How can I stop this before it's too late?

Question

Please help, I'm so low.
I've been with my partner for 7 years nearly, I am 22 and he's 52. We met via a residential trip from school when I was 16. I saw him only once a week and he caused me a lot of pain, then on my 21st bday I found out he was married with kids.
He eventually left his wife and I took him back, loved him so much. I really got screwed up though, found it hard to trust him and kids difficult to deal with. We live together now but it won't be for much longer if something doesn't change.
I love and want him but I'm very anxious, his ex wife causes probs etc, and I get scared a lot that I'm going to make him mad at me. He never admits responsibility for anything, blaming me for every argument and calling me irrational and paranoid. I never think I've done anything malicious to him and often make romantic surprises for him. I love him constantly but I can't seem to avoid annoying him. Last night I had gone out for a farewell drink with a close colleague and

Answer 1

im sorry for what im gonna say but seems like hes not worth it, if he leaves his wife and kids, then u know very well he will leave u one day. u know deep down u desreve much more than this, so why keep lettin him puttin udown? dont do this to ur self.
leave now better than late

God bless you, goodluck

Answer 2

Yes. It says in Proverbs 15:23 that " a word at the right time is O how good!" Encouraging expressions from fellow christians and the elders in the congregation could help some on to not give up and to continue in Jehovah's service. If those who are currently apostates and they repent and Jehovah accepts their repentance, they still have a chance too. Some apostates may turn back before the end comes and from the scriptures we know that Jehovah is happy when people choose to return to his organization. Primarily we must be concerned with our spiritual progress so that we don't fall to the wayside.

Answer 3

If you were 16 when you started dating him, he should be in jail.. that is statutory rape..
Im sure one or two of his kids are your age.
What do you think youre doing with someone that much older than you? the age gap is way too much, if you stick with all he is doing now, by the time he is 62, youll be 32 nice and prime, full of life, but youll be all used up, coz no one else would be interested in you at the time, when he is 72, youre 42?? ,, girl, get out of dodge when you can, youre too young to be with this guy. im sure he doesnt like, or even understand 1/3 of the things you like doing as a young person.

Answer 4

Time for you to move on. Doesn't it seem the least bit suspicous that a man in his late 40's was interested in a 16 year old? It's because at the time you weren't emotionally mature,and easy to control. Now you're older,and you see what he's like,and he can't control you any longer.So he needs to beat you emotionally by blaming you for all the problems in the relationship. Any man who is interested in a 16 year old girl is no man he's a child molester. Drop this dishonest,cheating, child molester before you end up with even more problems.

Answer 5

If your hand is beaten by poisonous snake, and there is no antidote to it. What will you do?

Will you let the poison continues to spread and suffer even greater pain before you die? Or will you be willing to cut off the hand, and suffer short term pain once and for all?

I empathize with your pain of going through abnormal relationship with a married man. "True Love" cannot be obtained by robbing or forcing someone into your arm. It has to come naturally from a person heart and has to maintain its purity. When it is contaminated, you may gain the person, but you will not have his heart and even lose your peace. It is either you give up and let him be reconciled with his wife, or all of you continue to suffer pains together.

Answer 6

If this guy never even told you he was married and you were 16 and he was in his 40s he is a dog. Yes older men are extrememly tempting but think about it. What if in ten years of you all being together he goes after someone younger. Drop him. Not to mention he could like have a heart attack any time

Answer 7

Once you knew he was married with kids, you should have left him. No matter what, you have given him, his ex-wife and kids a chance to blame you for the divorce.

If a guy can cheat once on his wife, what's to stop him from doing that to you.

Answer 8

First of all WHAT! you need to stop this affair with this guy who is old enough to be a grandpa to you I know that the whole love is blind thing biut come on either you are a little on the ugly side
or are just to shy to talk to guys your own age or have that father daughter complex.

Answer 9

to start with, u are too small and/or u are not mature enough to get into marriage, u should have waited a little longer,preparing urself for the future by going to school or get urself a good job to do. again looking at the age, the difference is much. plse i'l advise u leave the scene b/cos ur too young to be frustrated. i wouldn't know how far you've gone but in case you just step in pls do yrself a favour to leave and start ur life afresh and God will see u thru for there is nothing too hard for him to. just cast ur burdens upon him for he careth for you.

Answer 10

Typical signs of an abuser. My advise is to care about yourself enough to break up with this person, you can do much better then this old man.