it seems to me that some women pick men knowin what they are like marry them, try to change them and get stressed when they cant and blame the men for not being good enuff.
why???
2006-11-09 21:27:26 · 20 answers · asked by uk_louis_1986 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know what you mean ... it is immaturity, seeing something in a man that isn't there, to live up to her "fantasy" man.
2006-11-09 21:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just need to be enlightened.I beleive in a relationship that both parties should grow,be adaptable.The main thing is wanting things to work and working together.People can change,they evolve.You get wiser as You get older,more experienced;and it`s about tolerating too.
Going back to what You were saying some women get the man to say buy Her this load of requirements,He does that.He can even try His damndest to please Her/change,and at the end of the day,she`ll dump Him anyway.She`s never been interested.She aint gonna change.
You cant always predict how situations develop.The path life leads You,when things change l8r after marriage.You get an indication maybe.The same applies to helping the other partner ,when they need to change for the relationship to continue.At the end of the day it`s down to the other person to change.I`m not talking about personality here.
2006-11-11 06:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by JULIA E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My theory is women like that are manipulative, think they are some sort of expert, and because they have a bodily part most men nearly die to enjoy think they can get away with murder.
Remember, ladies, I said some women!
Two ways to handle it. Say "sure hon," then do as you please, or say "keep this up and I will toss off for a fortnight!"
And for the sake of all that is holy and unholy, I would not get married to a bossy controler. I am the way I am, no apologies. And I can, if I must w@nk for life.
"Still young but learning!"
2006-11-13 05:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL women try and change their man. Have you ever hear a woman compliment her man to her friends? Never. They compete to see who has the worst man, and complain and moan until the cows come home, and then go back to their man and complain that their friends man earns more or bought flowers or comes home earlier.
The solution is simple. Become a monk in Belgium! You get to drink beer and there are no women to nag you. And the monastries might have broadband internet. Maybe. I'm not sure, but its worth a gamble.
2006-11-12 18:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're trying to "improve" them - making them more like how they expect men to be - based on their own father, brother, what their mother told them etc. I'm sure it happens the other way round too - with men trying to change women; except then the men are called control freaks rather than say nags
2006-11-10 05:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by big pup in a small bath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men change after marriage too. They stop listening, work too much and think the money is the most important thing instead of giving love, time and attention to their families. They pretend to give up football 'because you are much more fun and more special' then revert to going away 3/4 times a year to watch matches they can't afford, and leave the mortgage to bounce. They put sport radio on in the car on long trips where you are a captive audience. And they expect sex without making a woman feel loved and safe.
It's a really cruel world, isn't it.
2006-11-10 09:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's in women's nature. After grwoing up around Oprah, Dr. Phil and all those other physcho babble, 'let's change men" freaks, i have come to the conclusion that women feel it's thier responsibility to make men think like them or to bend to what they want in a man, as opposed to letting men be men. Regardless of how great a man is , his wife, g/f is most likely trying to get him to "open up," get in touch with his feelings or some other horse poop. IMO.
2006-11-10 08:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think some women altho' they know what the man is like, they think that if the man loves them enough then they will change for the woman....sadly mistaken Women should learn to love that man for all his faults. They would save a lot of heart ache in the long run. My ex fiance and i were having trouble and i was breaking it off with him (all amicable though) and he started to beg me saying he would change. I told him that he shouldnt have to change or even want to change just because of me. I think in the end he appreciated my honesty and a lot can be learnt by this.
2006-11-10 05:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by heleneaustin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the reason why there are lots of divorces. i think we women just marry the wrong guys most of the time believing we could change their personality. but it is been proven that you can never change someone's personality!
2006-11-10 05:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by wittybaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They think that their levle is really high and they can do anything......Of cores I try something similar. I was really into school and there are some that just don't get it. I try to get them to my levle but that just got me all stress out. I guess somehting like that.
2006-11-10 05:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when men don't like something about their girl and that bothers tem, they just change the girl. when a woman doesn't like something about her man she tries to change him.
I've tried it many times-id doesn't work. Now i'm wt a guy I absolutely adore, there ain't nothing to be changed about him. All yo girls don't try to change your guy, just get another one
2006-11-10 05:36:24 · answer #11 · answered by Dobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋