Marriage & Divorce - 1 November 2006

my fiance is not only blaming me for losing my job, but bringing up things that happeded 4 years ago and throwing it all back in my face again, i want out of here so bad , but have nowhere to go, i am so hurt right now i need help, the furnace just started acting up and he is slamming doors and yelling alot, i am 34 eyars old, and not a clue what to do or how to do it.

2006-11-01 14:31:06 · 12 answers · asked by alc60156 1

my fiance is not only blaming me for losing my job, but bringing up things that happeded 4 years ago and throwing it all back in my face again, i want out of here so bad , but have nowhere to go, i am so hurt right now i need help, the furnace just started acting up and he is slamming doors and yelling alot, i am 34 eyars old, and not a clue what to do or how to do it.

2006-11-01 14:30:46 · 11 answers · asked by alc60156 1

Pre menopause or menopause. I'm hearing at around 40.

2006-11-01 14:30:27 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3

I have this girl I work with, I find myself really attracted to her. Problem is we are both married and have kids. I have 2 adopted girls, she has 2 boys and is married to a lawyer. This lady even knows my wife and talks to her everyday.
I think she has the hots for me too as she always has a smile for me and we both use pet names like dear and sweety.
I want to go to the next level with this girl, she is so sweet. But how do I ask her to take the next step, I don't think either of us would leave our spouses but a roll in the hay would be nice.

2006-11-01 14:26:20 · 12 answers · asked by AL 2

There is a friend of mine from work that i have become close with. We are getting to know each other, and we can talk about anything to each other. the problem is - HEs married with kids. He talks to me about problems that he has, and i dont think hes happy in his marriage. He wont leave because of the kids though. There is a strong sexual attaction between the two of us, and its hard to resist, even though i know its wrong. What do I do to keep out relationship friendly

2006-11-01 14:19:07 · 57 answers · asked by Love2teach 1

Has anyone ever had a lover that no one else compared to?? I'm 40 & I'm divorced. I've never slept around & I never will. I have had 2 serious relationships since my divorce & although each of these guys were nicer & more of a decent responsible person than my former husband, I was never as satisfied in the bedroom area. Has anyone else had this problem & if so what did you do?

2006-11-01 14:16:37 · 7 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5

i lost my job yesterday because the owner said that i was not a good fit for it, and there is really no place for me there, my fiance is blaming me and is being rude and even hostile towards me, i have sent my resume to as many jobs as possible today, and i told him this, but he is still mean to me. i cannot stand it anymore, pleae give me some advice. he should be more supportive and not so mean . seems like he should try to comfort me alittle (i'd settle for just a samll amount !)

2006-11-01 14:13:40 · 10 answers · asked by alc60156 1

For the past 9 months i've been going through a rough separation/divorce. I wasn't husband or father of the year, but i don't think i deserved to be crucified, or cheated on. Due to some heavy slandering, the ex has managed to get a restraining order and get me in trouble with my CO (military). Since then i've made up my mind to do my four years and get out; start over fresh. I have a year left. Recently i met this nice woman and we have been hanging out a while. At first she was merely a catharsis, but naturally it went further. She even took me to a concert recently for my birthday. She tells me that she loves me, but i have a problem believing that these days. I often refer to women as "the other side." As if i'm at war. She says that she is not going to try to force my hand on anything, but i sense otherwise. I'm not afraid of commitment; i'm just afraid of someone being able to destroy me and cut me off at the knees. I'll be leaving this place for good in a year. What do i do?

2006-11-01 14:10:20 · 16 answers · asked by Thomas K 3

Would you stay with the one who loves you or go back to the one you love?

why or why not? explain/\

2006-11-01 14:10:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 22 and my bf is 21.Should we get enaged after we both graduate and get a job?

2006-11-01 13:59:28 · 21 answers · asked by anne 1

My ex-husband is veberal & metally abusing our children when he call them he doesn't but grill's them about what we done & etc, he's got them so scared of him & his girlfriend that there afraid to talk to anyone he know what type of question to ask & just isn't acting like the caring father that he should be there so much hate in him & our kids are starting to bottle things up they won't even talk to me anymore, they are starting to hate there father. He has let his girlfriend control everything in his life, she has totally convience him I'm the problem & the kids would be off with them, their not married, they live with his parents, & she has drove a wedge between there father & me, i see how much hurt out kids are in right now I don't know what to do, I need a very good lawyer one that know how to play with these people & is a hard *** in the process, who can put this girlfriend in her place, I have tried everything to get alone with this girl but she is a very controling & a liar.

2006-11-01 13:56:29 · 9 answers · asked by mssassy0104 1

2006-11-01 13:48:23 · 12 answers · asked by lucy p 2

I receive a per diem traveling expense to be used for foor and lodging on the road. My wife seems to think that a judge will include my per diem as my gross salary. I know I read it before that per diem cant be included but cant remember where I read it.

2006-11-01 13:47:07 · 5 answers · asked by Mike S 1

2006-11-01 13:42:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

does it ever seem that your wife is all into it sometimes while being intimate,,,,and sometimes she could care less just wants to hurry up to get to sleep?

2006-11-01 13:41:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

exchanging emails & instant messages for months. finally, he calls me up & sends me SMS and asking if we could meet up because he wants to see me. first we had coffee then the second time we got together I remember him saying that he was nervous. I jokingly said, it's because you got other things on your mind. Then,I got really drunk after the first bottle of strawberry flavored vodka Ice that tasted so good. The effect of liquor kicked in only after the half of the second bottle. Felt sleepy. I got low tolerance level for alcohol. He drew me close and hugged me. It felt so right. But then he started kissing me but I resisted and told him no. He would pause & still holding me in his arms, he would continue kissing me again & one thing led to another. I cant believe how it got that far. This is the first time I cheated on my husband. There is the morality issues & also there is the pleasure that is derived from it. If your partner had been away, do you think you could've cheated too?

2006-11-01 13:39:44 · 26 answers · asked by janice 2

This is only for a mature adult discussion. My cousin has been dating this guy for 8 years. They have been living together for 7 1/2 years of the relationship. They are both in their late 30's. Every year during her birthday, Christmas, Valentine's day and so on, she looks forward to getting a ring. Her birthday was in August and she didn't receive a ring. Whenever this happens, she goes into what seems like a depression. I know she wants to get married so does her boyfriend but he keeps finding excuses and playing with her emotions. About a year in a half ago, he took her to a jewerly store to look at and try on rings but I think it was done only because she started talking about moving on her own. Just for a discussion, what do you think about such situations? If you are a man or woman, why wouldn't you marry someone you live with for some time? Would you (man or woman) give an altimatium to the individual who refuses to get married if you wanted marriage?

2006-11-01 13:37:03 · 15 answers · asked by Shay 4

Well a friend and I were trying to figure what a male mistress would be called. So if anyone could answer that I would appreciate it.

2006-11-01 13:32:37 · 19 answers · asked by babydove1821 2

2006-11-01 13:31:01 · 9 answers · asked by Stacey 1

He just opened up about it after a decade and has no intention of ending his many relations, knowing they are emotional infidelities, and in fact intends to develop more and strengthen both his current and future developing relationships.

2006-11-01 13:30:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-01 13:29:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I walked in on my husband in bed buck naked and this ***** ran into the bathroom wearing only panties, locked the door and would not come out and face me, so i beat the living crap out of my husband with HER high heel shoe. He claims that I was out of line in behaving so irrationally, he told me to get out! can you believe the man still claims he never cheated. He says they were going to, but that they did not. What a crock!! says they did not have sex, so therefore he has not cheated on me. I am pretty sure they were done when i arrived because he was like a limp penis, but even if they didnt, it is still cheating..totally cheated on me. do you all agree with me?

2006-11-01 13:27:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

then go take a shower(or whatever) and not turn it back or hand me the remote back

2006-11-01 13:27:10 · 4 answers · asked by Addie B 3

I do not feel like I can trust her, any advice?

2006-11-01 13:14:22 · 9 answers · asked by kristy 1

I am never going to date a pretty girl again. I have dated to of them in the last 2 months and they treat you like crap. They expect you to give them the world. Screw pretty girls. Im gonna go for the normal girls for now on. i hope they are a little less bitchy.

2006-11-01 13:13:09 · 40 answers · asked by 571234 6 1

We separated and when he asked if we could see other ppl, I said he could if he wanted to. I told him NOT to mess around with my best friend, they were friends too, so I was kinda paranoid. I asked him over and over if they were f***ing around and he said no. My "friend" finally told me they had been seeing each other for 2 months. I lost her, and now my husband and I are living together again, and it is killing me. He acts like nothing happened, he says he wants to "fix" things, but he goes around like its already fixed. I have to force myself to kiss him, force myself to let him hug me. I constantly bite my tounge to keep from saying all the bad things I feel towards him. I hate this, and he knows it, I told him how hard it is and how I hate him sometimes. We have been together 8 yrs, married 5. He never lied to me before, I know that's what everyone says about their guys, but it was true with him, he really was different. He has horrible social/communication skills, always has.

2006-11-01 13:07:43 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

Every time im with her i get scared and clam up and i just cany the words. She means the world to me and i wantto tell her but I'm afraid too. I fear that she may run from me if i say what i feel.

2006-11-01 13:06:35 · 8 answers · asked by rotiwiler 1

To the many who answered the previous question, thankyou. To clarify I never cheated on my wife (which is what some thought). I was one of those people who had to win nomatter what the cost or even if i was wrong. If i didnt agree with her I'd ignore it and do it my way. It wasn't always like this and we had some great times in our 3 and a half year marriage. She has left and despite all the hurt I've caused she still loves me. I am following afew programs to better myself, for me and, god willing for her. I would love her back in my life but i realise that this may not happen and it honestly kills me. She admitts that moving out will financially cripple both of us but because i will receive childcare payments, and get subsidised rent, she will be worse off. Just because I am trying to help her work out the money doesnt mean Im using that to make her come back. That has and always will be her choice. I just want some advice on how i can show her that I'm changing for the better.

2006-11-01 13:05:57 · 4 answers · asked by changedmanwanting 1

I have been married for 12 years. My husband has had 3 affairs. He claims he has no intentions of ever leaving me, I am his cherished and his one and only. He says that the sexual attraction or act are completely separate from the feelings he has for me.
Is this a guy thing? How many of you feel that you can be completely in love with your mate, and have extra "friendships" on the side that do not take away from your primary relationship?

2006-11-01 13:02:55 · 12 answers · asked by Curious 1

Did you think about them all the time?
What ended up happening??

2006-11-01 13:00:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous