My girlfriend has confided that she wants a black male stripper for her birthday. She said that if I got her one, she would allow me one wish also, like my fantasy about her dressing up like a maid. She said that she has been faithful and would just like one fantasy and would not ask for more. She stresses that I would be the only one who benefits from her being turned on--she would attack me shortly after the strippers performance. She says that she would not do anything sexual with the stripper, but would touch his big package if I agree. If not, she would just look. Should she get it out of her system? She IS a faithful woman and is extremely open with me. She says that she is 25 this year and would like to do one crazy thing before we marry. I have had much more sexual experience than her and she thinks this would even the playing field, so that she has no regrets when she settles down. Rather than sneak around, she wants my blessing. Its just a stripper. Should I agree?
2006-11-09 03:45:04 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, since you are white, and since I have known a few call girls who say there is no difference in size between black men and white men (But maybe she doesn't know this) I actually had an ex bring me to a strip club for HER birthday (My present at her wish-WHY this? dunno) My ex is Middle-Eastern, and she knows I am attracted to darker women-and the signs of jealousy from the blondes by us-compared to the Columbianas or Mexicanas, were HUGE in difference. I still wonder why we went (But my intel is bad-henceforth my handle), it was strange (Picture Inspector Columbo rubbing his chin and saying "I just can't figure it out" lol). It is my opinion she is attracted to black men-or-from the "even the playing field" statement, maybe you should act a little worried or jealous when a guy you know is her type is around so she feels more secure that you won't cheat, it's a pain in the neck sometimes, but helps. >>It is the woman on the way to see someone she's attracted to, that flirts the most (as if to ask, am I attractive?) remember this. But also, punch this into your search engine.......
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2006-11-09 04:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by For sure 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you have a problem. This may very well be a fantasy she has now. However it speaks volumes about her lack of experience with men. While she may think this one last wild thing will be enough it seldom is. She next will always wonder what it would have been like to have such a well endowed lover.
If she has this fantasy you can better believe she only sees you as average to below in size. While that is not that important with most woman it is something they always wonder about.
She is to be commended for telling you this up front. Not trying to do it with girl friends and leave you out. This says she loves you.
However to me....it represents her curiosity of what she may have missed by not getting more experience before marriage.
Beware of what may be down the road.
I personally would not like this. But that is just me. You do need however to sit down with her and have a long talk about your relationship. Look beyond what is said and see the real meaning.
I married for the first time at 23. The love of my life. We were married for 37 years. She however had 7 affairs during our early years that I did not know of until many years later. It like to kill me but I worked through it.
She had one final one almost 5 years ago and that was that.
I am married again. She lives alone.
Be very careful here. Don't let this happen to you. Be very sure of her love for you. I chose to ignore what I saw in my marriage and it cost me dearly. And I don't mean financially.
2006-11-09 04:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're open minded, this girl is a KEEPER.
If you're an insecure guy who can't handle her having interest in other men as objects of lust, then she's not for you.
Best case scenario: your wife will be a freak in the bedroom and you can enjoy threesomes, foursomes, swinging, extramarital girlfriends and anything else you'd want to experience - all knowing that your spouse will still fall asleep on your chest at the end of it all. Your marriage will be rock solid and full of adventure.
Worst case scenario: you will be paranoid throughout your marriage and eventually divorce when she tires of your attitude or just cheats on you to get laid elsewhere.
You have some long discussions with your fiance' to make; whether or not you marry hangs in the balance. Find out how far she's willing to carry her interests and how far you're willing to go with her.
2006-11-09 03:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bless her heart for being so open and honest with you. Let's face the fact, your girlfriend is extremely sexually turned on by black men. She wants black meat so bad, she has even confessed it to you. Ooooh, she will only grab his big long trouser blacksnake with both hands if you say she can. Once she gets her hands on that huge hunk of c**k and sees it growing harder and longer in her hands, think maybe she might want to taste it? You gonna let her suck on it a little bit? You know deep down, she wants too. After the birthday party, all she will fantasize about is big black c**k. He desire will eventually become so strong that she'll have to have some. Maybe you'll be ok with that too.
2006-11-09 04:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe... Maybe not
She may just be testing the waters, if she is truly faithful and YOU trust her, then the harm is little to none, but is she enjoys the lifestyle then you may run the risk of getting involved in something bigger down the line.
Many married couples participate in what is known as a swinger lifestyle. They love only each other but sex is often with other swinging couples.... Not saying it is where you are headed, but it seems to have all of the trademarks...
2006-11-09 03:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, you're running a great risk here but it seems like with her asking you for this that she is really a great girl. You should do it for her. It would even the playing field and get out of her system any wild thoughts that might drive her to being unfaithful later. Plus it shows her just how secure in your relationship you are with her.
2006-11-09 03:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're feeling uncomfortable with it, tell her, if you have this open honest relationship, she will deal, and should respect it. There are other lots of crazy things she can do and it doesn't matter who has had more sexual experience, or to even the playing field. I didn't realize sex was a competition. You are suppose to be married in the future, shouldn't you be already settled and not worried about playing the field or missed adventures. Maybe she should rethink or you for that matter if she is actually ready to marry.
2006-11-09 03:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by Elvira 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you are OK with it and don't think it will have negative effects on your future relationship with her then go for it but only if she is OK with you having the same privileges with another female. The offer to 'get' to do something with her should be the norm not a bonus. Oh and I am assuming that you would be present during this 'show'. If she doesn't want that then dump her.
2006-11-09 03:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by dano 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should but on the other hand it doesnt sound like she is ready to stop having her fun and buckle down and get married. I dont know anything about the two of you but I think that you should let her do it, its important for people to experience the things that they want to because utimately they will be unhappy and wonder what if and you dont want that. So if you feel that she will stop at just that I would agree to it. Let her get out of her system so that when you do get married there is wanting to do something before you get married and the same goes for you. Just think about that. You will be happier in the end if you get things out of your system before getting married or having children.
2006-11-09 03:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
yea you should, and make sure that you tell her that you trust her and that you love her and believe that she would never cheat on you. Honestly, you shouldn't worry about that, she loves you, let her have some fun for her birthday and then she will come back to you and make you happy and do all those things that the stripper would be wishing for to you! have fun!
2006-11-09 03:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋