Yep, my legs ache,my head aches in the morning, im having chest pain. Im tired to working. I wanna be able to sit and home and take care of my son. Hubby has a mistress. I'm still living with him because of our sons emotional state of mind, expenses and like i mentioned, i cant work anymore. I wanna leave him but if i do, i'd have to slog and work until kingdom come. He doesnt love me, doesnt touch me, no sex.. nothing!. I'm simply existing. like a doormat.
2006-11-09 19:50:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is better for children to be from a broken home than live in one.
Get some family or friends to help you get out on your own. The dad of your child will have to pay child support.
I think you will have more energy and be happier if you aren't drained from your day to day life.
You can change the locks and tell him to go live with his mistress.
2006-11-09 19:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are fair dinkum (I'm Australian), which means, if you are serious; I would have left him already.
I don't know how old you are or how old your son is but from what yoú have said, he doesn't deserve you.
Doormats are for foot-wipers and you are better than that.
He knows what he's doing to you and is comfortable in thinking you won't go. He 'knows you're a good mother so he won't stuff that up (because he does care about his son).
In your circumstance, government/welfare can help you so you can get you and your son out of a bad situation.
Being a single parent isn't so hard that you couldn't do it. I did with two daughters and they''re now adults with kids of their own.
Your son's state of mind as you say, will improve when you are happy and more settled, he will calm as he sees/feels the atsmophere change around you.
Take heart and make the change. It's a little scary but you can do it .....for the sake of your son's happiness and well being.
Good luck. You can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
2006-11-09 20:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jan Frost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and watching mum work herself in2 the ground isn't gonna damage ur son?
u need 2 get away from the situation ur in.
make arrangements 2 move out, get a life 4 urself and ur son.
let him pay support and give u time 2 re-discover urself.
if it's 4 u and ur son, u'll b surprised how much life will start 2 feel a pleasure again rather than a chore.
ask some friends 2 help u out or let u stay 4 a while and let the dust settle.
away from hubby and his sordid life u will, i hope start 2 feel better.
good luck and take care.
:)
2006-11-09 19:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The longer you stay in the situation the worse you feel. Your self esteem will plummet, your health will not improve and your son will not benefit from these things.
It's very scary to make the first move especially if your financial situation is not stable. There are programs that can help you help yourself. Believe in yourself, you have allot to offer and he doesn't seem to know it. You will find a man that can appreciate you for all your wonderful qualities.
Good luck!
2006-11-09 20:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by smilealot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take care of yourself... your physical problems might be due to emotional stress (which comes from HIM!!!) I understand you want to stay together for the sake of your son, but what kind of example are you setting for him when mommy & daddy don't love each other. Kids know more than adults give them credit for!
Most of all... take care of you! You can't be beneficial to anyone else if you are sick. Heal yourself from the inside, and the outside will begin to heal itself. Good luck! Peace n Blessings!!!
2006-11-09 19:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by jae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, think of it this way. If he barely even knowledges you then chances are he doesn't care if you continue to work or not. But if you are supportting both of you then get out there's not point in supporting a pig
2006-11-09 20:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats more important having to work or letting some pig ruin your life leave him he has no feelings for you and could care less it sounds.
2006-11-09 19:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in difficulty living with him whats the differnece if you dont live with him? you will be in difficulty still but at least i guess lesser intense. stop making yourself a doormat. choose to live your life and dont be a martyr for life! be brave! you can do it! life is hard, but i see its more harder with you living with him with all that emotional hurts gosh, divorce him if no sanctity of marriage.
2006-11-09 21:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by blue violet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like good room mates. You know there are other guys out there and you are free to look since there is no relationship anymore.
2006-11-09 19:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. are you two married? coz what i know is even if you are separated you can still ask for support especially financial. dont wait for him to be the first to leave. it will be much harder for you. let him and his mistress go to hell!
2006-11-09 19:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by kezongputi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋