I can sometimes hear his name and get sooo angry. How do I concentrate on my positive progress and not remember the hurt sooo much? Any suggestions will be appreciated.
2006-11-09 18:22:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ya get over him. You just gotta realize that in the grand scheme of things he is insignificant. He may have hurt you but people hurt eachother all the time. You yourself have probably hurt someone at some point. Everything that happens does so for a reason. You learned a hard lesson on what not to look for in a man and hopefully you picked up on that lesson and it will make the rest of your life easier. Life is what you make it and you can choose to live in the past or to take each lesson you learn along the way and create a wonderful future.
2006-11-09 18:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by jnp3577 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, this would be hard for anyone. I think that you are linking a negative emotion (anger) to the name. Think of a good time you had with each other and CHOOSE to think of this when you hear the name. Then you will think about the great time and use it as a catlyst to other great times...if that makes sense. Or, find someone else with the name and make up a new connotation.
2006-11-09 18:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it and move on, the love of my life left me only because her parents didn't care for me and threatened to kick her out if she stayed, mind you we are in college! and I hear her name everywhere like. There is a street and up one side and down the other all the roads and apartments are Ashley place Ashley court, then you got the furniture ads Ashley all the time. Not to mention 4 million Ashley's in the world. I like thinking of her as it was the best relationship I ever had but you cannot let things like that get to you or you will lose your mind.
-NmD!
2006-11-09 18:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must forgive him for causing you so much pain. The fact is you chose a looser and now you hurt. Once you forgive him then do not think about him and move on to be happy. Concentrate on what you are doing with dedication. Dismiss the thoughts that disturb you
2006-11-09 18:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by R C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember the things that ended your relationship. Whenever you run into his friends, just be indifferent, don't say anything negative, because that is what he wants to hear.. You may always feel some sort of resentment, but just remember, so does he...
2006-11-09 18:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by pussnboots333 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it can be hard sometimes when the name is linked to the memories. One good thing you can do though, is become friends with someone with the same name and then the name will be linked to him and you will forget all about your ex
2006-11-09 19:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in the mind....when you are READY & WILLING to let go, it will just start to happen and you won't even care less anymore when you hear his name and you will be as cool as ice....It takes different people different amount of time to reach this stage depending when they accept to put the past behind them and move forward in life as they realize they can not change anything that happened in the past anyways.
Ride the course of your positiveness and force him out of your mind..
Good luck.
2006-11-09 18:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mark n 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you haven't moved on to a more meaningful relationship you might try finding a true friend that you could build a relationship up to take pkace of the hurt that you feel
fill it with more positive feelings and every time you feel that hurt
feelings coming out call youe friend
just be careful to pick someone that you are not trying
to date it could backfire
2006-11-09 18:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by angels kids 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the past in the past or else you will never have a future! If you are angry with him about something then you need to deal with that issue and put him behind you.
2006-11-09 18:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cashmere621 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what to say but i understand where your coming from i live in a small city and every day i am asked about that @#$% woman that was in my life wher is she why don't we see you together dammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm lol e mail me if you get a good ansewer
2006-11-09 18:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋