Do guys really go for romance or what? I can remember "back in the day" little memories of us..Is it all worth the tourcher..or by now has it all just burned out and I am holding on to it?
2006-11-09 04:51:28 · 12 answers · asked by giveu2tictacs 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to constanly remind yourself why you fell in love with him in the first place. Remember the fun you had while you dated and how much you couldn't wait to be with him. It's so easy when you're familiar with someone to focus on all the negatives. Find the positive things in your spouse and focus on those. Also, think of what it would be like if you ever had to live without that peson. If today where your last day, would your spouse truly know you loved them? So many people think that to get romance back into a marriage you have to focus on the other person. Really, it just takes one, and since you know you can't change your spouse, just focus on the person you can change.... you!!!
2006-11-09 04:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by CMS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance, not so much. Affection, play, communication, sharing, and really good sex? Very much so yes. I have been married for 9 years and the spark was all but extinguished before she woke up and realized that we needed to do something different. Turn off the TV, buy some massage oils, toys, videos, whatever. Just have fun with it, learn to laugh and play while in bed. If you can get back the feeling of being a teenager again it can be so much fun. Just get out of the normal married rut.
2006-11-09 12:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by medic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to restart the flame. Ask him out on a date like a wild eyed teenager would. Don't take no for an answer. Make it romantic for him. After dinner be ready with a nightcap at home, a little wine, some chocolates and whipped cream. Candle light when you get home is a great touch as well.
Go to a movie and make out instead of watching it. Be careful at it but take him to a hotel instead of home after. You know how to do this you've already gone through before you got married.
2006-11-09 12:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just stale. No fun after a while.
You need to be creative. Do that wich he does not expect of you.
Or even better something NOWAY would he expect of you.
Be silly about it. After 11 yrs you can't be silly for him?
He'll just love the fact your trying even if he is laughing his head off.
It has to be FUN!
Keep us guessing every night and day.
I can almost guarentee your get it reciprocated.
This does take creativity. Each person has their own little switch for excitement. The fun is in finding it. (Actually them!)
Ya need this like at least once a month. Daily or weekly if you are having issues.
I am talking more than just sex BTW.
If you arn't feeling creative I can Reccomend the Laura Corn books. More romantic than sex like the titles lead you to beleive.
If he is hard to talk to just start out with them yourself. Get the creative juices flowing and introduce him to the books.
The books (Actually a his and her packet game) Will leave a lot open for you you to be creative with and within the morals of your culture.
Originally pointed at the I'm too busy/too tired double working households of today I found them valuable in getting it started.
2006-11-09 13:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kaustaub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What torchure? I have been married almost 11 years and there is plenty of romance left. You just have to be creative. You may have to give up some sleep or some television time, but it is well worth it. MAKE time for each other.
2006-11-09 12:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Romance to a man is often not romance to a woman.
Take it upon yourself to jumstart your marraige and be part of the solution.
2006-11-09 13:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a hopless romantic and try to create roamnce evry chance I can get to be close to my wife. and she is pin-up girl sexy eventhough she doesn't have the pin-up body any more.
She wears a garterbelt and vintage RHT stockings every day with sexy open high heel and it keeps my romantic attention
May i suggest you take time to put the attention on you so your husband thinks he is with the sexy gal you are.
2006-11-09 13:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
romance is part of the courtship. after the rut sets in, spice is what keeps us interested. personally, romance is fine but mostly men want hot monkey love.
2006-11-09 12:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by Darin C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look under the couch. it might be there.
guys hate romance. just be the naughty girl you used to be. try new things and do it often. the more perverse, the better.
2006-11-09 13:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spice things up a little yourself. If you get him into doing all of the things you like it will return.
2006-11-09 12:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋