i was a young parent i never signed my rights away and the lady that has my son keeps me from seeing him i went to legal services to get legal help they denied me due to a conflict of intrest on her part i dont have the money to fight this i havent seen my son in 7 yrs i love him so very much and there is not one day that goes past that i dont think of him all i want to do is be apart of his life again and be a mother to him what should i do someone please help me there are so many days when i feel like just giving up but i cant because i dont want him to resent me for it i dont want to hurt him anymore than i already have .she is not stable she moves from state to state what should i do to get my son back.
2006-11-09 04:08:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go get some legal help .You can call and get free advice . Don't wait any longer though he needs his mother . Im sure she loves him too but he belongs with you . GOOD luck to you !
2006-11-09 04:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, someone should decide where the kid is better off --- with you, an addict (maybe or maybe not clean) or with someone else. That will take some legal stuff, and $$$ on your part. Pretty much you give up your rights to the rearing of your child if you are convicted of drug addiction, whether or not you signed off on him. The state automatically decides just about any situation is better for a child than being in a home where a child is unsupervised, and drug addicts supervise only their habit. Your assessment that she is not stable is your own. That she moves from state to state may be because she wishes to avoid contact with you, and wishes to protect the child from you. She can't move, if she has no money, and she has to be able to have and get pretty good jobs to be able to do that. If you are clean, and can so prove, then you'll need to see an attorney. It would rather be unfair for a child to be ripped from a home he is safe and comfortable in for all these years, just to satisfy your own feelings.... think now of the child, not yourself..... Maybe your best remark here is that "i dont want to hurt him any more than i already have". That says you really have nothing to offer him, and that you realize to lay claim to him now would really be unfair to him.... not easy to ask a kid to adjust to a "new" parent..... Perhaps you should just get on with your life. When he is an adult, He and find YOU if he wishes.
2006-11-09 12:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seven years is a long time .i believe if you prove yourself to the lady that has your son. that you are really clean .and ready to be a real mother .maybe she will work with you.get counseling .and go to parenting class.im sure she dont want to give him to you unless she is sure of you.and you are sure of your self.im sure she cares for his safety and well being.and im sure you love your son .and if all else fell .then get an attorney.but you have to prove that you are stable too.good luck
2006-11-09 12:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by lovely me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. However you could work on getting your stories straight.
In one of your questions you said that you had been taking HRT since a hysterectomy 10 years ago. That makes it hard to believe that you had a kid 7 years ago.
2006-11-09 12:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to an attorney ASAP! Work 3 jobs if thats what it takes to pay for an attorney.
2006-11-09 12:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes you need to talk to some one
2006-11-09 12:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋