My hubby and I have some trible in are marriage. He works from 05:00-22:00 and then when he cames at home he do not have time for me. I just do not know what to do. He want to start a familie but is child wil not even see he. Do someone have advice for me so that I can safe my marriage and that if have time for me to. Please help !!!! I want so badly a baby but is warrys me. He is also working out of south africa. He is going to angola on the 14 November. So if someone can help me before that day it will be grood
2006-11-01 18:45:04 · 10 answers · asked by Lizel M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he probably wants to give you a baby so that you won't be lonely and that way you won't be nagging him. ive heard guys say that before, but the best thing you can do is pray and ask god for guidance cuz you can't always lean on humans for understanding god will give you the answer good luck hun.
2006-11-01 18:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by k2u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, Do you Love him.
If you do, and he supports you, with a roof over your head, and clothing, he loves you, most men, that's how they say I love you.
Do you have nice things? If yes, stay. It will not always be this way. If you love him. Stay.
Your lonely. Your discouraged in your life right now.
But enjoy your home, your things, ware his shirts, or his socks when hes not there,
Place a shirt in the back of his chair, and a pair of socks, place his pants as if he is sitting. Put a pitcher in the middle of it.
Don't let him sit there. If he ask why, when he comes home from Angola. Tell him that's all you have of your husband. He will disturb your memory of him, if he sits there. Tell him I love my husband. He is away right now. He will get mad if he finds you here. When are you leaving, oh look, hes getting mad. Pick up the photo, and talk to it.
Then tell him your life style is driving you crazy. And he should be glad your such a good wife, that he doesn't have to imagine you like this, then hold it to your ear, like its talking to you. Then look at the man husband an say. Do you love me? Or is this all I get? He will get it. Then he will tell you whats up. But let him tell you. Maybe at that moment you may get your baby. Or not.
But you will know what to do. So hold on.
Good luck, email me. I can be a friend.
2006-11-01 18:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by Faith Walker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing you want in a sick marriage is a sick baby. You both, need to be in marriage counselling (as soon as possible). Don't even, think about bringing a baby into the picture at this point. It will require lots of time and counselling to repair your marriage relationship. Your husband probably will refuse to go for counselling so, YOU GO . Your marriage is on the "rocks" at this point - do not start a family ! Good luck to you.
2006-11-01 18:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though i'm too young to answer this question(i'm just a 16 yr old girl) i think there is no spice in ur marriage. Ur husband seems to be workholic & also takes outdoor business trips. You can sit & clear up the matter with him. There is nothing best than a good heartily talk. If you want to conceive now see that both are willing to take up this responsibility. Try also to have fun by yourself . Get engrossed in any kinda hobbies.
This will b quite helpful . Buy & take care.
2006-11-01 18:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by tania 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't start a family until things are more stable in your relationship. A baby will add more stress to an already stressful situation. It's best to wait until you're certain that you're going to be able to stay in this marriage...or if your husband is going to even have the time to be a father. There is much more to being a father than the sex to create a baby
2006-11-01 18:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE'S GONE 17HRS A DAY?
Make sure he is really at work that entire time.
Seems like an impossible amount of hours.
Talk to him. Tell him that is too many hours and it doesn't leave anytime for you.
If his job is an obstacle in the marriage then it needs
resolved before having a babies.
2006-11-01 19:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by justpatagn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're having trouble with your marriage, why bog yourself down with a kid. Is he cheating on you? you got to find the roots of problem and resolve them before deciding to have a kid. It won't be fair for yourself and your kid...
2006-11-01 18:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
with such long working hours, he must be a really tired lot.
just take him on some vacation during your ovalution period so that u can have baby.
2006-11-01 19:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can openly share with him your struggles. Tell him you feeling and discontention. Maybe he is unaware of your needs?
2006-11-01 19:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope our husband's name is Charlie. Cuz he's looking for you!
2006-11-01 19:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋