Marriage & Divorce - 9 November 2006

(confused?? I am!)Since he left me, we stayed in touch. I've never asked him to come back or even told him that I am still so much in-love with him. I think it's obvious anyway to say it. Anyway, we are friends with benefits. But it's all up to me when I want him over. I made it clear to him that he better be honest with me when he starts dating/sleeping with other women, becauseI wouldn't want any part of him! For some reason this is helping me ease the pain and I figured since he still my husband and I don't sleep around (he's also my first) I can deal with it. It is clear to me that this does not mean getting back together. But for some reason, I get a feeling that he might be interested again. Just too proud to say anything. I know he checks me out when we're togheter and he has not declined any of my invitations. I've gotten him to stay over (entire weekend), had breakfast, gone to the movies, shop and dinner. Could he be re-thinking about us? or is it just purely "sex"?

2006-11-09 04:56:24 · 26 answers · asked by betrayed 1

Married women are you the one who start touching and kissing your hubby before making love or you wait for him .What is he is tired and or he is not in a mood.

2006-11-09 04:53:17 · 9 answers · asked by Baby 2

I am finally happy where we r. we have a nice house liive in a nice area great schools for the kids, and he wants it all thrown away to move! I put my foot down and told him I am not leaving if he wants to move he's on his own! Not sure if he is convinced or not! I really dont want to throw our marriage down the drain, but I really cant move anymore! Our kids r happy and doin great in school, and they have a lot of friends! What would u do? Am I right for standing my ground? He's truly a great guy, but I am not moving anywhere! I would think if he loves his family enuf he'd decide not to move and do whats right! Ugh I am just not sure what to do! Tired of argueing about it! If he wants to go then go more power to him! But he will do it alone! Oh and the kids already said they dont want to move either, ages 3, 5, & 7. So am I right on this one let him go by himself if he wants to go?

2006-11-09 04:52:51 · 18 answers · asked by woohooo 4

Do guys really go for romance or what? I can remember "back in the day" little memories of us..Is it all worth the tourcher..or by now has it all just burned out and I am holding on to it?

2006-11-09 04:51:28 · 12 answers · asked by giveu2tictacs 5

what is the womens rights when in a divorce situation in the first year my friend was told by her ex that she was not allowed to see anyone else until after one year, there is property involved no children. and her ex says she has to keep in communication cause of the property she feels like he is controlling her cause he stilil calls and gets mad at her if she does not answer grrrr any answers

2006-11-09 04:49:08 · 1 answers · asked by David R 1

We got in a fight this weekend. and usually the one who needs sex the most gives in first and apologizes. I was using my vibe so I wouldn't give in. And now he's hid it!! How can I get him back!

2006-11-09 04:48:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

What would you say, when a couple that has been married for 5 years. The wife had an abortion behind her husbands back after their 1rst child. The husband found out months later when she was pregnant with their 2nd child by the doctor that she had an abortion just few months back. (He had NO IDEA). The husband found again she had a 2nd abortion after their 3rd child was born, by accidentally. He blasted at her, so she left and moved in with her parents…. DO YOU THINK SHE CHEATED on her husband, that’s why she hid both times she had abortions?? Or what can it be???

2006-11-09 04:47:47 · 6 answers · asked by fairytale_chic 1

I've been married 11 years.I have always had doubts about my marriage My mom pushed me on him. We married when I got pregnant. I didn't love him. I told myself I would make the best of it. I have developed feelings for him,but we've never had things in common or a connection. He has been distant, cold, selfish, and occasionally abusive, both physically and verbally.I told myself that this was a normal. Everyone has problems but last year when he shoved me and I got a concussion a light went off and I knew this was wrong. the abuse hasn't been constant, but about once a year it does get violent, he snaps quickly and breaks things alot I've begged him for 3 years to work on our marriage but he just ignored me. I was not a priority for him. 6 mths ago I met a guy from my past. I love him. Hubby found out and now decides he wants to treat me right and work on us. I say too late. he's had many chances. but he won't let go. he wants a chance to redeem himself.We have 2 kids,4 and 11.help!

2006-11-09 04:44:00 · 23 answers · asked by Kat 1

If your wife or girlfriend couldn't work a job but did everything around the house and indulged every sexual whim you had, would you resent her not working a job?

2006-11-09 04:36:57 · 26 answers · asked by libra10 1

my mom cheated on my dad and after my first love, i cheated on every boyfriend i had until now. i have been married almost a year and it hasnt been hard NOT to cheat. but now... its not that i desparately need to sleep with someone else, i just cant get it out of my head. please help! any advice, insight... whatever you can give me!

2006-11-09 04:35:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married to my wife for over 8 years and together for 10 years. I found out 3 weeks ago that she wanted a divorce. Once I found this out I started snopping around her stuff. I found a halloween card from another man that said he couldn't wait to make love to her again. I kicked her out of the house. I have really strong feelings for her still. It seems that she has no feelings for me. How can I move on with my life. It just feel like she is still there but just distant to me.

2006-11-09 04:26:33 · 20 answers · asked by beachdog 1

I've been working as a male escourt and I'm not sure how to tell my wife about it. We have an open marriage but I haven't been open about this aspect. I'm afraid if I tell her she will make me stop, but I don't want to since the money is pretty good! How do I handle this situation????????

2006-11-09 04:25:48 · 9 answers · asked by open_phunguy 3

MY BEST FRIEND HAS A GREAT HUSBAND AND SHE CHEATED ON HIM ONE TIME, NOW SHE THINKS SHE SHOULD LEAVE HIM BECAUSE SHE DOSEN'T DESERVE HIM. I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO TELL HER. SHE HAS ALWAYS HAD PROBLEMS OF WANTING ATTENTION FROM GUYS. I AM NOT MAKING EXCUSES FOR HER BEHAVIOUR BUT, I THINK IT IS BECAUSE HER DAD WAS NEVER AROUND. WHAT SHOULD I TELL MY FRIEND?

2006-11-09 04:23:57 · 12 answers · asked by just me and my crew 2

for a good reason, severely brain damaged....which i feel is a good reason...but do not judge..when the person says..'OH WE COULD NOT GET ALONG???..(THE HUSBAND IS WELL TAKEN CARE OF IN A CARING HOME)...she has the kids to raise...(Those judging did NOT walk in her terrible shoes)....

2006-11-09 04:21:20 · 7 answers · asked by sweet 4

2006-11-09 04:20:07 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-09 04:19:51 · 17 answers · asked by _DestroyingAngel_ 3

Ok this question is for happily married women or ladies in a deeply loving relationship. No disrepectful answers please. Ok....

The other day I was vaccuuming. I found myself on my knees vaccuuming where the carpet meets the wall, in all the cracks that no one notices. I was HAPPY to do it because I thought, the house will be extra clean when my man gets home from work. Then I thought, I'm a fool. Nah, I'm not a fool, I want to make his (OUR) house nice. Then I think about the amount of stuff I do around here for him. I do a lot. Bascially all he does is work (very hard) and pay bills. I do everything else. But I'm not sad about it. I can't believe I don't mind cooking dinner every nite and cleaning up after. I do everything house-wise. I look forward to when he gets home and I dream up little sexy scenarios for us. We've been dating 4 years and living together 3 months. I'm really happy in this role where I never thought I would be. Am I making sense? Share

2006-11-09 04:19:33 · 22 answers · asked by Ade 6

i was a young parent i never signed my rights away and the lady that has my son keeps me from seeing him i went to legal services to get legal help they denied me due to a conflict of intrest on her part i dont have the money to fight this i havent seen my son in 7 yrs i love him so very much and there is not one day that goes past that i dont think of him all i want to do is be apart of his life again and be a mother to him what should i do someone please help me there are so many days when i feel like just giving up but i cant because i dont want him to resent me for it i dont want to hurt him anymore than i already have .she is not stable she moves from state to state what should i do to get my son back.

2006-11-09 04:08:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can a married man work 50 hours a week (my hubby I'm talking about) with a Brittany Spears look alike, and not cheat?

2006-11-09 04:04:55 · 33 answers · asked by sky 1

my husband has been very distant and i'm going crazy trying to get him to show any emotions on anything. we used to be so loving towards each other but nowadays he 's being more of an a**hole and i can't deal with it. it's to the point of me wanting to punch his lights out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! is there anyone who knows what i'm going through and can give me some advice on how to resolve my problem.

2006-11-09 04:04:32 · 10 answers · asked by rbm_0214 2

2006-11-09 04:01:36 · 12 answers · asked by Cory 1

Married, with no kids and you feel like your in a dead end marriage. You meet someone online (who has a few major problems them self-drinking, lack of job) but despite all this you kind of fall for him. Problem is your still in your dead end marriage, and this man wants an immediate commitment-despite all problems and concerns. Do you throw fate to the wind and let the pieces fall where they may or do you use caution and common sense? (and in the mean time lose the new person)

2006-11-09 04:00:03 · 11 answers · asked by The Unknown 2

feel like i should have been the husband and him the wife. well, i am not a husband and wanna keep it that way.

2006-11-09 03:59:28 · 3 answers · asked by havingfun 4

...if so, was this because you met the love of your life, because YOU made a choice that one was better than many, are you still wondering, or....

2006-11-09 03:56:55 · 11 answers · asked by Yenelli 2

2006-11-09 03:56:04 · 7 answers · asked by ESSAM a 1

He left me for her 8 months ago and now he calls and comes around and wants me to go to PTA meetings with him and out for pizza with the kids ( I tell him no thanks) and he happens to show up where I have lunch and yet I am told by others that he still hangs around with the village sluuut although she tells people that they are just friends. We have kids so I can't completely divorce myself from him. I told him don't call, don't come around, we can transfer the kids through his parents or mine so that we don't have to see one another and that if there is a question about the kids he can email it. Is that too harsh or not harsh enough?

2006-11-09 03:53:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Everytime my husband and I fight my daughter likes to get into the middle. She doesn't want him there because he disciplines her and I work alot plus go to school so I'm not at home alot of the times. We are having problems, he's staying somewhere else. She gets mad because I talk to him. He's my husband why wouldn't I talk to him? I tell her to mind her own business but she tells me it is her business because it effects her too. How can I tell her that whatever happens in my marriage is between him and I?

2006-11-09 03:49:49 · 11 answers · asked by FEDUP!! 2

Does he try to explain it and you still can't understand?
Do you just roll your eyes and say 'it's a male thing'?
Do you have something he just can't understand?

2006-11-09 03:45:57 · 14 answers · asked by S K 7

My girlfriend has confided that she wants a black male stripper for her birthday. She said that if I got her one, she would allow me one wish also, like my fantasy about her dressing up like a maid. She said that she has been faithful and would just like one fantasy and would not ask for more. She stresses that I would be the only one who benefits from her being turned on--she would attack me shortly after the strippers performance. She says that she would not do anything sexual with the stripper, but would touch his big package if I agree. If not, she would just look. Should she get it out of her system? She IS a faithful woman and is extremely open with me. She says that she is 25 this year and would like to do one crazy thing before we marry. I have had much more sexual experience than her and she thinks this would even the playing field, so that she has no regrets when she settles down. Rather than sneak around, she wants my blessing. Its just a stripper. Should I agree?

2006-11-09 03:45:04 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend has been married for two years, two kids 18months and a six week old. Saturday night she called me at 3.18am and 3.39am. I didnt hear the phone ring, next day i called her and the phone would go right into voicemail. Not like her at all. I called Monday left a message, its now thursday and she has not called back. Not like her. She has had problems with her hubby before and he rubs me the wrong way, he looks like a control freak. She has left him before and come to stay with me, so of course he dislikes me coz i protect her, love her like a sister. The question is should i go to her house and check on her? What if its nothing and am being paranoid? Since she got married and moved i dont visit her unannouced.

2006-11-09 03:43:53 · 13 answers · asked by reene2g 4