I've got a male friend who I've known for about 2 years. He comes over my husband and my house and has been for about a year. He just got married about 3 mos. ago to a woman he lived with for 12 years. They have a 12 old child. He told me before he married her that he wasn't in love with her, and that she had cheated on him about 2 years ago, that they have nothing in common, and that he doesn't trust her. But then, he married her. He didn't tell me that he married her until another friend told me. He said that he forgot, and he married her for the child. Now, just this past weekend, he told me that he's not in love with her, and there are more bad times than good, and if it doesn't work, then he'll get a divorce. No, we are not having an affair, I've been married for over 17 years, but yes I have feelings for him--I've never told him--however I did tell him in the same conversation that I'm trying to make my marriage work and that my husband loves me very much --advice
2006-11-13 04:00:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you have similar situations and desires. Both of your imaginations are running wild with erotic thoughts, yet are not in a position to make any life altering changes at this time. Without judgment, maybe just experience the gifts life has to offer as private friends. It just a matter of who opens the door to the possibility and who is adventurous enough to make the first move. I say unleash the monster and let those panties fly, while the two of you manage your other relationships separately. If this is how you feel, then life is short, so why not live it to the fullest? Just keep in mind that it should be just as easy to quit the affair as it was to get into it...no strings attached.
2006-11-13 04:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a bad situation where you are unhappy get out of it.
Being alone and acheiving your own goals is better than trying to live up to someone elses expectations of you.
Your friend is looking for support and is your husbands friend and you and your husband should be considered a unit. Talk to your husband.
2006-11-13 12:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by F1antasyMaN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is interested in you. I don't doubt that at all. He is suggesting that if you want him, he will come running.
Also, perhaps you hinted to him you may be available to him by indicating you were having problems.
I would back off. What would that do to the man that has loved you for so many years?
The grass is not greener on the other side.
2006-11-13 12:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by Alibi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don,t make any relation with such guy.forget him.
2006-11-13 12:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋