My husband is in the army, and he's very insecure which isn't all that suprising. He has to sit around and see his friends get Dear John letters every day. I love this man more than my own life and would never do that, but he just came home for R&R, packed up his stuff, and left. He says he doesn't want to be holding me and the kids back and he was very mean with some of the things he said. Then suddenly he snapped out of it, came home and apologized. Is this signs of PTSD? What would be my best course of action if it is?
2006-11-09 09:37:25 · 7 answers · asked by armywifehaney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband is not having an affair you piece of crap, and btw you'd be lucky to have a woman that looks like me and loves you the way I love him.
2006-11-09 10:16:31 · update #1
My question was about PTSD, not who he is NOT cheating on me with.
2006-11-09 10:21:21 · update #2
This would be a great question to ask under the military forum. Look under Politics & Government and Military should be somewhere under that.
I'm in the military and so is my husband. I'm getting out of the military because we have been separated for almost 3 years and now we have kids and this is getting hard. He is in Afghanistan right now.
Those guys who are returning home are under a tremendous amount of stress. When they reunite with the family, things get even harder. My husband and I have endured so many separations over the past ten years. I could tell you a whole lot.
Are you on or near a military base? I advise you to go to Army Community Services and ask about the Army Family Team Building classes. Tell them that you want training on family relationships upon redeployment. These people have seen so many cases and have endured many hardships themselves. It's pretty much textbook what you may experience.
If you can't attend classes/training, they should be able to send you literature. Just make sure that upon his return, you don't expect things to be rosey. Keep your cool for a few months.
Take care and good luck.
2006-11-09 15:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a military guy but a woman that was married to a GI well he is out of the Army and we still married. My husband was down range 2004 since that day everything changed. He is on my butt 24/7 sometimes I feel like I cant even go to the bathroom without him he got so insecure about our relationship but I still love him like it was the first day. They have seen a lot of stuff down there and u have to give him some time It might not gonna be the same but dont take it to ur heart what ever he said he loves u hun dont worry about that
2006-11-09 09:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tiny T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in the Army and so was my husband (we are now divorced) but when he was in the Desert, I stayed back, he saw a lot of things there and by me staying back I saw a lot of women that did cheat on their husbands....He is just very insecure...Maybe he realized what he was doing and came back...Just talk to him and reassure him that you love him...It is very stressful being away and seeing the things that he has...It is whole different world being in the military... I would suggest counseling when he gets home for good and maybe you should see someone by yourself to cope with it.....Hope I helped
2006-11-09 10:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by "gg" 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 13:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to have an affair with me for a few months until he gets out of the military and then maybe for a couple of more years after that. What do ya say???
2006-11-10 01:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by Bamboo71 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him about it....get counselling. Could it be that there are women where he is stationed, or is it just his insecurities taking over. Work on it.
2006-11-09 09:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, my thing is that he wasn't on the up and up . i think he had a woman in realize that he wanted his family
2006-11-09 09:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by elisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋