He left me for her 8 months ago and now he calls and comes around and wants me to go to PTA meetings with him and out for pizza with the kids ( I tell him no thanks) and he happens to show up where I have lunch and yet I am told by others that he still hangs around with the village sluuut although she tells people that they are just friends. We have kids so I can't completely divorce myself from him. I told him don't call, don't come around, we can transfer the kids through his parents or mine so that we don't have to see one another and that if there is a question about the kids he can email it. Is that too harsh or not harsh enough?
2006-11-09 03:53:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are being unreasonable. It not that you said he was beating you or anything. You will have to have some contact with him. You are teaching your children to avoid situations. This is one you shouldn't avoid. If you aren't in any danger around him, then see him at PTA meetings and talk to him on the phone about the children. You don't have to lunch with him but you do have to maintain some contact for the sake of your children. Be a woman about it.
2006-11-09 03:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is not harsh at all, it sounds very civilized and arranged to minimize contact with someone that you have distaste for, but still will treat civilly because of the children.
You are to be commended for such a mature and respectful separation. Most women would be setting the village skank on fire, and chasing after "my man" with everything hanging out in an attempt to win him back!
2006-11-09 11:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit pussyfooting around and get the divorce. Not doing so makes you look like Joe-jerkoff. If he wants to dally around with another broad so be it. What are you gaining by staying married huh? This is a silly game that the both of you are playing. Either make the clean break and set up support and visitation or keep looking foolish.
The choice is yours.
2006-11-09 11:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Guess The Grass Wasn't greener on the other side of the fence so he think's he can jump back to where he Know's what was Up.
My opinion Not Harsh enough.
2006-11-09 12:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are moving on with your life just like he did 8 months ago... and that if he does not stay away from you, you will get a restraining order... then, he will be arrested when he comes around you.
2006-11-09 11:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well depnds on if you mean harsh on him or harsh on the kids
well as for him he'll know harsh when he reallizes that he;s the biggest most screwed up peice of crap failure of a father who is not Gods gift to women as he originally thought
as for the kids i'm sure you reallize how hard all this will be on them. they're in the same position as you for the most part. accept for them it's both of you not just their one significant other it;s both of their loved ones. you didn't say how young they were but it never changes for the kids until they're old enough to move out on their own. my parents are divorced and that was probably the hardest part of my life.
i know it hurts having the one you love walk out on you. but that's his retardedness. your kids need you now both of you just seperatley. your kids have had their dad walk out on them and you need to be there for them. just because you hate your husband you have to remember that your kids love you and they aren't the ones who picked up and left you for the town bicycle. they still love you just the same as they always have.
2006-11-09 12:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its awesome actually ! It's too bad for him and im glad things didn't work out for them . Hopefully he didn't catch anything but he is polluted for life now . They have to find a better way to control that kind of pollution .
2006-11-09 12:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i dont think its harsh enough..he left you for some home recker and now wants his cake and to eat it too..you know, you can get a restraining order on him and social services will take the kids back and forth to him for you..just a thought..
2006-11-09 11:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Nikkib 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing exactly as you should. He's obviously learned what stupid mistake he's made but he still has to live with the decision no matter how much he regrets it. Stay strong, but don't go to the bad place.
2006-11-09 11:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not too harsh. You want nothing to do with him so keep him at bay. Obviously he wants to eat his cake and have it too which is too late now. (Yes, I said EAT his cake and HAVE it too, not the other way around which is wrong)
2006-11-09 11:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋