I have been in a relationship with my husband for 6 yrs i have been emotionally, verbal, and sometimes physical abused. He is very controlling and goes into rages when I don't listen or do wat he says. Lately I have not wanted to have any sexual contact with him and every night we fight cause I just want to go straight to bed. Is this normal sometimes I think to my sellf I shouldn't be like this but I just don't want to. Could it be cause of all the things he has done to me?
2006-11-09 09:16:37 · 23 answers · asked by yellow_lady916 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like the weak sex life is the least of your problems. You know, second to the years of physical and mental abuse and fits of violent rage.
2006-11-09 09:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
abuse can and will and does effect or emotional sight... ppl who are abused in any form do not see the pleasures that intamacy can bring... with such a controlling and abusive husband I would call your NO sex drive normal... You see it as part of his controlling behavior, which I might add, is prob. how he sees it too... to an abuser, sex is another channel of control... I suggest strongly, that you take issue FIRST with the out side abuse, the physical, emotional and verbal, then the other stuff.... YOU need to come to terms with the fact that with out help HE will always be who he is, and even with help, he may always be that... go to a womans shelter and talk to some one about how to start taking care of YOU.... do a search or look in the yellow pages for the nearest help.. they may be able to come to you if it is impossible for you to get to them... If you have friends, let them help you...Deal with the real issues !!! the sex is just a side issue and NOT the real...... God bless
2006-11-09 09:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who in their right mind want to be sexual with a person who is so abusive? You have every right not to want sex with your husband. What does he expect, to call you every name in the book, beat the crap out of you then expect you to feel safe enough to open up! It makes no sense. I really really hope that you can work up the courage to leave him. You shouldn't be with a man who treats you like a piece of garbage on the side of the road..you are worth so much more than that.
2006-11-09 09:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO you have every right to not want to have sex with this man, he is an UGLY person he is abusive to you and he still wants to have sex what a pig. You need to get out of this situation all together, why are you still with him if he is so nasty to you, get out and seek help do not let him treat you this way he is never going to change and you are obviously not happy
2006-11-09 09:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering how your husband has been treating you, it's normal for you to not want sex with him. You probably should consider a divorce, because if you continue in this relationship things will only get worse. Good luck.
2006-11-09 09:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be. I know when me and wifey get in arguments, she may want to have make up sex afterwards, but I don't want to be touched until I'm over the argument. Maybe your in a longer term version of that because of your fights.
2006-11-09 09:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO IT ISN'T NORMAL FOR A WOMAN TO BE ABUSED EVER IN ANY WAY. YOU NEED TO TALK TO FAMILY AND GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP. I HOPE YOU DON'T HAVE KIDS AND IF YOU DO EVEN MORE REASON TO GO. I WISH U THE BEST.
I CAN'T EVEN BELIEVE YOU HAD TO ASK IF IT IS NORMAL FOR YOU TO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX W/YOUR HUSBAND. WHO WOULD WANT TO SLEEP W/ SOMEONE THAT ABUSED THEM?
2006-11-09 09:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by ROSIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mind and heart are not nurtured, your body doesn't want or enjoy sex the way it should or could thus making it an undesirable event. Under the circumstances, it is completely understandable.
2006-11-09 09:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't want to have sex with someone that was abusing me emotionally, verbally, and physically abusing me either.....
ooohhh to bad for you....try counseling.
2006-11-09 09:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by girlegyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could this also have something to do with the guy in Iraq that you're talking to on the internet? Worth considering based on your prior question.
2006-11-09 09:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋