im dating guy for 3 month we never met each other and we want to get married. he want me to come to usa but i dont. i know its strang for yall but we love each other. please help me
2006-11-01 17:42:05 · 15 answers · asked by dollface 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh no no no...This has wrong written all over it.
Do you really want to commit yourself to someone you do not know? You may think it's love but honey you just don't know until you meet him.
I'm assuming you met over the net? I've been there and people are much different in person.
Three months is just not enough time. Some people spend years with someone and it's still not enough.
Please reconsider this!
2006-11-01 17:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ersabette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months is NO time. Especially since you've never met. DO NOT GET MARRIED TO THIS PERSON. You don't even know each other. You're still in that first blush where the other person can do no wrong.
My husband and I have done the same thing. Only we talked online for three years. Then 2 years "dating" and three years "engaged". We finally got married in June.
Take your time and do this right.
Heck, I wouldn't even recommend getting married at three months if you HAD already met each other. It's just not enough time.
2006-11-01 17:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to marry you, get him to come to you.
Things sound too fast for me, especially if you never seen/met him in person. You may think GREAT, but he may be fooling you.
You are smart to question and ask people.
Do not jump in. Take your time, feel safe.
Tell him you want to meet him. In place that is open, light, public like restaurant or mall.
Better for you to know. You do not have to sell yourself or be tricked to marry.
I too met a man on-line and he talked good for 3-4 months. He wanted to make a family with me and my son. WHOA, too fast for me. He was working in Africa. We did not talk often for about 5 months. After the summer months he came back on-line and still called me 'love'. I do not know him!!! I do not know what to say.
It is my thought that if I have not met a guy, you are a stranger. Some men do not feel that way.
Too bad.
2006-11-01 18:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by strong1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u wanted something 2 happen 2 u then go ahead and first of all that is crazy that yall never met he can be a charge 4 rape or something been in and out of jail and u want 2 get married 2 someone that u never met ur a crazy or something.
2006-11-01 17:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and act responsibly for goodness sake.
Meet the man, date properly first, you don't have to be a genius to work that one out!!
It was only the other day another young lass was asking a question on here about something similar, she went to India to marry this fellow and he turned out to be a slob, and he just wanted the green card, but unfortunately for her she actually married this man, and now has to go through a divorce.
Think things through.
2006-11-01 18:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is totally strange. For all you know, this guy is either a 14 year old boy getting off at playing games with you, or a 50 year old man... who is also getting off at playing games with you. Meet him before you even have the thought of marrying the guy.
2006-11-01 17:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by PootieThangRawr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on a visit to make sure he is who he says he is. I know you might have feeling for him but your saftey is first and foremost. If you sincerly do want to get married I would suggest moving and living with him for awhile first. Marriage should never be a complusive thing. That is why the divorce rate is so high. When you get married it isnt just you two anymore its you, him, and the state. Make sure you really want to do this and spend a yr or so with him first. Internet love isnt strange or wierd just make sure he isnt.
2006-11-01 17:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by pythonicbeauty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar but opposite situation do you want him to move to where you are? Do u think that he will be everything you imagine he is in person? I have been email and web cam communicating for 3 months with a man too. I have fallen in love with him. I can relate. When will you two be able to meet?
2006-11-01 17:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How delightful. However remember if you have not met someone they can be the toothfairy, santa claus, or the grim reaper. You don't know this persons habbits and if you met this person on line you only know what they are telling you about themselves. Remember you love the image they have present of themselves. However your only getting a piece of the puzzle remember that.
2006-11-01 17:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, especially with crazy things goin on in this world. Yall should meet in a public place first before anything.
2006-11-01 17:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by smart_e_pants 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋