And can you elaborate on the answer you provide on why one is more important than the other? Even if you answer that they are equally important, can you explain why you believe so? Thank you!
2006-11-13 03:50:40 · 11 answers · asked by Mitchell B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hands down, The children.
Unfortunately relationships do not always last forever. the children will always be there.
Sorry, you asked to elaborate but I don't see anything relevant after that.
Steve
2006-11-13 04:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way a father loves his children is to disply before them that he loves their mother. In this way, boys will learn how to treat women and a future wife, which sets them up for a good marriage. Girls learn how a man should love and treat them so they will likely make a better choice when they become young women in the difficult world of dating and marriage.
Yes, a father must love his children, and one way he does that is by loving their mother. A man who does not show love to his wife, is not loving his children either. They go hand-in-hand.
The character of the man will show in his love (or lack of love) toward his wife and his children. The two issues are not separate.
As far as spending time with wife or children, balance is necessary. A man should have a "date" with his wife once a week. He should also spend some time with the children. Healthy couples know that some "alone time" is good, so when one is alone with the children, the other can have time for themselves to do something they enjoy.
My father did not show love to my mother. He is an alcoholic who is verbally abuse to her all the time. Unfortunately, I had no picture of a loving husband/father when I was a child. While I am not blaming my father per se, I know that he had a role in my poor choice of husband material, and that led to divorce and a lot of heartache for myself and my children.
Over the years, I have read a lot, watched other people, and learned a lot. There is no way a young woman knows how to choose a good, loving husband unless her father was one of those.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-11-13 03:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are equally important, but different in obvious ways.
Children need to experience love from both parents, interest in what is important to them. They need to have time for fun with each parent, as well as both at the same time. Help on schoolwork, sports, hobbies, what ever it is.
Children also need to see love for your spouse, hand holding, maybe a simple non sexual kiss, and basic closeness. The also need to witness unity in decision making whether its vacation plans or discipline.
Do these things, and then share private moments with your spouse, things the kids don't need to know or see.
After all what are adults and married couples...I think we are all just big kids with responsibilities that want the same things kids do. To be appreciated, loved, and feel important when we wake up in the morning.
2006-11-13 03:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Equally. Why? Because the spouse will think your love is being controlled by your biological bond with your children. The children will feel left out if more of your affection is directed toward your spouse.
Get the idea?
2006-11-13 03:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should treat both you children and wife equally with respect and love. But remember that with children you are still their parent, not there best friend. you have to teach, mold, and dicipline a child so that he/she will grow up to know what to do with their children. And as to the wife, your kids see how you treat them so you should always set the example for them to follow.
2006-11-13 03:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by Saints friend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both, but differently. Yer wife is yer companion in life. Ya made a commitment to her. Teach yer children how a husband should treat his wife and show her he loves her. Yer children are yer offspring so love as such. Teach them how to be decent responsible people. Bible has many examples of this.
2006-11-13 04:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by OLD BALLS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both but in different way. Your wife is your other half, you need to show her your love and affectionness. Share you thoughts and responsiblity. Your children is someone who look up to you, love, respect and admired you the whole diffrent way than your wife is. Cherris both. That's what FAMILY is for. I hope this help.
2006-11-13 03:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by TheOne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is a diffrent type of love ,you cant compare the two,i love my children just as much as my husband-children are my blood as they are his blood,and as far as he goes he is my soulmate and someone i share my intimate part of my life with ,...point is it is a different kind of love so yes it can be equal,because they are on different levels...
2006-11-13 09:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always told my g/f to put ME 1st (and I put HER 1st) and TOGETHER we'd put her kids 1st. The kids will someday grow up and be on their own. When they are, if you're lucky enough to still have your wife around, then wouldn't it be nice to have had a great relationship all along ? Besides, if you don't provide for your wife, who's going to ???? (and by "provide", I mean more than just $$$ ).
2006-11-13 03:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by barhopper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to love both equal, so you kids can see the you love your spouse and that will be the idea of marriage when they grow up. you need to be veery affectionate with both so they both feel love and secure. also it gives you a lot of satisfaction to feel the love back.
2006-11-13 04:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋