Marriage & Divorce - 13 November 2006

Okay, so this is an awefull subject to be bringing to a discussion board, but i need objective opinions and advise, so here it goes--i have been married for 5 years and we have a duaghter, we were married very young, 18 and 19, at the time we were both very immature and sometimes i think we only got married becuase i was pregnant, we have a alright marriage to the naked eye, we don't cheat, he doesn't beat me, we love our duaghter very much, and he is about the best dad ever and a great provider, these are the pros, here go the con's, i am not sure i love him like I should, he is still really immature, he thinks he has to drink everyday off he has and when he does he is very verbally abusive to me, and he has a horrible temper where he tends to break things in the house and throw things, so here is the question: do I wait it out and see if he grows up, or call it quits?

2006-11-13 04:10:33 · 9 answers · asked by vr 1

I was thinking of going back to college to become a teacher, but this counselor Chick told me I shouldn't because I'm not fit nor am I a good influence for teens. This Broad said I give the impression of being a sexist womenizer. Please, if a girl needs a lay, I'm there, as long as they don't get attached emotionally or they'll get their feelings hurt. Besides, kids today need to learn to be Men and women need to learn their place.

2006-11-13 04:10:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My answer:
could you do that again

2006-11-13 04:10:08 · 30 answers · asked by just1more 3

2006-11-13 04:07:38 · 9 answers · asked by Jet Fighter 1

I have been seperated form my husbend for 8yrs and I cant seem to move on.. I cant get a divorice cause I cant seem to bring my self to do it...Being Cathloic and all I belive its wrong....But he has lived with other women and still is....I also think I am still in love with him...He cheated on me and I was angy I threw him out... I have tryed to date but I also seem to look for his type and then when I do date I get disgusted.... I just dont feel right....What am I to do? I am seeing this guy but its just not right... I just dont feel right about him... My Husbend is always coming to my house when he needs to see the kids.. Its hurts to see him...I have told him this and says He dosent know where else to take the kids.....What do I do to help myself get thru this...... My feel myself getting short with my kids and they say I need angry mangerment... I think I really needs help?

2006-11-13 04:06:44 · 17 answers · asked by ceemagiclydia 2

Christmas...his father took his life 2 days after Christmas. This year it will be the 5th year without him. What can I do special to honor my father in law...for my husband? Any sugguestions would really help me...

2006-11-13 04:06:15 · 7 answers · asked by LeeLynn 5

and you still had sex with your husband before you married him, why do you get so upset that your husbands cheat? After all, if he could not control himself before marriage, why are you so suprised that he could not control himself after you married him....ponder that for a while.

2006-11-13 04:05:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-13 04:04:55 · 3 answers · asked by me2006 2

My ex husband is coming to town this week. He hasnt seen our 3 kids in over 8 months. CHild support was ordered by the courts and he hasnt paid me a dime in over a year. Do I let him see the kids? He has a bench warrant out on him now for not paying child support. Do I call the police when he arrives. I dont want to hurt my children by the police showing up at my house and arresting there father. What do i do.

2006-11-13 04:01:01 · 9 answers · asked by maggie 1

major argument with her mother (motherinlaw). She yelled at me and insulted me. She said things that hurt me. I got fed up and told her how I felt and how tired I was of her actions that I had been putting up with for a while now, things I had been holding in because I did not want to make matters worse. The lady then started to have a nervous breakdown and she was taken to the hospital. My wife and her sister started crying. It was day from hell. Early this morning I got a call from my motherinlaw's brother who informed me that she had been diagnosed with moderately high Schizophrenia 16 years ago and he told me everything. I did notice some odd behavior from my wife's mother for a long time but I always assumed it was because she was a b**ch. I am saddened by the fact I was not told the truth from the get-go. That would have explained a lot of things and perhaps made me be more understanding of the situation. Why was the truth kept from me? It hurt me that my wife kept this from me.

2006-11-13 04:00:29 · 23 answers · asked by scie4 1

I've got a male friend who I've known for about 2 years. He comes over my husband and my house and has been for about a year. He just got married about 3 mos. ago to a woman he lived with for 12 years. They have a 12 old child. He told me before he married her that he wasn't in love with her, and that she had cheated on him about 2 years ago, that they have nothing in common, and that he doesn't trust her. But then, he married her. He didn't tell me that he married her until another friend told me. He said that he forgot, and he married her for the child. Now, just this past weekend, he told me that he's not in love with her, and there are more bad times than good, and if it doesn't work, then he'll get a divorce. No, we are not having an affair, I've been married for over 17 years, but yes I have feelings for him--I've never told him--however I did tell him in the same conversation that I'm trying to make my marriage work and that my husband loves me very much --advice

2006-11-13 04:00:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

or meaningful that he mainly hires attractive females? The main one is always scheduled when he is working.

2006-11-13 03:58:33 · 6 answers · asked by sarah 1

I will not tell my spouse what to do and I refuse to tell my spouse to cut her loose. Never.
So maybe it just doesn't work and we could go our seperate ways, now.

2006-11-13 03:58:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

to a "Friend" instead of discussing with you husband? Our relationship was going good until I discoverd that she has 3 male "friends" that she talks to on the way to work, at work and on the way home (she works with 2 of them and the other is at anothe loc, same company). She even stays after work 3-4 hours "just talking with friends". When we finall had it out and I told her I don't care anymore do what you want, she is home at regular time, and then she has the nerve to ask me if I have found someone else!!!!! I asked her when would I have the time since I am the one taking all three kids to practise 2 twice a week and each a game once a week, cleaning house, bathing them, cooking, and making sure they get their homework done. W.T.F. Am I crazy? What would be going on in your mind if your were the one doing this to your husband? Oh by the way she also told me that I don't listen to her cause I asked her to stop talking about her works for 3 hours a night.

2006-11-13 03:55:38 · 23 answers · asked by Joesmoe 2

I'm probably just being hormonal, but when one gets married, shouldn't they stop having one on one out time with the opposite sex? For instance, I still go out with friends, but I don't go alone with a male friend. Yet my husband will go meet with his friend (a girl), alone. It's getting me paranoid as hell (he cheated on me in the beginning of our relationship, and we broke up because of it, only to reconcile 5 months later- all pre-marriage tho).

Would it be too bitchy for me to ask him to not see her alone? I don't mind if they go out, but not while alone. But at the same time, I'm afraid of setting that boundary, and then he starts lying to me instead. I'm just at a loss of what to do in this situation.

What would you do? This situation makes me feel uneasy. The last time I felt uneasy, he cheated on me.

2006-11-13 03:54:31 · 24 answers · asked by krivera_fierro 3

2006-11-13 03:51:47 · 9 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1

did friends arrange the meeting, was it by chance, etc???

2006-11-13 03:50:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

And can you elaborate on the answer you provide on why one is more important than the other? Even if you answer that they are equally important, can you explain why you believe so? Thank you!

2006-11-13 03:50:40 · 11 answers · asked by Mitchell B 4

It's my parents anniversary on the 19th and my father passed last July. She told me she wanted a locket with their picture in it and their marriage date engraved on the back. I can buy the locket and even have it engraved but where would I take the picture I have of them which is a standard sized photo to have it fit into the locket.....Help! This make their 40 year anniversary!

2006-11-13 03:47:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and i have been married 3 months now and he left to go over seas he is in the navy and i am very lonley and i dont know what to do with myself.... i Have tried doing other things to help me but they are not workin. What should i do? I am getting over stressed because he is not here

2006-11-13 03:47:02 · 9 answers · asked by Kayla P 2

My husband and i have been married 3 months now and he left to go over seas he is in the navy and i am very lonley and i dont know what to do with myself.... i Have tried doing other things to help me but they are not workin. What should i do? I am getting over stressed because he is not here

2006-11-13 03:46:49 · 16 answers · asked by Kayla P 2

I filed for divorce a year ago. We have split everything - there is nothing left. We have both signed all the papers. And its all sitting on his attorney's desk. My attorney just writes more letters and makes more phone calls asking his attorney to cooperate to get this thing done. BUT I pay for all those phone calls and letters. Isn't there something I can do to get this done and final? Are there any sanctions that can be filed against his attorney for delaying due process??

2006-11-13 03:45:36 · 4 answers · asked by NavyBrat 4

I'm a 50 year old female and not too bad looking (I'm probably giving myself too much credit). My husband of 30 years informs me he doesn't "love me like he should". We haven't had sex in years and I'm so lonely I think I'm about ready to crack up. Our kids are grown and out of the house. I need someone so bad just to talk to. I seem to blaming myself for everything. You're probably saying, why doesn't she get out and leave. It's just not that easy. I would like to continue this discussion with anyone that's interested.

2006-11-13 03:43:38 · 23 answers · asked by QB 1

My husband has a son (lets call him JOE) from a previous marriage and his ex-wife has a son (lets call him PETER)from her current marriage. Once his ex called and asked us if we could help her out and take "Peter" too since she didn't have a sitter. I was not too thrilled with it, and I gave in. Ever since then "Peter" comes on occasion to our house and stay's a night or too. My husband doesn't think that any of this is wrong, however, I believe his ex is taking advantage of his good nature. How can I go about it and put a stop to this? "Peter" is 6 yrs and "JOE" is almost 15. My husband and I have fights over this and it doesn't seem like there is anything I could do. Any advice?

2006-11-13 03:42:29 · 9 answers · asked by chris_germancat 1

...i gave birth the 1st of this month. me and my ex bf broke up nine months ago...after we broke up, i found out i was pregnant...he didn't call or even offer support the whole time i was pregnant even if he knew i was pregnant. later i found out he got back with his ex and got married. when i gave birth, i felt that he has to know. i told my sis to visit him at work to let him know that he can visit my daughter...he hasn't called right away..what do u guys think?

2006-11-13 03:34:00 · 11 answers · asked by Irish C 1

i feel that i've fallen out of love and dont feel attracted w/ my husband. we've been married for 8 yrs and have 3 wonderful young kids. our relationship lately has been revolving w/ work and taking care of the kids. he's been a wonderful father to our kids. but i look at him and i'mafraid i dont even remember being head over hills in love w/him and now i really feel lost. should i tell him how i feel? i feel like i've been ignoring this feelings for awhile now and perhaps thats why i keep on having this kids hoping the bond bet. us will be even stronger, instead it's the opposite. i know he loves me more than i ever felt for him.i married him bec. his the kind that will stay until you're old and gray and i thought eventually the love will grow stronger. nowadays, i have this empty feelings. i want to fall in love w/ my husband bec. he deserves it & bec. i love our children and dont want to end up in a broken family. how do i keep my family and not fall apart inside?

2006-11-13 03:29:14 · 24 answers · asked by sweetie 2

When a man gets home from work, eats supper as fast as he can, then rushes off to his computer to play 3 hours of solitaire on the computer, neglecting his wife and children, then spends his days off playing that damn game for 8 or so hours have a problem? I think he does because it is affecting his family that is sick of it, he knows that and does it anyway. What do you think?

2006-11-13 03:24:12 · 16 answers · asked by firefly2007 2

just signed up for a dating website and on his profile says he has never been married and has no children (he has stepchildren - my kids), how would you feel. I'm pretty upset, am I reading too much into this. My marriage is already in trouble as it is.

2006-11-13 03:24:05 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Wife and I were recently invited to one. We will not go because we have children at home. Would not ever risk negative affects on them. Second to that is I am a professional in the area and at this stage in my carrier I would not risk negative affects if something got out. But in 12 or so years who knows. It holds some interest for both wife and I. Has anyone had experience with something like this? Good or Bad?

2006-11-13 03:20:25 · 14 answers · asked by Brian 5

Is it true that some American women don`t like to have kids because this can risk thier chances of having a boyfriend?

2006-11-13 03:19:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous