and you still had sex with your husband before you married him, why do you get so upset that your husbands cheat? After all, if he could not control himself before marriage, why are you so suprised that he could not control himself after you married him....ponder that for a while.
2006-11-13 04:05:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen, if a girl says sex before marriage is wrong and she has sex before marriage. She is the one that is wrong because that is a sin. And to all women that had sex before marriage, or is planning to, needs to have the Lord with them at all times because it is a BIG sin.
This goes for guys and girls btw..
2006-11-13 04:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by I'm a HBIC 1 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I dont believe its wrong. I do believe cheating is wrong. Having sex before marriage has nothing to do with self control. Its simply about satisfying that desire or sharing something with the one your so close and connected with. A ring and a marriage certificate dont make people change. You can have sex before marrioage and those who marry and cheat have no self control. Because now its not about sex,its about lack of consideration to your relationship and partner. This is so stupid and close minded. I had sex before mnarriage and have not cheated and my husband is always home(or at work). Dosent go out and treats me like the luckiest woman alive.
2006-11-13 04:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?? I do believe like most people that there is a big difference between having sex before marriage and cheating. If your so holier than thou you would know that they are both supposed to be a sin! Did you get caught and now your trying to justify your sins both before and after marriage? Has nobody ever taught you the definition of cheating? I suggest you spend your time on-line reading instead of writing!
2006-11-13 04:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ponder this for a while...sex between an engaged couple is much different than infidelity. There is no correlation between pre-marital sex and cheating.
When you marry you make a vow, a promise to be faithful. Breaking that promise is a conscious decision to be unfaithful. Its not something that can be blamed on booze or hormones, its a choice to break your word and the trust of someone that loves you.
I would suggest that you never marry until you can understand and accept the difference.
2006-11-13 04:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're talking about CHEATING, breaking personal committments and promises instead of giving into the temptation of making love to someone to whom you have a committment and attraction to. There is such a big thick bold difference between the two, I know you see it.
The bottom line is, MORALS. HURTING THE PERSON YOU LOVE. Whoring yourself for short term gratification. If you cheat and get caught, many men would tell the loved one - their woman upon finding out: "It meant nothing." Well, sex although wrong before marriage, between two committed people MEANS A LOT. It is wrong, yes.
I have pondered it and my dern MORALS keep coming up blocking me away from foolishness everytime my mind tries to see your side. Oh well.
2006-11-13 04:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get married, everything changes. It is a formal agreement between two people. It isn't a matter of believing in sex before marriage. This is completely different. Would get upset if your wife cheated?
2006-11-13 04:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by heaven o 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO comparison at all whatsoever. Sex with the person you will marry is NOT the same as one of you cheating with someone else after you're married. Looks as if you are looking for a really stupid excuse to f**k around on your wife and justify it. You are wrong on this one big time mister man.
2006-11-13 04:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by Nose 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't compare the two. If the husband had cheated before the marriage then you might have a point but comparing cheating with a little nookie before the wedding night is comparing apples to oranges
2006-11-13 04:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by keith s 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having sex before marriage is a lot different than cheating on someone. How could anyone even think that they were similar???
2006-11-13 04:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jer 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
HUH that's a bizarre comparison. Sex before marriage has nothing to do with control, its (hopefully) a choice. A cheater is a bastard whether is before marriage or after. Sounds like you got caught with your willy in another woman huh. Hope she finds someone worthy of her after she dumps you.
2006-11-13 04:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by alwayslarat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he felt he couldn't control himself sexually, then he shouldn't have agreed to or proposed marriage. And just because people do engage in premarital sex doesn't mean they're nymphos.
2006-11-13 04:10:18 · answer #11 · answered by dorky_goddess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋