My husband and i have been married 3 months now and he left to go over seas he is in the navy and i am very lonley and i dont know what to do with myself.... i Have tried doing other things to help me but they are not workin. What should i do? I am getting over stressed because he is not here
2006-11-13 03:47:02 · 9 answers · asked by Kayla P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Aww, I'm sorry that you're lonely and I understand. It's hard to have the love of your life away, knowing that he'll be gone for a long time. The other poster was right: buying a dog would help, but there's a lot more to it than some "fur therapy" -- which I highly recommend! A dog or a cat would be a great friend to you right now. In fact I'd recommend getting two dogs or two cats, so they have companionship when you have to be out working and such.
Reach out to others. Join clubs. Throw yourself into your work, or get a job. Volunteer and help others. Often when you help others, you end up feeling better about yourself because you've forgotten for a few moments your own misery, and you've helped someone better themselves. Volunteer to be a baby-rocker in a nursery in a hospital. Be a Big Sister. Feed people in a soup kitchen. Before you know it, if you do good for others, you'll have found that you've done yourself a world of good, too.
Make sure you get to know people in your community, and keep in touch with your own family. Make sure you have a dependable handy-person to do home repairs.
Good luck. Hope this helps. Cheers, K
2006-11-13 04:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are yall stationed on a naval base? If so there should be a support group especially designed for families of deployed servicemen. I have alot of family and friends that are in the military so I hear a lot about the wonderful woman (and men) that do belong to these groups. They now exactly what you are going through and will be able to help you out tremendously.
2006-11-13 03:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by fairiemage99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In these days of high tech communication, reaching him regularly shouldn't be a problem.
Also find an activity or hobby you are truly passionate about and get wrapped up in it. Too much idle time will give you the blues and all sorts.
Stay active in positive ventures and save up your experiences to share with him on return. Finally pray for his safe return. Always keep the candles and fragrances handy. You never know when the surprise knock will bring him into your arms.
2006-11-13 03:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be a Wives Club that offers support. That would be the first place I would turn. Those women know just how you are feeling and what ideas might be best to help. Its important to your husband to know you are alright without him so don't let on to him how you are feeling right now. He will be more worried about you and not be able to worry about his job. Try volunteering at a local hospital or school.
2006-11-13 03:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe make a video for him (not nasty or anything) or see if they have any volunteer groups in your community, or you can start gioing to a gym. At least you'll be in shape!
2006-11-13 03:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y dnt you write a book or something like that it is very relaxing and it helps get out diffrent stress and emotions
2006-11-13 03:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there other wives out there who you can talk to? Just get busy, get your mind off of it, and don't subject yourself to places where there are other good looking, eligible men. Don't tempt yourself.
2006-11-13 03:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by NavyBrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a dog
2006-11-13 03:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buyy an animal ... they sure keep me company .. l0l ... TRY iT iTS REALLY FUN TO KEEP UP WITH !!!
2006-11-13 04:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by jayden_327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋