There is absolutely no reason for him to get upset with me over that......it's out of curiousity and noone is making accusations of any sort. There is nothing wrong by asking. Now if it looks or sounds suspicious i would push it....for ex: asking why is he talking to a friend's girlfriend?...it could be nothing, but you never know if you don't ask. I strongly believe that communication is key! And jealously, and trust issues can ruin relationships. Both parties have to learn how to pick their battles, in other words, is it really fighting over? If you love and trust each other, reasure each other of that instead of creating doubt.
2007-04-10 03:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Caro*~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My husband and I don't hide things from each other so if he suddenly was concerned about privacy, I would think something was going on. I wouldn't buy the excuse of the friends girlfriend because if it was, why would he need privacy?
2007-04-10 03:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya I would think that you were cheating. If you don't want her to think that then don' t get so angry about her invading your privacy. Women think if you get upset over something like that then you have something to hide. If you don't want her to think that then call the girl and let her talk to her, that way she will have no suspicions..unless you are cheating on her...and if so that's not very nice and you should come clean.
2007-04-10 03:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by Kaydens 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be thinking something is going on. Mainly because if the man was getting mad that is a sign that something is going on. Examples...cheating in various forms, flirting behind the woman's back, etc...
2007-04-10 03:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by Quinn S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋