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Question

I'm a 50 year old female and not too bad looking (I'm probably giving myself too much credit). My husband of 30 years informs me he doesn't "love me like he should". We haven't had sex in years and I'm so lonely I think I'm about ready to crack up. Our kids are grown and out of the house. I need someone so bad just to talk to. I seem to blaming myself for everything. You're probably saying, why doesn't she get out and leave. It's just not that easy. I would like to continue this discussion with anyone that's interested.

Answer 1

It happens... and I can relate to what you have written... There is a certain air of loneliness even when you are with people... It's the personal touch and interaction you miss and need to feel whole... and the situation makes it that it's impossible for you to leave because neither party would be able to function financially... So here you are lonely in a relationship... and seeking just the basic pleasures of a closer relationship with someone who understands you intimately...

Answer 2

My wife and I have been married for over 20 years now and are going through some of the same things as you are. We hardly talk to one another anymore. She has told me that she loves me but is not in love with me. And like you haven't had a sex life in years. I too blame myself for everything. Take a step back and look at whats going on. You can try and do more things that you would like to do. If you have any friends spend more time with them. Good luck.....

Answer 3

Hello. Its unfortunate that your husband feels that way towards you. Im a guy of 35 but I can somewhat understand what you are explaining ..by him saying that he doesnt love you like he should is almost like him saying Im sorry for something he feels guilty about, more than likely something you already know..It also sounds like hes really caught up within himself, Does he get worse in the Fall and in the Spring?
Ask him outright if you havent already, what it would take to make him aroused. After 30 years im sure hes ranted or made some comments of what hed like you to do for him but you would never allow...if its too over the edge i dont blame you either. Ask him to be Honest with you then, after 30 years you at least deserve the truth of whats wrong with him.(is he in the closet?) .If he doesnt love you tell him not to feel guilty of hurting you because hes already doing a bang up job of that. I think you know what the cause is but you are afraid to accept it . Denial sucks. Out of the 30 years you were with him how many of those years were you happy with him, and when did you realise he seemed to change? you have my email if you would like to talk to someone.

Answer 4

The concept of a monogamous marriage lasting 30 plus years was some twit with an attitude and a quill pen 1000 years ago. They do last but as you can see, not well. That is why the general population has a divorce rate of 50-60% and swingers have a divorce rate of about 5-10%. It is an idea. Maybe not a good one, but single women are always welcome at swingers clubs. Check it out. Go to an orientation session. Ask questions. Meet other women going through exactly what you are going through and talk to them. It doesn't hurt to ask and talk.

Answer 5

Hmmmm, the kids are out of the house?
Focus on what you two do when you are not working. Is one of you spending too much time doing something that is just plain selfish or self centered?

It usually takes a few big distractions to lose intimacy with your spouse. You need to fight for that back. Let him know, get in his head, find out what concerns him the most. Let him know that you both can become giddy teenagers in love again if you just put forth the effort.

Answer 6

You said you need someone to talk to, the best person to talk to is your husband. This doesn't seem very probable right now, but maybe you could talk to a psychologist about things on your own. Then if it's going well for you you could invite your husband to come with you. I hope you find help from someone who won't try to take advantage of your situation. It sounds as though you still love your husband. Are you close to any of your children? You could try to talk to them. My mom is the same age as you and she would talk to me.

Answer 7

I would love to chat with you !! Yet from what you have wrote you have left me in kinda a wonder. Are you looking to get things moving back into your lives? just trying to get a spark back. Have you talked to him about your concerns? Are you looking to move on <----Which from reading I think your looking to move forward with him. If so you might just wanna go out with him on a set Date! Ya know like when you started plain it like 1 to 2 weeks ahead that way you both can think about it look forward to it and let things open up from there. Maybe write some issues you may be concerned about and think of a way to tack-fully talk to him about these issues. Just remember to tell him all the things you love about him first and have a few left over to scramble in between. look me up i would like to talk to you more about this. i hope i was helpful so far! Smile safe! life is all around you!!!!

Answer 8

I am 33 married with kids. We have been married for 13 years. My wife is stay at home mom and I am a professional. Would love to talk with you so email me if you would like. Good luck.

Answer 9

adult males provide you with without delay solutions to the better of their means. If he says "only because" you want to settle for that reasoning. probability is in case you push him to look further, it would not finally end up you>her. Pushing further and extra for some thing to provide you the nice and cozy temperature and fuzzies will really make him see you as being pushy about the little issues. loosen up....he's with you, he chosen you, you sound chuffed ordinarily. Why can't you really feel free?

Answer 10

I can relate to what you are saying. Why do you think your husband is changing? Could it be something that you are doing, or he is just getting depressed. I would be happy to communicate with you. I truly wish that your life will somehow change for the better.