Marriage & Divorce - 9 November 2006

I have caught my husband in bed with another woman, I am devastated and torn apart...because of his job the house is tied to his job and I have no where to go with my children...what can I do and how can I deal with the hurt?

2006-11-09 21:36:36 · 40 answers · asked by GM 1

Some of my friends say their wives hit them when they quarrel, but they always refrain from fighting or hitting back.
Is there an unwritten rule that a man should not hit a woman ?

2006-11-09 21:33:34 · 36 answers · asked by Toshihiro 3

it seems to me that some women pick men knowin what they are like marry them, try to change them and get stressed when they cant and blame the men for not being good enuff.

why???

2006-11-09 21:27:26 · 20 answers · asked by uk_louis_1986 2

looks is not very important for me but my wavelength should match with his.
none of the guys appeal to me..
very confused & tensed whether i will get the kind of guy im seeking.

2006-11-09 21:24:49 · 20 answers · asked by ranya 1

what i mean is i marry here in the phils. for my first husband then now after 4 years i wanted to marry again to the other man in the other country and if it valid that i can marry to the other country even i not yet file an annulment here?

2006-11-09 21:23:13 · 6 answers · asked by monic 1

2006-11-09 21:16:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-09 21:01:41 · 6 answers · asked by ? 5

We have been together for 10 months now. I was married when we met and I left my wife of 20 years to be with her. The marriage was not good. It has been a struggle for us since I left the marriage as she is feeling guilty and we are truly getting to know each other. I found out after I left the marriage that I was not the first married guy that she had been with and that it was almost a pattern for her. She says that it was just easier for her as she didn't have to make an emotional committment. Tonight I told her that she either commit to our relationship or it was time to get out. I do think she is in love with me but she has become distant since the marriage broke up. I am totally in love with her, but I'm not sure if we can get through this mess we've created. How do two people regain the trust and love they once had? It seems that all we do is fight and I just want her to love me like she used to. By the way, she is 38 and never been married with no children.

2006-11-09 20:58:35 · 6 answers · asked by yamaha bassman 2

Hello, I have been up all night I am struggling how to take the next step. My wife Stephanie, we have been together for 8 years. One year married. She just told me that she loves me but not enough to stay married. She tells me that I am a great husband, and great father to our four kids. She wants to split up and see if she really wants the marriage. She thinks that she is not the married type. She said that she loved me more before getting married. But she still tells me that she loves me and really wants to work out things. I suggested a marriage counselor. But she doesn't want to do a marriage counselor. I love her with all of my heart and I am heartbroken that she wants to split up. She says that she loves me. I know she has a lot of stuff going on. She is stay at mom fulltime same time going to school full time dealing with 4 kids at home. On tuesdays I am off all day from work watching kids, and wednesday night i watch kids so she can go to school. Lately she has been distant.

2006-11-09 20:50:31 · 14 answers · asked by Jot 2

wanted nothing else when I got there than to be with my partner, so I told him I'd like to come home early to be with him and he said he'd collect me but he'd just done the kid's dinner and I'd stressed him out asking. I told him it didn't matter, I didn't mind waiting for him and I'd just stay out if it was inconvenient for him to get me. He went mad! I had apparrently wasted his time. If I loved him I'd have just made a decision and stuck to it and not messed him about. I tried to explain that I was just trying to be nice. He proceeded to tell me I was ridiculous, that he still loved me, 'unfortunately', but it was a cross to bear, I wanted to talk, sort it out, but he told me I didn't listen, that it was my fault and eventually said 'I'm going to have to gag you 'cos it's the only way I'll shut you up'! He didn't mean it literally! I'm at work now, devastated. Doubt he'll call/contact me. What do I do? I just want it all to be ok. Please help. Should I call him?:(

2006-11-09 20:47:50 · 4 answers · asked by lila 1

I am still very much in love with my ex. Even though he is now married. To me he is perfect and I compare every guy to him. I am afraid I will never meet anyone as good as him. Please help!

2006-11-09 20:40:45 · 15 answers · asked by met_expectaions 1

Please help, I'm so low.
I've been with my partner for 7 years nearly, I am 22 and he's 52. We met via a residential trip from school when I was 16. I saw him only once a week and he caused me a lot of pain, then on my 21st bday I found out he was married with kids.
He eventually left his wife and I took him back, loved him so much. I really got screwed up though, found it hard to trust him and kids difficult to deal with. We live together now but it won't be for much longer if something doesn't change.
I love and want him but I'm very anxious, his ex wife causes probs etc, and I get scared a lot that I'm going to make him mad at me. He never admits responsibility for anything, blaming me for every argument and calling me irrational and paranoid. I never think I've done anything malicious to him and often make romantic surprises for him. I love him constantly but I can't seem to avoid annoying him. Last night I had gone out for a farewell drink with a close colleague and

2006-11-09 20:37:43 · 14 answers · asked by lila 1

Las vegas and file for divorce and it will be granted . I mean the person I married is in Europe does it make a difference . I need out now !!!

2006-11-09 20:33:28 · 2 answers · asked by wishingstar5555 3

well i will travel on sunday...for studying reasons...i have been married for 2 monthes....i am dying to spend more time with my husband...but i feel he is neglecting that...on the contraray he is doing other things that sitting and talking to me..even he used to have lunch with me everyday...but today he didnt want to come...i told him...that i will be travelling on sunday...how that he doesnt want to spend every minute with me...well after i begged him,,,he said ok...i will come,,,,but really i feel shocked...i feel that he doesnt love me that much...and i feel he wont miss my presence and that my absence wont bother him...from my experience if u love someone and he will leave so soon...you will dying to spend the remaining time in his arms...but his attitude is very strange...so what do u think...

2006-11-09 20:29:37 · 6 answers · asked by caramella 1

2006-11-09 20:26:23 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my partner for 8 yrs and we hardly ever have sex. It is mainly because I do not feel like it! When we do have sex I do not really enjoy it much. He gets overexcited and it is all over before I can even start to get into it. I know he can do other things which he does, we are open minded and try various stuff. I do, however, feel like I would like better penetrative sex instead of it always being a disappointment.

Any ideas how to deal with this? We have tried some exercises but it has not worked either. I just want to have a sex life that we both enjoy and at the moment this is not looking too promising!!!

Thanks

2006-11-09 20:23:02 · 29 answers · asked by Stephanie C 3

2006-11-09 20:18:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

and there is no heavy traffic as we live in a rural area. Should I be suspicious or is this normal behavior?

2006-11-09 20:11:04 · 26 answers · asked by perfectlady 1

What made you realized your spouse is the one you want to get married to? What quality made him/her stand out from the rest of people you had relationship with?

2006-11-09 19:55:16 · 12 answers · asked by Sweetie 3

Yep, my legs ache,my head aches in the morning, im having chest pain. Im tired to working. I wanna be able to sit and home and take care of my son. Hubby has a mistress. I'm still living with him because of our sons emotional state of mind, expenses and like i mentioned, i cant work anymore. I wanna leave him but if i do, i'd have to slog and work until kingdom come. He doesnt love me, doesnt touch me, no sex.. nothing!. I'm simply existing. like a doormat.

2006-11-09 19:50:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

well i have been married for two monthes...and for study reasons i have to travel for 4 monthes...so how can i manage a long distance with my husband...although i feel my love for him is much much more than what he feels towards me...so what do u think...

2006-11-09 19:39:07 · 13 answers · asked by caramella 1

2006-11-09 19:31:24 · 9 answers · asked by mimi 1

you can't get the image of them together out of your head and every time you think of them together you can't breath and you cry uncontrollaby. and you can feel you heart breaking more and more each time.

2006-11-09 19:30:23 · 22 answers · asked by tippy 1

my wife has been in comma for 5 years. i had been faithfull to her for all that time. It has been long. i cant hold it any more. should i stray for awhile?

2006-11-09 19:18:23 · 15 answers · asked by Omar 1

2006-11-09 19:08:04 · 17 answers · asked by jennifer g 1

How can I get my husband to get more romantic in bed?
For the past 1 1/2 years I have been doing ALL of the work and I'm starting to feel like I'm not speacil anymore. I've tryed talking to him about it but it does not change. it seems like he would rather have a BJ than anything else also caught him on porn sites so then I decided to give it to him everyday while watching porn but he started turning it away. And now he will turn an adult show on tv right infront of me and start doing his business without even considering getting me involved. Also his adult shows have to be two women and if a good looking man comes on he will turn it off saying he gets jealous knowing I will see the man. However I had to change my beliefs for him 5years ago I would get jealous about the porn. We used too get into huge fights over it and I figured it was not worth it. but I'm starting to feel like I'm not pretty, good, sexy enough for him anymore and I am young and not bad looking.
Please any advise?

2006-11-09 19:04:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-09 19:01:52 · 2 answers · asked by suriya narayanan 2

well gromed, love to cuddle, snuggle, movies, cart racing, NASCAR, football, making wine, dinners with me cooking it. Having alot of fun and making sure i please my woman.

2006-11-09 18:51:15 · 7 answers · asked by soutahll 1

Throughout our relationship and our marriage I was very stubborn and lazy. I also refused to compromise. Over time, my husband gave up and began acting the same way and he ended up leaving me. We have talked since but he refuses to come over fearing that I have not changed and I am going to be the same negative person I was before. How can I show him that I have changed when he won't even let me see him? It's getting to the point where he will barely answer my phone calls.....

2006-11-09 18:45:35 · 24 answers · asked by ProudToBeWhite 6

I can sometimes hear his name and get sooo angry. How do I concentrate on my positive progress and not remember the hurt sooo much? Any suggestions will be appreciated.

2006-11-09 18:22:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous