Okay - here's the deal! I have left my husband 3 times for another man. The same man each time. When I am with the other man, I miss my husband, when I am with my husband, I miss the other man!! What should I do?
2007-04-10 03:48:08 · 40 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put your efforts into the marriage.
Also, I believe you are finding that your dissatisfaction is not due to your husband, but something inside you.
Perhaps you have an unrealistic expectation regarding your husband. You have some need that it's not possible for any other person to meet. Yet you keep looking to people, to other men to meet that.
You learn that another man is not what you need, but you also grow dissatisfied because you are not getting this need met by your husband.
It's possible that this need is one that you have to meet, or you need to seek God in meeting that need.
I believe, if this is the case, that you are learning that the need is not being met by your current actions.
If that is the case, and it's not a need this husband or any other man is meant to meet, then it's not fair or right to leave your husband over such a need in your life.
So, until you know exactly what it is you are looking for, and have explored the possibility that it's not him or his role to meet this need, but your own issue, you shouldn't make any major changes to your life.
If your husband is willing to be a supportive partner in your quest, then certainly do not leave him.
I suspect he is somewhat supportive, if he has endured three affairs and is still there for you.
2007-04-10 03:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So heres the thing you have to make a decision, you and your husband have some sort of problems otherwise you wouldn't go back and forth with this other man, so either you work things out with your husband and leave the other man or take the other man and leave you husband. you need to work out whatever problems you have. Best Of Luck To You!!!!
2007-04-10 03:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to come off rude or anything but you need to let both of these men go before you or one of them get hurt. It hurts me to know how you're doing your husband. I think he's a really strong man to keep taking you back. I think you need to love yourself and grow up. Until you do that, you wont be able to give either of the two men all of you. Have some class and call it off with these men before someone gets hurt. Honestly, you'll be the one to catch it the worst in the end because you are wrong. And I just can't believe that these two men are letting this go on.
2007-04-10 04:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and be an adult. Relationships are not easy and take work. If you miss your husband then why did you leave? I feel sorry for the two other guys. In the end both of them will see that you are acting in a self centered fashion and they are both going to dump you. Hate to throw a glass of reality in your face....
2007-04-10 03:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by cristobal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're husband must be feeling like a doormat by now. I think you need to realize how much hurt you must be causing both parties by bouncing back and forth.
You need to make up your mind, but remember it's likely that you will lose both men in time no matter what you chose now based on what you'ev done.
2007-04-10 03:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish men wouldn't be so stupid, putting up with crap like this......My friend is in a love triangle right now and someone needs to put an end to the games... Your married now not a teenager dating for fun. Either leave your husband or the other man what makes you so special you deserve both.... This kind of thing pisses me off....Men are stupid!!!!!!!!!! I disagree with the comment below mine, he is not strong he is weak, a walking doormat! He needs to put his foot down and say it needs to stop. He is going to not let you disrespect him anymore. Either the affair stops or you leave permanently.........
2007-04-10 04:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should I leave my husband?
2014-12-12 19:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to be blunt here, but it's time for you to s*** or get off the pot. Neither of those men deserve that kind of treatment. If I was married, I wouldn't be sharing my spouse. I'm in a wonderful relationship now, and we wouldn't be sharing each other with anyone. It's actually disrespectful and not to mention gross.
2007-04-10 03:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly blunt, I don't think you deserve either man if this is the way you're going to behave towards them both, neither deserve you playing them like this - your husband especially.
What you possibly need to do is be by yourself until you realise what it is you truly want, until then stop playing games with other people's lives.
2007-04-10 03:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by retro.vogue 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Leave your husband....honestly you are not ready for a commitment at this time in your life.
2007-04-10 04:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋