...i gave birth the 1st of this month. me and my ex bf broke up nine months ago...after we broke up, i found out i was pregnant...he didn't call or even offer support the whole time i was pregnant even if he knew i was pregnant. later i found out he got back with his ex and got married. when i gave birth, i felt that he has to know. i told my sis to visit him at work to let him know that he can visit my daughter...he hasn't called right away..what do u guys think?
2006-11-13 03:34:00 · 11 answers · asked by Irish C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't understand why he would want to visit YOUR daughter. Are you aware, in all your details, you do not once refer to the baby as HIS daughter or OUR daughter? I suspect he is picking up on your proprietary attitude. It's tough enough to be a father in the situation you describe without feeling like he has to fight you over paternal rights. Invite him. Until you do and he refuses, you have nothing to complain about.
2006-11-13 03:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's obviously an idiot...He's back with his ex and married now. Go on with your life and raise your daughter in a loving home being the best parent you can be. Your daughter deserves to have at least one loving parent, and he's not going to be it. Forget him because sooner or later he's probably going to want visitation but at his and his wife's house and as much as it will break your heart, he'll probably get it but your daughter will know that she still has her loving confident mother when she comes home from this stranger's house. Take advantage of every moment you have with her...she needs more than anything to know how much her mother loves her even at this age.
2006-11-13 11:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by SDC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simple answer.
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2006-11-13 12:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by steve c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going through the Denial stage, and probably has not told his new wife about the whole or deal..it's sounds like he really is not concerned about the baby, or you know he could be scared, and not yet ready to handle or even knows how to handle the situation.. but dont stress about it.. he will come around once the right person check his A$$ on what he doin and how messed up it is
2006-11-13 12:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by dollapassadime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're on your own, kid. Head to the CSE office first chance you get and get rolling on a child support petition. Prepare to raise the baby without a father. It'll be hard, but your greatest reward will be the love that child has for you.
In Response to Morena- he won't be paying you any child support unless you take actions to make him. Even with a court ordered child support setup, he may not ever pay you-- but do what you can to ensure that you get something. Eventually, they'll start taking his tax money from him or putting him in jail or pulling his license to get him to pay you- and your child is deserving of every penny you can get out of her dad.
2006-11-13 11:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might be terrified to death. Is this his first kid? Ummm, maybe he's worried that you're going to try to use his child to get back with him and he doesn't want to put his current wife through that... maybe he's unsure if it's his? maybe he's just a no good dead beat... chances are.. he's just terrified of the situation for some reason. Be nice, send him some photos of the baby (to be extra nice, address the photo's to daddy and *insert wife's name here* To you, you carried this child for 9 mo... that baby's very real...... to him, seeings that he wasn't around... the whole baby thing is still unreal.... it'll be hard getting him to come around but once your baby starts looking up at him calling him dada, he'll be there.... I commend you for wanting him to be in your childs life... oh, and congratulations!
2006-11-13 11:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask? Get an attorney and sue for child support. Think of the child right now, not yourself.
Gee...I think this is an example of why one should be married before bringing an innocent life into this world.
2006-11-13 11:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he doesn't give the rat's a** about you or your daughter. Sorry to say, but you're on your own here. If I were you, I'd be looking into some more reliable birth control options for the future.
2006-11-13 11:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he a jerk and i would not have 1 child much less 2 why make these children feel reject by there father get over it and get your children a support system cause there going to need it
2006-11-13 11:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by allison b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not interested or scared of child support therefore not acknowledging the child means no child support.
2006-11-13 11:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋