Married, with no kids and you feel like your in a dead end marriage. You meet someone online (who has a few major problems them self-drinking, lack of job) but despite all this you kind of fall for him. Problem is your still in your dead end marriage, and this man wants an immediate commitment-despite all problems and concerns. Do you throw fate to the wind and let the pieces fall where they may or do you use caution and common sense? (and in the mean time lose the new person)
2006-11-09 04:00:03 · 11 answers · asked by The Unknown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you have is words on a screen. Not a real person. Use common sense and try to work on your marriage. Go to counseling. Spice it up however you can. Treat your hubby like it's the last day on earth you will ever have with him and do that for 30 days and see if your marriage doesn't seem new again. And I bet hubby sees you in a new light as well. Good luck.
2006-11-09 04:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't happy with your marriage, either seek some professional counseling or get out of it. Do you really think that you could be happier with a new man....which you said yourself has problems...drinking, no job? What position is he in to demand any kind of commitment from you? I would ask myself some of these questions, and go from there. I would not move myself from one unhappy situation into what sounds like another unhappy situation. What can this new guy give you that your husband can't? You should never leave a marriage for someone else because everything that is bothering you in your current relationship with your husband is going to follow you into this one.
2006-11-09 12:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
caution and common sense. You don't want to end up in a new scenario that's equally as bad only in different ways. You could be just as miserable with the new guy because you'd be supporting him and his habits. Find out what you want out of life and finally do it! Don't look for fulfillment in a man when whats missing is probably something inside of you.
2006-11-09 12:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your shoes last year... got tempted to leave my alcoholic husband for an old flame who doesn't drink at all but is, as it turns out, addicted to prescription meds. I chose to use caution and not jump 'from the frying pan into the fire' so to speak. I did lose the old flame, but gained some insight into myself: a second bad decision doesn't negate the first one.
2006-11-09 13:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is attractive about a jobless drunk? You are falling for someone that isn't worth falling for. Either stay in your marriage or get divorced and take time for yourself to clear your head...But please don't jump out of the frying pan and into the fryer!
Good luck
2006-11-09 12:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by redbeansandrice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you insane? You meet someone on line who has a drinking problem and no job! You must love punishment and hate yourself. Please get some counseling before leaving your marriage and moving on to this looser.
2006-11-09 12:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would your parents tell you to do???? You don't want ot get stuck someone with a drinking problem and no job... hello use your head.
2006-11-09 12:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look somewhere else for a guy .He ain't gonna do anything for you .Trust me i know . Been there doing that now ! What a waste of my time that ill never get back ! Move on and away from him !
2006-11-09 12:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there. Why does he have to meet someone online? drinking prob? He can't wait for you? Red flags!!
2006-11-09 12:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by sky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only for the right person , not just any @ sshole!
think about it..one a hole for another
i bet you take more time picking out your shoes and they only go on your feet......
2006-11-09 12:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by glitsyjewels 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋