Need to stop this before it's too late part 2?

Question

wanted nothing else when I got there than to be with my partner, so I told him I'd like to come home early to be with him and he said he'd collect me but he'd just done the kid's dinner and I'd stressed him out asking. I told him it didn't matter, I didn't mind waiting for him and I'd just stay out if it was inconvenient for him to get me. He went mad! I had apparrently wasted his time. If I loved him I'd have just made a decision and stuck to it and not messed him about. I tried to explain that I was just trying to be nice. He proceeded to tell me I was ridiculous, that he still loved me, 'unfortunately', but it was a cross to bear, I wanted to talk, sort it out, but he told me I didn't listen, that it was my fault and eventually said 'I'm going to have to gag you 'cos it's the only way I'll shut you up'! He didn't mean it literally! I'm at work now, devastated. Doubt he'll call/contact me. What do I do? I just want it all to be ok. Please help. Should I call him?:(

Answer 1

give him some time to cool off before you call him. He might be embarressed about the way he spoke to you & will just ark up again if you call & he isnt ready to talk. Men are odd sometimes, they dont know what they want half the times & the rest of the time they lap up all the love & attention we give.
Give him his space & talk to him about it at a later time once it doesnt seem like such a big deal & he might respond a little nicer. Men dont like to be told they made you feel like dirt so be choosey with your words. Best of luck sweetness :o)

Answer 2

Seriously I think you really need to consider the relationship that both of you is having now. You are still quite young and have plenty of chances to meet other guys who maybe better than him.
Personally I feel that this is just a small issue and yet your partner can make a hill out of a mole which is not healthy in any relationship
My advice to you is that you should seriously consider over this matter and think if you should carry on with such relationship, but I feel that the relationship will not last for long if your partner is always having this type of attitude

Answer 3

Sometimes in relationships we get depedent on the person we are with and it is not healthy. I have been a relationship like that and most people have. Please read this article and there are more like it on the Internet. I hope it helps.

The term "codependency" was coined more than 20 years ago by authors who studied the negative impact of drug and alcohol use on families. Since then, use of the term has been expanded to include a pattern of psychologically unhealthy behaviors that are learned by individuals as a way of coping with a family environment marked by ignored or denied emotional turmoil.

Most people are able to enjoy a sense of healthy, mutual interdependence in their lives. However, people with codependency seem to habitually form relationships that are one-sided and emotionally destructive.

The central feature of codependency is an unhealthy dependence on relationships, usually in an attempt to avoid the feeling of abandonment. Signs and symptoms of codependency include:

Controlling behavior
Mistrust of others
Perfectionism
Avoidance of feelings
Excessive caretaking behavior
Hypervigilance — a heightened awareness for potential threat or danger
If you feel that you or someone you care about may be struggling with codependency issues, consider consulting with a mental health professional who is experienced in working with individuals with these problems. The more you understand about codependency, the more likely meaningful and positive change will occur.

Answer 4

I think sweetie19 has a point. Seeking psychological advice may help you understand why you're so attached to a man who doesn't seem to be treating you very well. It may have to do with the way you look at yourself. I'm not sure and am no expert. But I have seen enough of my friends going through phases of this to know that professional help maybe the beginging of the way out of this painful struggle with yourself.