we have discussed getting married...he says that he needs to get the money together to get an engagement ring... (the one i picked out is less than $400)...so, i have waited, and waited...and i watch him blow money on video games, and miscellaneous other things... i am not trying to be a little princess, but i want him to propose so bad... do you think it is just not a priority for him...or am i just being too needy...?
2006-11-09 09:17:23 · 14 answers · asked by justpeachy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol.. just young at heart. I am 35 nad he is 40. I have a 3/4 carat diamond to set in an engagment band (the band is only $400)
2006-11-09 09:21:35 · update #1
I don't think you are being too needy...you know what you want. I think because you have been in a relationship with him, he doesn't feel the rush. There shouldn't be a rush. Just wiat, like you have been doing...who know...maybe he is saving to get you a better ring...or waiting for the most spectacular proposal...or wiating until it feels like his idea...know what I mean? Just hang in there, and don't pressure... good luck, and congratulations in advance.
2006-11-09 09:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 40 yr old that blows money on the video games? Doesn't have $400? Sounds like he is been playing these video games his whole life and will continue even after he proposes you ( if he ever does) and well after he marries you.
Why do you want to marry this guy? Just use him for sex and his company and trash him when his replacement walks by.
2006-11-09 09:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by pp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's just not wanting a big production. How big of a deal is it to you?
Maybe the suggestion of "You know... Christmas is coming... why don't we give ourselves a wedding as a gift to each other..." might go a long way. Plan something small... and maybe forego getting the engagement ring and spend it on a set of wedding bands.
Besides... he can always get the diamond set for you for Valentine's day or a birthday.
2006-11-09 09:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Suzuki_Mouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a priority.
Besides... If he sincerely cannot find $400 to spend on a ring - are you SURE you want to have him as a husband? He's obviously not a good provider. But, I'm willing to bet that this is not a money issue, but an issue of priorities - and your engagement is very low on his list.
2006-11-09 09:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right, he will ask you. Obviously, he isn't ready to get married yet. If he really wanted to, he could have bought you that ring you wanted instead of the video games and what not. But don't look down on him for it. Be thankful he is waiting for the right time to ask instead of just rushing into it. You may be ready but he may not be. Just don't push it because you will push him away. I'm sure he'll ask you when he's ready..and when he does, it will be amazing. Just stick with it girlfriend and you'll be just fine! Good Luck!
2006-11-09 09:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he isn't ready for the commitment. He could be set in his ways and doesn't want to commit. Its easy to talk about but not so easy to do. You should sit him down and talk to him. Ask him if he really wants to get married or is just saying that to you to appease you. If he isn't ready to marry you or maybe even doesn't really want to be married your the one who has to decide whether you want to be with him or someone who will commit. How important is being married? Everyone is different. If he says he is committed to getting married pinpoint a date and make him stick with it. If he says he is trying to save money ask him how much he has saved and tell him you will throw in the rest and see what his reaction is. Good Luck
2006-11-09 09:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to get you a whole new ring do not be pushy.
If you are he may just call it quits. But really 40 buying videogames are you sure he is not a child in a man suit.
2006-11-09 20:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's stalling.....either ask him or cut the ties, set your stone in a cool band, wear it on your right hand, and enjoy your life. Who says the man has to do the proposing and ring buying anyway...don't we want equality?
2006-11-09 10:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to marry someone who obviously doesn't want to be married to you???? You both sound immature - you sound very high maintenance and he sounds like he's avoiding the question.
Grow up and move on - it "ain't" going to happen.
2006-11-09 09:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ask him what is going on and is there a problem. MAybe he has a commitment problem...the only way your going to find out is if you be upfront open and honest. :) I know its frustrating, but if hes a good man, he's worth it. Just be honest.
2006-11-09 09:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by baby13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋