My ex husband is coming to town this week. He hasnt seen our 3 kids in over 8 months. CHild support was ordered by the courts and he hasnt paid me a dime in over a year. Do I let him see the kids? He has a bench warrant out on him now for not paying child support. Do I call the police when he arrives. I dont want to hurt my children by the police showing up at my house and arresting there father. What do i do.
2006-11-13 04:01:01 · 9 answers · asked by maggie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have every right to be angry - very angry in fact. I recommend that you let him see the children. You can say to the courts (and to yourself) that you have done everything that you are supposed to do and everything that is good for the children.
After he leaves, call the cops and let them know what hotel he is staying at. That way, the children won't see the deadbeat S.O.B. when he is arrested.
2006-11-13 04:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!.. Don't do that.. Dont' call the police to come and get him when he arrives to see his kids . how shady is that yO.. wow!.. If you are going to call the police... that is fine but have them go and pick him up at his place or somewhere else.. How do your children feel about their father? If they adore him they are going to hate you for that..and make your life alot harder then It may be now... Let him see his kids..thas wrong... He will get what is coming to him for all the time that he has left you to deal on your own with no help or support it will come back on him... dont' punish the kids . they will always remember seeing their dad arrested and they will always remember that it was because of you.. I know you are hurting and it's hard, and you want him to to do his part, and beleive me sweetheard you are not the only one.. but please dont have him arrested at your home.. and dont keep him from his children.. because you never know what's to come next in life.... Ok everything happens for a reason even though it does not make sence at the time
2006-11-13 13:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by dollapassadime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would allow him to see the children on your conditions only if you think it is in the best interest of you children ( have they been asking for him ect..) I would not allow him to take them anywhere because if he was to be arrested with the children in the car it would hurt and scare them. I personally would not turn him in because given enough rope these kind of guys hang themselves. Then you can honestly say everything he's done he's done to himself and you won't ever feel any guilt for turning him in. Beleive me It's hard I have been in the same position but in the long run I can look in the mirror and know I was the bigger person.
2006-11-13 12:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him call you before he gets there then let the police know. But before you do that maybe youre kids would like to see there dad.All kids need to see there parents even if after words you have him arrested at least you know in youre heart you did the right thing.good luck
2006-11-13 12:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him c his kids. my husband has a son that he never gets 2 c n even tho he dosent show it..it hurts him. im sure ur ex loves his kids. dont call the cops. talk to him. have lunch together n tell him what has to happen n order 4 him 2 continue seeing them
2006-11-13 12:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by dazeaway_fromtoday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and tell them everything. Then, don't have the kids there when he and the police arrive. He needs to make his kids a priority!!
2006-11-13 12:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops. He's hurting your children by not paying child support.
2006-11-13 12:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do not let your kids see him get arrested, it is better to protect them than to have them go through something worse than a bad sight.
2006-11-13 12:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Babe, if he hasn't paid or seen them, then he doesn't want anything to do with them. Leave him alone.
2006-11-13 12:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋