my wife has been in comma for 5 years. i had been faithfull to her for all that time. It has been long. i cant hold it any more. should i stray for awhile?
2006-11-09 19:18:23 · 15 answers · asked by Omar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear Omar,
Am sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you. You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
2006-11-09 19:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by kim s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your wife is in a comma is she on life support or anything that is keeping her alive if so its been five years if your asking this you might as well consider pulling the plug as well. I do not know how close you are to her family or if there are children involved but it appears you have waited by her side for 5 long years and nothing has changed if you able to cut her loose do this but It sounds like you are considering cheating do not do this split if you want then find someone new. But really it's your choice.
2006-11-10 03:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. What if it were you in the comma, you woke up and had to deal with the fact that not only did life in general move on without you but so did the person that looked into your eyes and said... "I do, in sickness and in health".
I realize you have needs but there are other ways of addressing them that do not have a negative impact on your marriage. If you have been faithful for 5 years, you will likely feel extremely guilty if you do.
Think and pray about this before acting on this impulse.
Good luck to you and your wife.
2006-11-10 03:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by smilealot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, 5 years is a long time. The whole point of having a spouse is to have someone to live life with you and obviously she can't do that in a vegetable state. Maybe you do need to find someone else, but if she does wake up some way you would have to deal with that. I'm no expert, but isn't it pretty unlikely that she will ever wake up after 5 years?
2006-11-10 03:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by moonsmagicdust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW you have been faithful for 5 years...that's great is she waking up any time soon or ever? Sorry to be so blunt because u r in love with the person she was is she going to be that person again? More details needed. But from past experience when I was young my friend's mum had a car accident and my friend was in coma for 2 years she was never the same she had brain damage. Maybe it's time to be friends with your wife and move on to another relationship another woman who will be lucky to have you.... your way faithful.
2006-11-10 03:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, this is heavy. I think maybe you just need affection, not really sex. Visit some family and absorb all the love. Join a church or some type of program that can fill the void and you can devote yourself to. If she comes out of it, you will be more the happier. If you really need it, relieve the tension by yourself.
2006-11-10 03:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is she in a coma or is she a vegtable? I don't know this is completely up to you. There is always that chance that she's never going to wake up. On the other hand though, just imagine how she will feel is she does happen to wake up later on and you tell her the news and you watch her heart break.
2006-11-10 03:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your wife (supposing you even have one) HAD been in a coma for FIVE YEARS, that you would perhaps have picked up the correct spelling of the word COMA in that time.
2006-11-10 04:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by noirdenat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well marriage is til death do you part- so no i would not stray. 5 yrs is a long time, however, you have to think about your wife. what ever you choose- remember you will reap what you sow- good and bad. good luck and god bless
2006-11-10 03:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by sweetthang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are better off to just buy a viberating pussy, cuz that is a really big burn to cheat on your wife when she's in a coma.
2006-11-10 03:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Lis B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋