Marriage & Divorce - 1 November 2006

I don't get the interaction or love notes any more, or phone calls, just finding I can't do anything right and having porn shoved at me all the time. history of bad expereinces and now internet lovers are getting the notes and calls instead of me, What can I do? I've tried dressing up, showing off and being sexy, He likes it all, but its tearing me apart, Told him I couldn't take it, even before we were married, I feel ashamed of who and what I am to him. any good thinkers to help on this one?

2006-11-01 19:34:02 · 13 answers · asked by blue bird 1

In Indian society also nowadays these things are increasing and are even encouraged by TV, Movies, modern culture etc.

Whatever happened to moral and traditional values?

2006-11-01 19:10:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been married 23 years just divorced last year i rescued her from a nasty piece of work he put cigarettes out on her arm beat her kicked her he was an alcholic smashed up the house on drugs he did all of this in front of his 1 year old daughter untill i met her 1 day i was in the army she told me about him 5 minutes later he turned up grabbed her by the hair and hit her i beat the living daylight out of him anyway we married i treated her like gold took her around the world twice bought her anything she wanted let her out when she wanted i was faithfull all the time she was unfaithfull within 3 months then 1 year then 3 then 10 then 15 i forgive her everytime she promised never again but i could not cope anymore so i divorced her i shall never trust a woman for a long time they really puzzle me im 51 and an old fashioned lover like to buy flowers chocolates i would spend 500 pounds on her xmas and birthdays so why did she cheat perhaps it was to much freedom for her i dont know .

2006-11-01 19:06:42 · 18 answers · asked by tommo 1

my husband expects a lot from me. He is from an Asian country and i'm from a western country , usa. His future is not secured financially. he just expects me to take him to usa but i'm not comfortable of this idea because in the past, he has cheated on me many a times. He defends his cheating behavior by saying that he is depressed as he doesn't have a good future financially and it stresses him a lot. He is in his 30's but he has not yet settled down in his life. i'm still young and i'm tired of this life. i cant live a life without a good house and car. he blames me for everything such as by saying i have been stopping good things from happening int his life as i dont want to take him to usa. he believes if i take him to usa, he can prosper and can work towards a better future. but i dont trust him. i believe he is only after usa. my belief is that if you have the will power, u can do anything anywhere, places dont stand for success. you can work towards your life anywhere you re

2006-11-01 19:02:12 · 7 answers · asked by mind 1

where I can find local women looking for intimacy without paying?

2006-11-01 18:45:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby and I have some trible in are marriage. He works from 05:00-22:00 and then when he cames at home he do not have time for me. I just do not know what to do. He want to start a familie but is child wil not even see he. Do someone have advice for me so that I can safe my marriage and that if have time for me to. Please help !!!! I want so badly a baby but is warrys me. He is also working out of south africa. He is going to angola on the 14 November. So if someone can help me before that day it will be grood

2006-11-01 18:45:04 · 10 answers · asked by Lizel M 2

i was very young and naive and blinded by the excitement of marraige, i thought id found the one. im now 20 and we have been married 11 months. we have a 6 week old baby boy. what should be such a great time im so unhappy. for the whole of my married life its been hell. hes possesive and controlling, i cant wear make up, go out with friends, he has such a temper, hes never hit me but put his fist through doors, broke mirrors etc.im scared to talk to him or ask him anything im not allowed to be happy. ive tried to leave so many times but he turns on the charm and makes me feel sorry for him, he'll also say he will commit suicide if i leave. he says i am a bad mother for splitting a family up and taking a baby away from his dad. i have to lie about where im going when i see my friends and do anything for myself.my life feels to be passing me by i regret my marraige so much and wish every day i could turn the clock back. has anyone else been in my situation?i feel so alone

2006-11-01 18:43:48 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

Thanks for helping me sort this out.

Back in high school, I developed a crush on a male friend. Nothing much happened, but we did have some emotional history.

Now a few years later, I'm married. This guy I used to like is now wanting to talk to me.

Should I, or should I not talk to him? I've heard to "keep the past in the past" but my former crush knows I'm married and may just want to see how I'm doing and catch up over these last few years.

P.S. My husband has said he isn't too fond of this guy, but also he hasn't specifically asked me not to talk to him.

2006-11-01 18:26:12 · 25 answers · asked by JennBride 2

I really want to surprise my wife for her 30 something birthday, which is round the corner. Not just to celebrate her birthday, but also to apprepriate her hard work in delivering our first born son. I want to present her with a whole day worth of surprises in doses till the final 'surprise gift'. I'm wondering if anyone can furnish me with the day's itinerary and gifts ideas.

2006-11-01 18:21:02 · 17 answers · asked by Mad Mat 1

If you were over there what would you want....please keep it clean Army prohibits obsceneties. What would you send, maybe something no one would think of? I'll take anything even if I have probley thought of it already. Also, what would be a perfect Gift for our Soldier Husbands in Iraq for Christmas???

2006-11-01 18:19:03 · 11 answers · asked by VolimT 1

I do love him but times I ask myself am I in love with him. He is the best thing I could have asked for in a man. I have had alot of relationships and I knew he was the one. He want go to the doctor or denist. He was going to the denist before we got married and now he has completely stoped. His breath smells all day long and it makes me sick at my stomach to smell it. Its a big turn off to me and our sex life is lacking because of this. Also he is forever scratching his nuts and I tell him that he has to have some type of infection but he still hasnt went to the doctor. Also this man its like as soon as he gets hungry and he eats then he cant even think straight or keep his eyes open. He gets really nasty with my family, its like he is just uncontrolable after he eats or if he is really tierd... I just need some suggestions to help save my marriage.

2006-11-01 18:10:45 · 17 answers · asked by teetee 1

There's this girl and was a family friend of mine, who's actually been a friend, since childhood. We grew up with each other. When we were kids, she liked me in a different way, sort of, "crush-like", but that eased off later, in herself. Basically, we remained as good family friends.

After a few years, we became adults and I turned 18. I became attracted to this family friend. So, one special night, when my parents held a fine dinner party in a 5* hotel, we sat with each other, like good family friends, dining and talking. She looked pretty, as always!

When the time was right, I asked her out, after a long-term family-friendship of 20+ years, and she said, "NO". :(. She broke my heart into a 1000 pieces and said to me, that, I was only a GOOD FAMILY/BROTHERLY-TYPE friend. Later on, our friendship broke off, but she still had minor feelings.

4+ years passed of no-commun.. Is it possible for me to get her back and will she understand me now, so that she can fall in love/marry?

2006-11-01 18:00:19 · 11 answers · asked by K 2

were do you draw the boundary if any, and no they arent mutual.

2006-11-01 17:55:28 · 20 answers · asked by Cool Guy 1

Monique is 22 years old and her husband is 24 years old. Both in school. They have 2 kids together. Monique is a good mother, she put her kids first all the time, she goes to school, and she very responsible. And a lot of the time she put herself last, doesn't have any friends, doesn't go clubbing, or even drink acohol. She feels like she's to young to have all of these things on her plate. She doesn't feel young, she feel like, she should be doing what other 22 year olds people are doing. Like having fun, and she takes life pretty seriuos. She love her kids and husband, and don't regret anything.
1) What should she do to feel young?

2) What can she do to make friends ?, because she feel like she's to busy for friend.

3)And sometimes she get frustrated because she's home every weekend hanging out with her kids(3 yrs old and 8 month old); is that normal ?

4) She feels, she's too grown for her age; is that normal ?

5) Is it normal to have feeling someone else ?

2006-11-01 17:49:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

im dating guy for 3 month we never met each other and we want to get married. he want me to come to usa but i dont. i know its strang for yall but we love each other. please help me

2006-11-01 17:42:05 · 15 answers · asked by dollface 1

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2006-11-01 17:29:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

what do you think of a couple.. just Boyfriend and girlfriend,not in engaged yet, who don't live togeter in the same city jet, they just visit eachother sometimes. , the longest visit was for a month, and he is just getting a divorse right now bacause he was married, also he will finally move to the same city of his girlfriend to live togeter on december of this year because ,they jus put the down paymet today for the condo. by the way, he will get his final divorce in April of next year .. do you think everything is going so fast? has good chances this couple or not? sucess or not sucess? do you think that when things start fast , they finish fast too?

2006-11-01 17:25:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do so many believe that your marriage wont last if you maintain your chastity untill your properly married??When the Bible clearly states that premarital sex is wrong.Why do they so ignorantly beleive that marriages will not last solely because of this?Yes...I am a religious person & I have grown up around litterally hundreds of marriages that were proper,they were virgins untill they were married...and they are still married today.

2006-11-01 17:24:10 · 13 answers · asked by Brian_26 1

My mom has been married for over 25 years but she was forced into marriage and she tells me the only reason she stayed with my father because of us her kids due to our religion i guess she didnt have a choice he never did care for his family as we grew up because he had his family like his brothers and mom on the other side of the world and he gave them most of his life savings and they dont even call to say hi but im afraid that i might not get the man that will take care of his family and support us im afraid i might end up with a man like that because in our religion the girls cannnot go in front of guys so what do i do im thinking way to much about it because my mom is never happy plz help me what do i do

2006-11-01 17:22:26 · 6 answers · asked by babygirl 2

i love my lover and he says he love me too.we are inter caste. will i be able to marry him

2006-11-01 17:20:40 · 14 answers · asked by jaan4khushi 1

I have married 14 years ago, I have a daughter 13 years of age. I remember how madly in love I was with him before marriage and it was me who wanted the marriage more than him. Until now I have had to live overseas with my husband and my daughter in my in-laws house, where we have been treated very badly by my mother-in-law and some of the brothers-in-law and their wives. Every time my husband came back from work and met his mother first in the other floor of our house she said something to disturb him so badly that he would come up to me and started scolding or even hitting me. I have tolerated through the years that he will someday understand. Today he realises his mistakes and he is trying heart and soul to make up for all his bad behaviours, but something is gone already from our lives. I do not feel the heat to make love to him any more as much as I would like to, I do not get excited looking at him, although he is very satisfied with me, physically and mentally. What should I do?

2006-11-01 17:19:31 · 10 answers · asked by S&D 2

I've been married for 3 years and husband has never been faithful and had a possible baby outside the marriage,time after time I've given chances but today I feel like I can no longer do it anymore. I have children I have to think about and I don't want them miserable along with me

2006-11-01 17:09:42 · 12 answers · asked by cinny27 1

2006-11-01 17:08:10 · 24 answers · asked by deenu 1

I am married since 8 years and very content with my marriage.
However before my marriage, I was in love with a girl for 3 years.
It was pure love and we never had any sexual relationship.
I could not marry the girl I loved due to family pressure. I conveyed the same to that girl and she (though unwillingly) let me go with my parents decission.

We split by exchanging all our letters and gifts.
However till this day she is not married and decided to remain single.

This is causing me a lot of guilt and emotional trauma.

Please tell me what to do?.

2006-11-01 16:59:43 · 9 answers · asked by Dog 1

I hope soon, I can't wait to marry my boyfriend, as I already get my husband permition too.

2006-11-01 16:54:14 · 12 answers · asked by Maggie T 1

I go to court in a few hours over custody and visitation with my minor child which is the age of 3. I am pregnant and stressed out about the whole deal. But I have told my lawyer that I will agree to everyother weekend thanksgiving and christmas rotating each year and a week for summer vaction. I need a way to stay calm to keep from going into labor because I am due anytime now and my back is killing me now due to the stress... any suggestions???Also I live in VA and I dont know if the father will get more than what I have agreed on.

2006-11-01 16:52:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

my hubby doesnt want to have sex since 4 months. he says that its becoz he has fibromalgia. do you gals out there ever face this? please this is a serious question. no perves reply.

2006-11-01 16:49:39 · 17 answers · asked by atahsina 5

To keep the story short, i am 23 lesbian. The women i fall for is 15 yrs older then me. Her husband is my best friend. I always have some sort of feelings for her, but she is married and i didn't think it would be possilbe she would love me back. Well, i guess nothing is impossible now, she ask me one night if i like her, i didn't response at that time, but she said because of the way i treat her, she is starting to fall for me, i was shock. We did have a chance to sleep together, but i stopped her, especially when she had a bit to drink. After 3 month i decided to leave and came to England. I really lover her, therefore, i don't want to destroy their marriage, she told me once if something happen between them is not my fault but i feel like it would be. We still keep in touch and talk on the phone everyday, we both care about each other, i never cross the line though. Am i doing the right thing? She is not happy with her marriage, one is someone you love, one is your best friend.

2006-11-01 16:42:54 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-01 16:35:25 · 9 answers · asked by izzual 1

me and my husband had a serious argument over the phone about our situation now. he is in fort bragg and i am here in the philippines. he can't give me financial support because he is facing serious charges and he said he is spending a lot of money to pay his lawyer. then we ended up talking about divorce but i told him i will get a lawyer to find the legal way and my rights. I have a military id. i got it when we were in korea after we got married here. I have a sofa visa until january 2007. he was sent back to fort bragg for tdy but after left he never came back and he said he can't go nowhere until he is clear. but the problem is i feel like i am abondoned here. his cellphone was disconnected and he dont answer my email. i dont know now what to do. I want to get what i am entitled to. i am glad i have family to support me and a small business that helps my financial needs. It's more on emotional torture. anyone please help me what to do, my email address is dennia32000@yahoo.com

2006-11-01 16:33:22 · 2 answers · asked by philam 1