Marriage & Divorce - 9 November 2006

My wife and I have been married for about 1 year now. We have a lot of problems and I dont really adapt to the person she wants me to be. I am American and she is Italian, there is a small barrier. I love her so much, but we just cant seem to stop arguing. I am against going to a marriage shrink because I simply dont have the money to spend on that.

One side I feel that if I leave her I will regret it, but on the otherside I feel that I am losing my sanity. I love this woman, but I cant do it anymore. I need to be healthy in my own right, and we both need to be able to think on our own.

When does a person actually know its time to call it quits?

2006-11-09 09:48:52 · 18 answers · asked by Joe Bob Charlie, Joe Bob Chopper 1

2006-11-09 09:47:15 · 7 answers · asked by nihilist 1

If a married man kisses another married woman and they make out that is cheating. So now would this woman be more important or meaningful to the married man, would he think about her more than he did with his past girlfriends or flirts? Or are all the girls in a man's love life just as important to him? I am asking if the married man were to think or miss another woman would it be his affair woman, or the ladies before marriage? What is it for the man?

2006-11-09 09:42:27 · 4 answers · asked by richards_tr 1

Before I met this girfriend, who i adore, my wife asked for a seperation (i found her having an affair). I dont know how to tell my girlfriend that I have a 4 year old son, and scared if i do I will lose her, is there a way i can tell her without risking loosingherr?

2006-11-09 09:41:19 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-09 09:39:29 · 22 answers · asked by Carol M 1

My husband is in the army, and he's very insecure which isn't all that suprising. He has to sit around and see his friends get Dear John letters every day. I love this man more than my own life and would never do that, but he just came home for R&R, packed up his stuff, and left. He says he doesn't want to be holding me and the kids back and he was very mean with some of the things he said. Then suddenly he snapped out of it, came home and apologized. Is this signs of PTSD? What would be my best course of action if it is?

2006-11-09 09:37:25 · 7 answers · asked by armywifehaney 2

has anyone ever committed a crime of passion,you know walked in on your other half cheating & just went mental & hurt people? if not how does the thought of you catching your partner with another make you feel?

2006-11-09 09:33:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-09 09:29:44 · 15 answers · asked by numa 1

Any help appreciated

2006-11-09 09:29:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you a married man cheated on your wife with another married woman and say you kissed her 2wice and made out with her on the couch...then you decided you won't go any further...half way of the sex is what you did. And now that a year has gone by and you run into her more. Would you talk to her, would you stare at her, would you continue to receive and reply to her emails, or would you break off everything and just be friends? And don't you think once you have the affair and its emotional that there is no chance for friendship? Either love or hatred will come right? What woudl you do men?

2006-11-09 09:28:09 · 8 answers · asked by richards_tr 1

2006-11-09 09:26:25 · 8 answers · asked by Tweety 1

I am new at all of this and my husband is in training to be a nurse. This portion of it is the worse he said becasue they treat you like a basic trainie even though he is prior service. Does it get better? He cant come home at night only on the weekends. He keeps telling me this is only temporary. Are there any army wifes out there like me? Please help me.

2006-11-09 09:21:43 · 9 answers · asked by baby13 1

we have discussed getting married...he says that he needs to get the money together to get an engagement ring... (the one i picked out is less than $400)...so, i have waited, and waited...and i watch him blow money on video games, and miscellaneous other things... i am not trying to be a little princess, but i want him to propose so bad... do you think it is just not a priority for him...or am i just being too needy...?

2006-11-09 09:17:23 · 14 answers · asked by justpeachy 1

I have been in a relationship with my husband for 6 yrs i have been emotionally, verbal, and sometimes physical abused. He is very controlling and goes into rages when I don't listen or do wat he says. Lately I have not wanted to have any sexual contact with him and every night we fight cause I just want to go straight to bed. Is this normal sometimes I think to my sellf I shouldn't be like this but I just don't want to. Could it be cause of all the things he has done to me?

2006-11-09 09:16:37 · 23 answers · asked by yellow_lady916 1

She was reading one of those trashy romance novels. Its not like she was just looking at porn which is pictures and take no thought this was literature and seeping into her mind. I hate the way they portray men and some of the romantic crap is just unrealistic. I wish women were able to separate fantasy from reality like men who watch porn do. My low self esteem just can't handle the added expectation these romance novels are forcing on me.
I've already searched the house and found a stash of this filth. I also confronted her about it and she thinks there is nothing wrong with it. What should I do? Should I leave? We have two lovely children. I would hate for them to find that filth. Oh, what should I do?
Please, please help me!

2006-11-09 09:09:05 · 55 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

Should you not even consider marriage with the person? I read this in an advice column today, and this woman literally could not stand her husband's 10 year old son. He only visited on weekends, and she couldn't even stand that. So, my question is, if you're involved with someone and you can accept them but not their offspring, then is the relationship pretty much guaranteed to fail?

2006-11-09 09:08:55 · 19 answers · asked by LibraT 4

i think that the house he's staying at has marijuana in it. hsi brother smokes all the time, and i know for a fact that it will be in the house, meanwhile he's trying to get full custody ( which wont happen) for my son to live at this house. Am i just being petty ? from what i heard nobody will care about the whole arijuana thing, it's california .

2006-11-09 09:05:31 · 10 answers · asked by balanced_lil_angel 2

What do you do when your husband is from another state, moved here to go to school, fell in love, got married and now is miserable because he misses his family back home? I'm not willing to move just yet and he knew that prior to marrying me, I have family here that I'm not ready to leave, plus I have 2 young children and don't want to relocate them. He can't even reassure me that he wants to be here so now I'm questioning our marriage. What should I do? He has a daughter here but is rarely allowed to see her which makes him even more depressed. HELP!

2006-11-09 08:59:58 · 17 answers · asked by truly_insightful 4

ok, so a few months back i went thru some s**t. basically i found out that my GF whom i have a child with cheated on me in jan. when i sent her to her home for the holidays. she had come back and things where not good since. we got into a major fight and she left me with my son to start a new life with the new guy. now she wants to see her son, who is with me. i dont want to seperate them but i can give him a better future than she can. she knows this too. but i dont want to even talk to her but have to find solution for this prob. i want to fight for full custody but lawyer said maybe i should communicate and find amicable solution with her.
what would you advise me to do?

2006-11-09 08:59:35 · 16 answers · asked by ali k 1

We have only been married two months and I found him going onto chat lines talking to other women about sex. I am an old fashioned kind of woman and believe that this is cheating. I have asked friends and they give me conflicting answers. What do you think? Please only give mature answers because this is a potential deal breaker for me. Thanks

2006-11-09 08:57:21 · 16 answers · asked by niedermn 1

i was i single parent have no contact EVERfrom the childs father his wishies so any i fall in love with my boyfriend we plan to get married have kids etc i just want to know has anybody any ideas to keep the fire in us as a couple just i feel sometimes that i tie him down to much nagging him etc as he has takeing another mans child on as i no its hard for any man to do so i run a playschool so our life is alittle crazy at the momant and i feel i take my stress out of him which is selfish of me i no i just want to no how to show how much i do love him

2006-11-09 08:45:36 · 13 answers · asked by summer loving 2

My class is debating reasons a man should be head of household. I am lookin for differents reasons a man should be head of household financially.

2006-11-09 08:45:33 · 19 answers · asked by Stephanie C 1

My class is debating reasons a man should be head of household. I am lookin for differents reasons a man should be head of household finandially.

2006-11-09 08:44:40 · 3 answers · asked by Stephanie C 1

I have a friend who has confided in me that she does not like to be touched at all... even by her husband.. I thought it was weird and thought I would ask if anyone had any suggestions

2006-11-09 08:40:47 · 21 answers · asked by Tammy N 2

I need some advice I think she really afaid to have wild sex with her husbend and he really whats it. I gave her some favor lotion to rub on him and herself. I believe she has'nt use it. What do u say to a person like her. I'am only try to help her. Because of what she tells me. She won't look at pron she thinks everything is drity. Her husbend had affair on her 10yrs. ago. He been clean everysense. He just whats some wild sex from his wife. As a friend am trying to help her out.

2006-11-09 08:36:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for 2. I am 23 and he is 25. He is the best thing that ever happened to me, and everyday I think about how I am so happy to call him my husband. We are now trying to conceive our first baby and are so happy to be adding to our family.

The problem is people constantly feel the need to tell me I am stupid for marrying so young and even stupider to have a child at 23/24 years old. They think because I am young I will be bad mom, end up divorced or on welfare. Apparently 23 is like being 16 now a days.

Its so uncalled for because we own a home, have great careers and have college educations and we have enough money to have several children. Plus we are very happy together!

I hear a lot that I am naive and unmotivated for wanted to be a wife and mother before I turn 30. People are anti-marriage and children unless you are 30+!

How can I grow a solid backbone and stop being so sensitive when I am 100% happy with my life?

2006-11-09 08:35:49 · 16 answers · asked by PrettyWifey 2

Haven't listened enough to wifes needs. She says shes half and half on staying. I am trying to get her to stay because i love her with all heart and soul. What can i do now? I know she loves me and she is scared. Trying hard to be a better man. Any womenly advice? I truely love her like i have loved no other. lovesick

2006-11-09 08:35:41 · 18 answers · asked by Mr. Lucky 1

would that go against me or would it be o.k

2006-11-09 08:35:37 · 6 answers · asked by Ms. Z 1

Lets just say that a girl I know got pregnant during a seperation period from her husband. Now knowing that the child is not his, she has led him to believe it is by altering due dates. She has even gone as far as demanding that they go to marriage counseling to make their family work. I don't know if I should intervene by telling him what she's up to. I know its not any of my business but I don't think its fair to him, especially if he really doesn't want to be there. He feels obligated due to his "responsibility". Any suggestions...or leave it alone?

2006-11-09 08:34:02 · 15 answers · asked by caasi2004 1

My husband came home and I asked him if I could go to spend the night with mom and he said I could go if I made some meals for him and gave him some flat plates. He said he wouldn't use the microwave without having flat plates because he says the curves on the plate cause the microwaves to heat unevenly or something like that. I told him that mom could pick me up and we could go looking for them and then he hid my mittens. He says if I can find the mittens I can go with mom to the store. He knows I don't like to go out in the cold without them. Where would a man hide his wife's mittens and where can I get flat plates? I just want my husband to be happy and I want to be able to do some things with mom tonight and tommorow.

2006-11-09 08:33:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous