just signed up for a dating website and on his profile says he has never been married and has no children (he has stepchildren - my kids), how would you feel. I'm pretty upset, am I reading too much into this. My marriage is already in trouble as it is.
2006-11-13 03:24:05 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've been in counselling for months, our biggest problem is that he lies, all the time about everything. I've caught him in so many lies, now this. I do wonder what there is that I don't know.
2006-11-13 03:40:36 · update #1
Have to be honest, your marriage is in more than trouble it's in crisis and in sticking to what marriage really means, most likely it is over. He is obviously looking for some one else, c'mon you must already know this.
If you haven't already you certainly to confront him. If you can start stashing away some money so you can have some cash to start a new life without him, wouldn't being alone be better for you and your kids than being with such an idiot?....It is better to be alone than to be with someone who is degrading and a cheat. This is only what you know, imagine what you don't know...you gotta make some plans, take care of what really matters, you and your kids, he isn't going to do that for you. good luck and hang it there, I was with a cheater once and he was doing the internet dating thing two days before we were supposed to buy a house together, needless to say he backed out of it and it cost me a ton of money and a whole lot of self esteem, but it si better now and I am thankful that I finally (it took me a while t get out of denial) got rid off him. He is involved with someone else now and doing the same things to her, once a cheater.....good luck, hang in there, you wil be okay.
2006-11-13 03:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Save the site, and print it out. Then you take it to a lawyer, and go to the court house and file for dissolution of marriage. You are not reading too much into this, how can you be? If you saw it, then you know it is true. Get out of this as soon as you can...if not it will get even uglier. It doesn't matter if he said that he was single, or didn't have kids, he was on the site, and that is all that matters. And if your marriage is already in trouble, then this just give you more fuel to add to your fire. Good luck! :)
2006-11-13 03:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty rough and you have my sympathies.
I think the best thing is to look at yourself and not him. You can't do much about his actions. I'd gently ask: is doubt and suspicion on your part the reason life is rocky to begin?
Beyond that, protect yourself. Begin building walls. Don't bother playing detective, it's not positive. Time to confront him, maybe attend some counseling and take care of yourself.
That said, I'd again suggest you look at yourself. If he's looking for something, then it's something he's not getting at home -- whatever that might be. A relationship is between two people, both bear some responsibility -- look within to find your answers.
peace
2006-11-13 03:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is looking to cheat or already has is my best guess.
If you want to mess with him, sign up at the same site and come on to him. Also set up a new yahoo email or such with some name not known to him. You may be able to use what you get in emails or writing in court.
You state your marriage is already in trouble. If he is cheating, then he is in all likely hood making everything your fault. He may have suddenly become interested in exercise, his appearance, new clothes, new colognes, and spending a great deal of time in private with a cell phone.
If so, I would suggest he has already met someone.
2006-11-13 03:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may or may not be cheating, apparantly likes to play the "game" at least on the web. Choose a time when things are calm and discuss with him what the both of you want, need in your marriage. How would he feel if you "signed Up"?
2006-11-13 03:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BEFORE YOU PULL THE PLUG, confront him about it IN A LOVING WAY. Start all sentances with "I feel" NOT "You did". For example, "I feel as if our marriage is in trouble. What can we do to make it work? What can I do to make you feel more loved? Please forgive me for everything I've done or said that brought you down. I love you and I want us to be happy." I know it seems that if you are belittling yourself or bowing down. But trust me, if your marriage means anything to you, you should try all you can to keep it. Also, counseling is also a great idea!
Hope this helps!
2006-11-13 03:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I found out my hubby is cheating (basically that is what his intensions are), I would leave him and I don't know where you live, but if you can catch him cheating, use it against him in the divorce! That or you could sign up yourself and see if you could possibly set up a date with him and then sit him down to talk once the two of you finally meet!?!
2006-11-13 03:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's ready to move on. To be sneaky though, I think if I were you (just to be onery), I would create a profile on the same dating site and arrange a date to meet him. *evil laughter*
But truly, get your life in order. Speak with an attorney. Make sure you are financially stable for you and your children. Be strong!
2006-11-13 03:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lynniegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would kill him... lol just kidding but I would be furious. point blank ask him about it when its just you and him and make sure you have the site up when asking so he can not deny it...If he loves you and you love him then it is possible you can work it out but you 2 definitely need some counseling.
2006-11-13 03:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by ~Jennifer~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to move on. I'm sorry for you but that guy needs a good kick in the but.
Make sure you keep all the evidence.
2006-11-13 03:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by prettygirl5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋